We Can Do Hard Things

In Part 2 of this Abby conversation, Abby shared the greatest gift she’s ever received. In this Part 3, we dive into: exactly what happened that magical morning from Abby, Glennon, and Amanda’s perspective; Craig’s reaction; and why it was that singular moment that Abby finally felt fully loved and chosen. If you haven’t listened to Part 1, check it out here: Episode 188 Abby Wambach: Will I Ever...

In Part 2 of our deeply personal interview with Abby, she reveals for the first time: 1. Her romance with an unrequited love – someone who strung her along hopelessly for years; 2. Her anguish and rebirth after being arrested; 3. Her sense of loss when being crowned FIFA Player of the Year;  4. Her divorce after fighting for marriage equality – inside her own family and on the public stage; and  5...

This is the one!   Our favorite person on the planet – Abby Wambach – is going deep, answering the questions that we all have, but that only Glennon and Amanda can ask.   Abby shares, in an intensely new and courageous way, about her lifelong pursuit of love – including her complicated relationships with her mom, soccer, her first marriage, queerness, and her “shadow self” – and why she has questi...

1. How to listen to the signals our bodies give us, and other concrete strategies to hold on to being human. 2. The healing power of honoring and reconnecting with our little girl selves and with our Mother Earth. 3. How, if all else fails, we can practice presence and embodiment by talking to a house plant.   4. The traumatizing effect of purity culture, colonization, and assimilation, and how to...

GLORIA STEINEM – who dedicates her life to ensuring we know that we are not broken, but were born into a system intended to break us – lives in the DNA of millions who are giving birth to movements or to themselves. She reminds us why there’s nothing more radical than telling the truth of our lives, and listening to the truth of others’ lives.  She reminds us that leaving our lives unlived is no b...

We saw the film WOMEN TALKING and we couldn’t rest until we had the chance to speak with the genius who wrote, directed, and is nominated for an Oscar for it: Sarah Polley.  This conversation is about hope, survival, imagination, and revolution. It’s about burning it all down and building from the ashes.  Please listen to this conversation and then please watch the film. You will be powerfully cha...

1. Why no one talks about the complicated feelings of freedom after the death of a toxic loved one. 2. How Jennette’s mom enforced extreme calorie restriction to control and bond with Jennette, and the moment her body finally said, No. 3. What led Jennette to step away from acting after her iCarly stardom, and why she doesn’t think “resilient” is a compliment. 4. How Jennette found herself still “...

1. Hard-won, joyful, practical wisdom from Bozoma’s exuberant life, and her lessons on how to overcome after enduring excruciating loss. 2. How big love and life can be when we are brave enough to be fierce and tender.  3. The rarely talked-about confusion and fear that often come with pregnancy.  4. Why love isn’t enough — and we all deserve a community surrounding our love. 5. Why Boz gave her h...

Glennon shares what she’s learning in therapy and what she feels we all could benefit from knowing – especially about wanting, yearning, fixing, and the next right thing.  If talk about eating disorders and mental illness helps: Listen today. If it triggers: Skip today. CW // eating disorders If you have an eating disorder, you may find the National Alliance for Eating Disorders a helpful resource...

In this Bonus episode, Amanda answers your follow-up questions: 1. How do you take care of the person who takes care of everyone else? 2. How do you find peace and closure when you will never know the story of what really happened? 3. The weird way Amanda can only relax when her husband gets fired up. 4. The strategy that now grounds Amanda when she is most activated and afraid.

1. Practical ways to make a friend and become what Dr. Franco calls a “Super-friend.” 2. How to address issues with a friend even if you hate conflict. 3. Why expressing anger is more likely to deepen a relationship than destroy it. 4. How we need to express vulnerability to make friends – but first, what the hell is vulnerability? 5. Destroying the unhelpful myth that friendship happens organical...

1. How your attachment style determines how you make – or don’t make – friends and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. 2. How Dr. Franco’s work helped Glennon make healthy adult friendships over the past year. 3. Why we’re lonelier than ever – and how that loneliness can make us sick. 4. Why platonic friendships are beneficial to the health of our romantic partnerships.  5. Learning to “trust the...

In this bonus episode, Glennon shares her “Sort Your Mail” rules for dealing with the inevitable criticisms you will receive from daring to say anything, do anything, or be anything. Learn to sort your mail so you can keep showing up!

Glennon and Abby interview their favorite person and co-host: Amanda Doyle! Examining the relationships, decisions, and travels that led her to today – from hitchhiking across Ireland, to prosecuting child sex offenders in Rwanda, to making the biggest decision of her life in an Ethiopian airport – they dive into Amanda’s lifelong fear of the ordinary. About Amanda: Amanda Doyle is Glennon Doyle’s...

Today we’re talking about how to build healthy relationships — with ourselves and others — after enduring toxic relationships with both. 1. Signs of emotional toxicity in romantic relationships – and what finally made Lily get out of her unhealthy relationship. 2. How to begin reprogramming your brain after leaving a toxic relationship in order to trust yourself and other people again. 3. The proc...

We can do hard things, and yet, sometimes we can try easier. Glennon, Abby, Amanda – and the Pod Squad! — share the strategies they’ve used to suffer less – giving us simple Life Hacks for relationships, home, tech, travel, and saving time.

1. Big and small ideas for what to let go of — so that we can all live freer this year. 2. The thinking trap that prevents us from creating new habits.  3. The heaven of resigning from the role of everybody’s problem solver.  4. What to say when folks say something offensive – so you don’t have “walk-away regret.” 5. How to know if you are an “overfunctioner” in a relationship – and how to change...

1. Mae, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda each explore their sexuality by delving into what sexually attracts each of them.  2. The sex-positive way Mae’s parents taught them about sex – and orgasm(!) – and how they never made assumptions about Mae's sexuality.  3. Gender as creative expression and a way to have fun. 4. Simple ways to switch up the monotony of routine; to transform boredom into exploratio...

Glennon shares more from the messy middle about how she knew she needed help and what we can all learn from her early recovery. If talk about eating disorders and mental illness helps: Listen today.   If it triggers: Skip today.   CW // eating disorders If you have an eating discover, you may find the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) hotline a helpful resource: https://www.nationaleati...

Before delivering her speech to mark today’s 50th anniversary of Roe, Vice President Kamala Harris decided to sit down with one community—The We Can Do Hard Things Pod Squad—to get real about: 1. Her first call, and how she really felt when she heard Roe was repealed; 2. Why she says the repeal is rooted in shaming women’s sexuality; 3. What’s at risk for birth control and fertility treatments; 4....

1. How to make peace inside your own head by getting to know your “parts.” 2. Why our “manager,” “firefighter,” and “exile” parts are running our lives – and how to get them to step back. 3. How Glennon is using Internal Family Systems in her eating disorder recovery process. 4. Understanding that the parts of you that you might struggle with most right now were originally developed by you to prot...

Dr. Becky Kennedy is back to help us understand Attachment Styles, how our past comes alive in our present – and how to free ourselves and raise freer kids. 1. Why attachment styles are at the heart of our most intense conflicts (in ourselves and with others).  2. How to rewire our original mental coding (75% of which is complete by age 3), so we can have more peace.  3. How our physical and emoti...

Following Glennon’s diagnosis, she, Abby, and Amanda go deep with Sonya Renee Taylor - author of The Body is Not an Apology – exploring the personal and global promise of Radical Self Love: 1. Examining the way we talk to our bodies – and how to change negative self-dialogue. 2. How to shift from a relationship with our body based on dominance and control to a relationship based on trust.  3. The...

This moving conversation delving inside the “wonderful, dangerous” mind of Tracee Ellis Ross covers: 1. Tracee’s go-to strategies to stop questioning herself, to pick herself up when she feels unlovable, and to tether herself to her truest self.  2. How she made peace with the fact that she’s “not everyone’s cup of tea” – and stopped trying to change the things about her that others don’t like (bu...

Glennon, Abby, and Amanda each share a No they are leaving behind – and a new Yes they’re bringing into their lives this year.