What They Don't Say: Sexual Assault and Everything in Between

Shannon and her surprise guest "Code Monkey" talk about how to navigate relationships, sex, and traumaversaries after learning your partner has been sexually assaulted. They are answering the burning questions: How do I react after hearing this? Will I ever be able to use handcuffs during sex again? What does it mean to actually trust your partner? Dive into this intimate conversation about commun...

Lauren shares her story on how she was sexually assaulted. The ladies discuss how their perpetrator displayed immense manipulation skills, and was able to worm his way into their entire family who fell for his facade of a "true gentleman". Sharing your story isn't easy, but it can lead to healing and a sense of community. Here is Lauren's truth. Cheers! Get Educated: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.rainn.org/statisti...

Whether it's New Year's Eve or any festive gathering, facing large crowds can trigger anxiety for many whether you've experienced trauma or not. Lauren and Shannon share personal experiences and practical tips on navigating social anxiety in bustling party settings. From the buddy system to quick exits, join the conversation on coping strategies and finding comfort in the chaos. Cheers! Get Educat...

The amount of trauma you have been through is not a competition. It's not your fault if you are f**ed up, but it is your fault if you stay f**ed up. Lauren and Shannon cover a wide range of topics in this episode. From navigating the intricacies of expressing love in relationships to discussions on emotional withdrawal, they share advice on acting as a "unit" in relationships in order for them to...

Lauren shares an overview of her law presentation where she dives into pieces of the book Missoula: Rape & the Justice System in a College Town by Jon Krakauer. They have conversations about false accusations, the civil rape shield law, the burden of proof, and some legislative changes we believe should be made. Shannon also shares how the defense's desire to attempt to expose her sexual histo...

Lauren and Shannon know the holidays can be tough, so they are only here to help you feel a little bit lighter with this episode. Grab a drink with the ladies as they talk about the fun things of life: poop stories, Shannon's serial dating chronicles, Lauren's lack of cleanliness, some icks, and a whole lot more. Pour yourself something tasty to get you in the holiday happy spirit. CHEERS! (but on...

Lauren & Shannon answer a question from a listener, "What are your thoughts on sharing your story on social media?" Many people feel compelled to share their story after being sexually assaulted, but what is the best way to go about it? The ladies walk you through several questions to ask yourself before sharing your story and how to try and keep you and the people around you safe when doing s...

Victim or Survivor? On this episode, Lauren & Shannon talk about the complexities of what to call yourself after being sexually assaulted. Society can make you believe that one term is "better or worse" but the ladies are here to straighten out this complicated subject. Additionally, join Shannon on her truamaversary of being sexually assaulted, and Lauren forces her to read a journal excerpt...

Lauren & Shannon discuss the challenges of “what do I wear to court” and how societies paradoxical expectations of women feed into the stress of it. Then, what do you do when your rapist holds the door for you? Or when his mother talks to you in the bathroom? These are the impossible questions to answer but luckily for you both the ladies have gone through it! Lauren discusses how she dove rig...

Lauren & Shannon zoom out and talk about all things consent- from how it's hot to tackling what it means in general. The ladies discuss how Greek life and sports teams foster an environment that promotes rape culture and frequently miss the mark on respecting women. Plus, get the lowdown on a wild Yale frat story... it's quite the rollercoaster. Additionally, they dive into why schools need to...

On this episode, Shannon takes the podcast reins by herself to talk about what rape kits are, her personal experience getting one, and the importance of them. She details out each portion of the exam and includes a some pictures from the exam. This episode is a heavy one, but it's an important one. Cheers! Know your rights: https://risenow.us/ More on rape kits: https://www.endthebacklog.org/what-...

Today the ladies embark on a data-driven exploration of sexual assault. They discuss a new law that has been passed in California, some very disconcerting statistics, and why they think these stats are the way they are. If you’re someone who thinks rape and sexual assault aren’t very common… think again. Grab yourself an ice cold glass water and wake your ass up. Cheers! Resources mentioned in thi...

On this episode, the gals chat about having booty bad days where you click the "void" button on all your plans, they read a comment from a listener, and discuss triggers and flashbacks. Buckle up and grab a drink, as Lauren & Shannon share their personal triggers, how to handle them, and what the heck they mean. Cheers! Get Educated: www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence Got questio...

In this episode, Lauren and Shannon dive into the world of music and how it can help you navigate the rollercoaster of emotions after trauma. They chat about how intense wubbzzz can mimic your inner turmoil. The girls get real about the daunting task of telling your parents. Shannon reveals her less-than-ideal discussion with her mom and the complexities of alcohol in her story that created an ina...

On this episode, Lauren & Shannon dive into their "trial files" aka the very beginning of the court process. They share details of their OSI (office of Special Investigation) interviews, the nuisances of military time, mean defense attorneys, and understanding you will constantly be lost in a sea of legal jargon. Bottom line is resiliency and bad bitch energy is key to survival. Cheers! Get Ed...

On this episode Lauren does a 180 on the narrative she's been telling herself about her situationship. She offers advice on being honest with yourself in relationships by being more self aware. Shannon shares being 'super glued' to one person post-sexual assault and how it's totally normal and okay... and can even have it's benefits. Together, they dish out tips for telling partners about past tra...

Today the ladies discuss how hooking up with men on vacation is like going on an excursion, how situationships do not mean exclusivity, how only ugly men hit on Shannon at bars, and why no matter how you react after being sexually assaulted the defense will still make you look terrible in court and you will get screwed. Get Educated: www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence Got questions?...

Lauren & Shannon kick off What They Don't Say by normalizing crying during sex, talking about how college girls have to survive not thrive, and how being emotionally vulnerable might make you want to poop your pants. Get Educated: www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence Got questions? Have an episode idea? Send us an email: WhatTheyDontSayThePodcast@gmail.com Instagram: www.instagram....