We're Dating the Same Guy

It's so easy to get swept away in early dating when you're texting nonstop and spending all your free time together, slowly drifting from friends and hobbies . But what if dating could ADD to your life instead of becoming your whole life? Welcome to Season 2 of We're Dating the Same Guy! After a wild weekend in Vegas that felt like a movie scene, Madden shares how to not get lost in an...

What if the key to lasting love isn't chemistry or compatibility—but conscious engineering? In this episode, Madden sits down with relationship coach Scott Wild, whose background as a software engineer gives him a radically different lens on relationships. Scott helps us understand how to build partnerships that don't just survive—they actually thrive through intentional design. EPISODE TI...

In the season 1 finale of We're Dating the Same Guy, host Madden sits down with fellow podcaster Alexis to break down the movie "The Materialist" and what it reveals about modern dating patterns, attachment styles, and the choice between financial security and emotional connection. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 - Season 1 reflection and podcast journey 05:30 - The Materialist movie discuss...

Tired of feeling anxious and insecure in your relationships? In today's episode, relationship coach and spiritual guide Kevin Crenshaw reveals why your dating patterns might be rooted in a deeper spiritual search - and how cultivating a relationship with God can transform the way you love. Kevin shares his raw journey from being a chronic people pleaser whose first three relationships ended in...

Are you tired of dating emotionally unavailable men? In this vulnerable conversation, sex and relationship therapist Joe Molinari breaks down why so many men struggle with emotional availability and what you can do about it. Joe shares his personal journey from emotional avoidance to vulnerability, explaining how childhood conditioning creates patterns that pull men away from connection. We explor...

Would you go on a first date without alcohol? 39% of singles now say yes—and it's changing everything about modern dating. In this raw conversation, Alex Zauner (founder of Lucille's alcohol-free experiences and 11 years sober) reveals why removing liquid courage creates deeper connections and better relationships. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 - Opening: The first date question that changes eve...

Dave from Love is Blind Minneapolis gets real about what happens when the cameras stop rolling. In this raw conversation, we dive into vulnerability in dating, trusting your intuition, and how reality TV changed his approach to relationships forever. If you've ever wondered what it's like to fall in love on national television and then learn even more about yourself in the process, this ep...

Ever wonder why you keep dating the same type of person? Brazilian brain health coach Fabiana breaks down the neuroscience behind dating patterns and reveals how your brain creates the relationship cycles you find yourself stuck in. EPISODE TIMELINE: 3:18 - Meet Fabiana: From Ipanema Beach to brain coaching 8:45 - Your brain on patterns: The survival machine explained 15:20 - Breaking down the amy...

What happens when a man realizes he's the guy women don't want to date and completely transforms himself? In this raw conversation, dating and embodiment coach Tyler shares his journey from being disconnected and sabotaging intimacy to helping high-value women date differently. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 - Introduction: When men realize they're the problem 04:15 - Tyler's transformati...

Are you calling everything a red flag in dating? Dating coach and therapist Michelle O'Connell joins host Madden to decode the difference between red flags, yellow flags, and green flags in modern dating. Learn why your nervous system might confuse healthy partners for boring ones, how past trauma affects your ability to recognize good partners, and the subtle patterns that show up months into...

Transform your dating life through the ancient art of Tantra. In this episode, sex and relationship therapist Julie shares how tantric principles can help you break toxic dating patterns and create deeper, more authentic connections. EPISODE TIMELINE: 04:22 - Welcome & Julie's Introduction 07:34 - Julie's Unique Journey: From Yoga Pioneer to Sex Therapist 13:07 - Working with Gopher Fo...

In this raw and intimate conversation, real couple Allison and Anthony share their 7-year journey from a casual Tinder meetup in a Costco parking lot to building a conscious, choice-based relationship. They open up about the difference between falling in love and choosing love daily, how they've navigated living in 5 different states together, and what it really takes to grow individually whil...

Have you ever considered that dating could be a form of meditation? In this transformative episode, KC Baker (founder of WomanSpeak and creator of Velvet Flow) shares her groundbreaking approach to conscious dating that will change how you truly think about relationships. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 - 02:30 - Introduction & Episode Setup 02:30 - 07:15 - Guest Introduction & Background 07:15 -...

Dating coach Joe Stroud pulls back the curtain on the male experience in modern dating. From why men seem emotionally checked out to the real dynamics shaping attraction, this conversation explores what happens when both men and women drop the performance and connect from truth. If you've ever wondered why dating feels so disconnected, this episode reveals the patterns keeping us all stuck. EP...

Divorce is the second most painful life experience after losing a loved one - yet men's emotional journey through this grief is rarely discussed. In this raw, honest conversation, divorce coach Addison breaks down the silent struggle that men face after relationship loss and why traditional masculinity makes healing so much harder. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 Intro: Why everyone needs to hear this 02:...

Tired of dating the same type of guys over and over? Your mindset might be the problem. In this episode, we dive deep into how the law of attraction shapes your dating life and explore the 4 toxic beliefs that keep you stuck in negative dating patterns. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 - Intro: Why We Keep Dating the Same Guy 01:45 - The Law of Attraction SparkNotes: Like Attracts Like 03:30 - The Infinity...

Why do you keep attracting the same type of partner? Why do you get triggered by things that shouldn't logically bother you? Why can you understand your patterns cognitively but still repeat them? In this deeply transformative conversation, trauma-informed coach Jakob reveals why your body holds the answers that your mind can't access. This isn't just another therapy approach - it'...

This powerful episode with Dr. Linnea Swanson, MFT and brain spotting trainer, explores how trauma becomes encoded in our nervous system and unconsciously guides our relationship choices. Learn why that "spark" might actually be a warning sign, how generational trauma impacts dating patterns, and practical strategies to rewire your brain for healthier relationships. Essential listening f...

Madden is joined by Kelly Chase who was on Season 1 of Love Is Blind. While her dating life played out in front of the world, what most people don’t realize is the massive transformation and evolution Kelly has gone through since the show aired. She’s built her own brand as a business and mindset coach, podcast host, and influencer— helping people find love, success, and money in a whole new way....

In this powerful solo episode, host Madden Zappa explores the complex emotions of being single, particularly in the aftermath of a breakup. She shares her personal journey of loving solitude while simultaneously experiencing post-breakup loneliness, highlighting the sometimes contradictory nature of singlehood. Madden challenges society's view that singlehood is merely a waiting period or a pr...

This episode explores the powerful and often misunderstood art of receiving. Receiving isn't passive but an active, intentional energy that can transform not just your dating life but every area of your existence. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 - Introduction and welcome 01:23 - Introducing Erin Nicole Porter and her expertise 03:48 - Defining the concept of receiving and self-abandonment 08:33 - How...

This episode is an invitation to think outside of normative relationships and even potentially lead you to question what we've been taught about love, commitment, connection, and relationships Polyamory and kink are often misunderstood or even stigmatized, but here’s the truth: the more we understand the spectrum of human desire, the more permission we give ourselves to date — and love — more auth...

What truly is the difference between anxious masculine energy and grounded masculine energy? And how do they both appear in relationships while dating: Madden sits down with Jen Briggs to explore the crucial differences between anxious and grounded masculine energy in dating. One type feels magnetic, intense, and immediate, while the other feels steady, intentional, and secure. They discuss how to...

What happens when ambitious, driven, independent women meet modern dating culture? In this episode Madden sits down with Caprisha, a breakthrough advisor for purpose-driven women, to discuss the unique challenges high-achieving women face in dating and relationships. They explore what it really looks like to soften without shrinking, to receive without lowering your standards, and how powerful, in...

If you’re tired of dating on repeat and wondering why you keep attracting the same type of partners, this episode is for you! Attachment styles play a major role in how we show up in relationships—how we connect, how we handle conflict, and even why we push people away (or cling too tightly). Today, I’m joined by Tori McCabe, LMFT , a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in attachme...