What to Say & How to Say It

Dina walked on eggshells in her relationship with her brother, her dad, and her husband. Oh, yes, also her boss. What kept her from being honest when they asked for her input? She deferred so much she felt invisible in all of those relationships. Why couldn't she show up like she did with her friends or her work team? In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina & Shy explore what's really...

You KNOW that feeling... the dread, the gut twist, the thing that happens when we agree to do something we don't want to do because we're afraid someone else will have a fit. I've had it, too. It's lousy. And controlling. We waste time walking on eggshells, and over time, the relationship degenerates into something super unhealthy. Want to STOP that? Listen in to today's episode of What to Say & H...

We don't even know how control seriously damages relationships. We often think we are being helpful, but really, we are creating the exact OPPOSITE of what we really want! Listen in  today , as Nina talks about how to STOP being controlling, and let God do His thing! Check us out at  https://GreaterImpactCoaching.org  to learn more!

Matt kept hearing his boss in his head... "Kinda long presentation, don't you think?" Ruminations followed... doubt crept in... by the time he got home, he was in no mood to interact with his wife and kids. "What do you mean, I'm not pulling my weight? You think it's easy holding down a job in this competitive market? You have what you have because I slave away all day! You could be more grateful....

Stefan felt that familiar anxiousness welling from his gut to his throat as he listened to his coworker explain why the project was behind... and he wasn't right! ... Belinda's heart pounded and fear rose within her. How would her son get into a good college if he couldn't get the essays written on time? Maybe YOU have the urge to control or have to DEAL WITH someone else who does. Listen in as we...

Sitting across the table from her husband, Natasha realized his emotional words were about him, and NOT her. She spoke gently to him, "Sounds like you feel strongly about this and are hurting. What are you feeling right now, physically?" They then continued in a connecting conversation, putting an end to the argument. In today's episode, listen in as Nina takes a look at 5 things that get in the w...

Hearing his father's judgmental words caused Paul's chest to tighten, his pulse to race, and all he could do was stare at his Dad. He was frozen, couldn't move, couldn't speak. So much for the communication class he'd taken at work! Those conflict sessions seem to be ineffective at best. Sound familiar? Knowing how to navigate conflict without making it worse is a skill. And a process. If you don'...

Leesha looked at Stefan... Stunned. She couldn't believe he had just said what he did. Her heart pounded, her throat felt tight, and anger surged. She couldn't think straight, couldn't even focus on what he was now saying... Ever happen to you? All the communication skills in the world won't save you if you don't know this ONE thing that keeps you from falling into Leesha's shoes. We all struggle...

My 17 year-old son looked at me and said, "Everything you are doing right now makes me NOT want to do this... and I know I need to, but can you stop making this harder?" Stellar parenting moment, right? In business, we create this same experience through "micro management" where we communicate to our employees or coworkers that they can't be trusted and need to be treated as children. What to do i...

"I'm sorry, honey. I can understand how you could be upset, especially thinking your mom is being neglected. I've had a lot on my mind lately. I want to be here for you. But please don't accuse me of an affair. That feels like an assault on my character, and it hurts. Please talk to me about what's going on with you instead." Do you wish you could respond kindly to accusations? Join Nina as she ta...

I saw this speaker at a conference and thought, "WOW. He seriously actually KNOWS Jesus in a way I can relate to and want even more of!" So you know I had to interview him to share his insights with you. Want to know how to overcome shame and fear in your relationships? In this episode, Nina interviews author John Lynch. His books include The Cure, and On My Worst Day. Listen in to learn the secre...

Sandi stood in the line next to her 5th grade peers. Name after name was called by the two team captains. It was recess, and sighs of relief and angst, barely audible, pricked the playground air. Sandi knew she'd be called close to last, but at least Don was here today . He ran slower than she did and couldn't hit the broadside of a barn with a ball, even when he tried. She blushed at her judgment...

"He keeps throwing the 'D-Word' around, every time we have a disagreement!" Carola complained. "What do I do? What if he actually files?"    Knowing how to handle this isn't easy, but it's definitely worth doing. Join Communication Coach Nina Roesner for some tips on how to handle this damaging behavior on today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It!

"What do you think of these dishtowels?" she asked? "I married a woman that could make a decision, where did she go?" he replied.    OOF. Have you tried to serve the one you love like crazy? Do you know people who have lost who God made them to be while trying to make others happy? Today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It deals with losing your identity and how that can actually backfire in...

"Who do you think you are?" asked the semi-hostile voice on the other end of the phone.    "Excuse me?" Nina responded, confused, shocked, heart in her throat.    "Who do you think you are to start something, using a trademark and everything?" came the reply. Nina had given a presentation at a marriage retreat for the church she attended at the time, seven minutes, powerpoint, music, professional,...

Joanne stared, frozen in disbelief as her boss completely lost all composure, throwing papers and swearing. No one in the room seemed to know what to do, either. She hated this feeling of confusion. It happened when her husband yelled at their kids, or when her mother starting telling her what a disappointment she was to her. What could she do?   Playground and bar room strategies for handling con...

Joe wondered if his boss was embezzling money from the company. Carol suspected her husband was having an affair. Mike wondered if his teenage daughter was taking drugs. Should they say something?  Here are some things you should consider before you confront someone's sin on today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It! 

Various presenters shared their screens and problems were discussed in their quarterly company video conference. Carol noticed feeling uncomfortable when their VP of Marketing, Jason, chimed in. Carol's feelings of discomfort grew as he continued speaking. His approach was way out of line and she wasn't the only one uncomfortable with his language. She knew she had to say something, but what? How?...

Susan stood in the doorway looking at her husband sort the mail and pay bills. He finally looked up, noticing her, asking, "What's up?" "We ARE supposed to be having a date tonight, right?" she replied, annoyed that once again, she had to remind him. "Of course! Where do you want to go for dinner?" Annoyed, she rolled her eyes and walked away. It would be nice if he would carry the weight of the r...

Have you experienced a situation where it looked like trust has been broken? You thought the issue had been resolved years ago, but the evidence seems to point to the problem resurfacing? You wanted to believe the best of them, but now there is disappointment hurt, or even betrayal. What do you do?  Tune in to this week's podcast as Nina walks us through some steps on how we can inspire peaceful r...

Have you experienced a situation where you were caught off guard by someone's actions? You wanted to believe the best of them, but were feeling disappointed, hurt, or even betrayed?  "Hey honey. Everything okay at the gym? I expected you an hour ago and was getting worried," Rachel said as she placed a plate of eggs and toast in front of John. They had only been married a few months and it still f...

Are YOU making this common communication mistake? If you want to have real influence in someone's life, STOP doing this one thing that is sabotaging your relationships. Would you like to learn how to encourage others in a way that honors them and creates deeper connection? Then tune into today's podcast "What To Say and How To Say It" with Nina Roesner of Greater Impact.  

What to Say & How to Say It with Nina Roesner: STOP REACTING in conflict situations, and discover how to RESPOND instead! Conquer people-pleasing, establish boundaries - create authentic relationships!