WE'RE NOT GOING BACK

How about if WE practiced, tried on, the thought “if I loved YOU” I would allow you to BE who YOU are, and I would love you AS you are? But honestly, this can be one of the HARDEST thing you (we’ll) ever do. BUT would that not be such a liberating a concept for all of us to experience, and embrace when it comes to dealing with each other? Like feeling really free to BE who we are, and DO what we r...

If you've ever wondered why things in your life just keep going wrong… rest assured, nothing has gone wrong!   The FIRST problem, when everything (or things) seem to always be going wrong is… just us thinking that they are.   Let’s be clear though that I am not talking about when something like an accident happens (example) and you need to recover from injuries sustained, or something similar,...

Knowing that nothing has gone “wrong” with your life is a huge deal! It was for me, when I became aware of this fact and started to understand my thoughts.   I used to think SO much had gone wrong in life __ (and sometimes I still do if I let my guard down), __ but it only kept me from owning MY choices, __ my power, from using my gifts, from growing and deliberately evolving, __ and from moving f...

The reason we’re talking about this is because: When we look at our pain/hardships in this more “positive” way… -- things are easier to overcome -- life itself is better -- we don’t pile all the “bad” up… “and my this, and my that… sigh”   Life is better because we’re thinking… -- “even though this is so hard, it’s happening for me” instead of why is this happening “to” me?? -- living life in this...

We can be either happy or sad, without changing anything, except our thoughts. Whether you think something is good or bad, there will be others who think the opposite, and you yourself may change your mind about it later, to the contrary.  I love having the knowledge that just by my thinking I can improve my situation at any given moment! “For there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking make...

How long can one be perpetually contented anyway, or in a “perfect” anything? Like no darkness, only sunshine 24/7/365! I love the Spring, but I wouldn’t give up all the other seasons and have it be Spring year-round. We need change, even when it could mean extreme heat or cold. It’s nature. How many couples do you know who have a “PERFECT” marriage 24/7 since day one? I don’t know a single one! N...

Excuses we use/I’ve used to not do what we want to do. Very often when we “have” to do something… like go do a job we don’t like, we do it. But then when we want to do something we let circumstances get the best of us!   Here are a few: Not enough time… this is my excuse when it comes to reading “I read too slow” I tell myself… my solution, Audible!! What’s your excuse, and what’s the solution?  N...

Are the stories of your life helping you grow or holding you back? Some, not all, of our stories come mostly from our upbringing, our relationships, and our circumstances. And to a point, shaped our personality. But in reality our personality does not need to be permanent… grumpy, short-tempered, rude, inpatient… etc.   So if you ever find yourself listening to stories like “I can’t do that”, “I’m...

Be the ONE with the greener “grass”! As we become disenchanted with our husbands, we start thinking about the grass being greener elsewhere. Try refocusing on what you love about your husband.   Wives often throw in the towel… they’re done too early. Treat your husband ONLY as you want him to be, and there's no way he won't become it.     IMPORTANT: If you are in an abusive marriage/relati...

Wish I had known long ago that my thinking (not on purpose) was creating my life! If you’re unhappy with any area of your current life, might be for you.   Listen to find out more about: Learning from your surroundings, in relationships, marriage, professionally, or life in general.   Is anything in currently in your life (you can change) contributing to you not being where you want to be?   I hav...

Did you know there’s a “wheel” where you can assess what’s causing you problems in life?  I did not know that, but when I learned this it made so much sense!   If you’ve been struggling in certain areas of your life, this is for you.    When we look the areas that make our life what it is, we can examine if we’re neglecting any of these areas, which in turn create problems in other areas.   And wh...

Ever felt indebted to someone because they did something nice for you? Or felt like someone didn’t do something nice for you in return? No worries, most of us do or feel that way at time… but there’s a way to not do that any more. The law of tithing talks about how we will be blessed by obeying this law, but it does not say we will get back exactly what we gave, from the same people we gave to. It...

Often you hear that it’s not what we say, but what we do that shows our true feelings. Often we focus on the pettiest of things, or on inaction, to judge what others are feeling. But too often we miss the important things (actions) that mean true love. But we can choose what we focus on. What we focus on grows, IN us and AROUND us, so let’s focus on what we want more of. Focusing on others’ best q...

Gift giving, and receiving in general, can be tricky, difficult, and sometimes even downright not a good experience. Nowadays a lot of us are opting to have less “stuff” anyway. People who truly know me know that I am NOT a good gift RECEIVER, or giver… I get overwhelmed by the process. My “gift” expectation, from anyone, including my husband… is ZERO. If I ever need something I let people know, I...

“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” - C.S. Lewis (suggested by my husband for a podcast topic)   How do we go about changing our end? Have a listen… hope you like it. I love this quote because it reminds us that all is not lost, and that we have a great deal of control over the shaping of our future. The past plays a part in our life...

A happily EVER after would only be possible, and very boring, if we could completely manipulate and control the other person… but WHO will do the controlling?? Come give this episode a listen and let’s see if you agree with me. When we expect life and marriage to be 100% happy we set ourselves up for disappointment. It would be like wanting to lie by the pool the entire summer and expect to never...

1) 22%-70% of single mothers live below the poverty line in the USA, compared to 4.2% of married families. 2) Children are more likely to experience emotional and mental health behavioral issues when going through a divorce. 3) Kids are more likely to be engaged in fighting and theft when being part of a divorced household. 4) Abuse is 6x higher in a blended family or when a step-parent is involve...

You’d think that the more experience you have in marriage, the better the chances of avoiding divorce, right? Not so! So here are the things I didn’t know back when my first marriage was falling apart, or when my second marriage seemed to be headed in the same direction and before I discovered life coaching… Not therapy or marriage counseling, but life coaching! I had not read "The Vortex" by Esth...

All things I wish I knew before my first marriage ended in divorce. You’re welcome! 1.  ALLOW your husband to be the man he was born to be… what is innately manly, for him. Allow him to DO for you… open your door, pay for dinner, be a provider, be your protector. 2.  Be in feminine energy, practice receiving any and all the things he wants to give you. 3.  Don’t mother him… when we...

Here are just a few of my takeaways on courtship after marriage… may your courtship never end! It’s the little things that make a big difference – what you say to your spouse and how you say it You can end up marrying the wrong person, but treat them right and you end up with the right person. More important than marrying the right person is BEING the right person. There are going to be difficulti...

Attention wives… don’t fall into the “ perfection ” trap in marriage. Happy doesn’t mean “perfect.” If you have a “perfect” marriage, I am thrilled for you, and may that never end! However, if the “perfect” in marriage thing has been lacking in your marriage, this is for you. This happened to me, too, TWICE before, and it almost cost me a second marriage! I fell into the “perfection” trap! Marriag...

A life without obstacles is mundane, boring, uneventful, and who wants that? It’s ACTUALLY life’s obstacles that grow us as humans. Adversity creates the best memories! When we have a life without obstacles, even a “good” life, nothing to work through, no accomplishments, or nothing to overcome, it feels rut-like. When you have an argument with your husband, aren’t you just so looking forward to t...

You, yes YOU… are still your husband’s heart’s undoing!! In my 60 years of life I’ve seen plenty of evidence that men still love their wives even when the wives think otherwise. In fact, in most divorces, it’s the wife that initiates the divorce, not the husband. So what happens for us to think that? … Maybe we forgot, or better yet we never knew that truly we were, and still are his heart’s undoi...

If you’ve ever found yourself not being happy with your current life, or areas of your life, and you have wondered...  “What can I do about my current situation?” This is for you. Or if you’re like I was… do you even know to ask yourself the right questions?  I didn’t know I had options in my life! Too many of us feel we’re…  Not educated enough… a lot of people think this ·  F...

Ever known people who seem to often be grumpy, moody, easily fly off the handle, blame everyone for everything all the time? They’re rude to the waitress, the cashier, have road rage? So are THEY the problem, or are his circumstances the problem? So let’s apply this to when LOVED ones become OUR problem… We don’t usually have a problem when excited about something… why?? Sick or unhappy thoughts b...