Walk On Podcast

Holding a grudge is often seen as a negative thing, but my grudges have always served me very well. For the codependent people-pleaser who cares too much what people think about them, a grudge can be a gateway to healthy boundaries, self-care, self-preservation, self-love, and walking away from what’s not meant to stay. Let the bridges you burn light the way to your highest good. And so it is.&nbs...

The ego is always protecting itself from death. One full-proof way of doing that is by projecting our internal issues outward. However, the truth is, that even when something seems to be external, the call is almost always coming from inside the house.

“It’s Never Personal” is a mantra that has helped me be more compassionate, more patient, and less conflict-averse–it’s also given me the awareness to walk on when someone’s struggle with themselves is causing harm to me without needing to hold onto resentment or blame. Everyone is fighting a war with themselves, everyone is living with their own wounds–some people are more destructive than others...

Considering the US became a “superpower” through genocide and slavery, its fascist leanings shouldn’t come as a surprise--but the selfishness and heartlessness of those who seek power over is always a tough pill to swallow. What used to be more covert (at least to some) is now expressing itself more clearly every day. Have we learned from history? Or are we doomed to repeat it?

The capitalist bandwagon support of the queer community is simply an empty-gesture-cash-grab and it’s annoying. But at a moment when LGBTQIA+ rights (as well as the rights of marginalized people across the board) are being threatened, it does feel nice to see a rainbow flag hanging up in a shop window. But is it enough? Let’s push it further than acceptance, let’s demand love–let’s push it further...

We are all running societal programs in our internal processing systems and the cishetero patriarchy is just one of them. The assumption that everyone is straight until proven queer is what leads to the necessity (and often trauma) of "coming out." This cis-hetero patriarchal program doesn't only hurt queer and gender nonconforming people, though, it sets impossible gender and relationships standa...

News of the death of a family member when you’ve gone no contact brings up complicated emotions. Since I went no contact, this has been my biggest fear and the thing that everyone brings up to try to guilt me into going back. It’s the thing people who’ve never had to cut off their toxic family can’t get past. Last week it happened, so I shared my feelings. It’s been a while since I cried on the po...

What is the opposite of shame? Pride! What is the opposite of hiding? Living out loud. What is the opposite of pretending? Authenticity. What is the opposite of oppression? Liberation. Freedom. Respect. Love. Happy Pride, beautiful soul family. To quote James Baldwin, “your crown has already been bought and paid for, wear it.” All power to all motherfucking people! 

The idea of “The Victim Complex” is often used as a weapon by abusers, oppressors, and people who wield power to suppress and silence the victims of that abuse/the people they hold power over. In these scenarios, who really has the victim complex? The one who is simply sharing their experience? Or the one who is gaslighting, deflecting, denying, and doing the most to not accept responsibility. To...

Too much rhetoric about The Law of Attraction is focused solely on individual capitalist-minded growth and not enough on the collective power we have when we channel our energy in the same direction. It is becoming increasingly important to present a united front and use all of our gifts, privileges, and knowledge to change course for the survival of humanity and to maintain our sacred stewardship...

The Law of Attraction is a belief that you can manifest what you desire by aligning yourself to it. This works on a simple, grounded, nonspiritual level in the sense that defining what you want is the first step to getting it–and once you name it, you can start moving towards it, one little step at a time. On a spiritual level, it’s a co-creation with the Universe, a surrender to what’s meant to b...

First, the Universe starts with a whisper, then escalates to a scream, then towers start crashing down, until one day you find yourself at the center of a hurricane–that is where we are now. People in power obviously have no interest in making the right, the loving, the conscious choice. All we have is each other. Action is the enemy of hopelessness, community is the enemy of isolation. Our separa...

Toxic Loyalty is a pattern that often starts in childhood with the family of origin. Codependent families, families in denial, or families that gaslight enforce mantras like “blood is thicker than water” or “what happens in the family, stays in the family.” There is a precedent of enmeshment and discouragement of speaking the truth. Walking away when harm is being caused is never modeled. A ride-o...

In part 1 we named the traits listed by Janet G. Woititz in her book Adult Children of Alcoholics and applied them to all adults with childhood trauma--this week we talk about how to go about healing them. Most patterns and strategies we developed to survive our chaotic childhoods start to manifest as dysfunction as adults. You can create safety, stability, fun, presence, affirmation, and love in...

Trauma plays out in patterns and many of these patterns are more Universal than the feelings of isolation we carry with us would have us believe. Here are some common ways that childhood trauma might show up in your life in adulthood. This week we're identifying them, next week we get into how to do the down n dirty work of healing. 

The Golden rule, like so many life lessons we impart to children, we forget as adults. We become self-absorbed, cynical, and resentful of one another and that comes out in our behavior. What would happen if we could see the innate flawed humanity and perfect divinity in one another? What if we could take our fellow living beings into our hearts as parts of ourselves? What if we were to soften the...

Communication is key, but it’s also tough. When we’re communicating with people we love or people we work with, our fears, traumas, and insecurities can flare up because the stakes feel really high. Slow it down, breathe it out, ask for what you need, and communicate from a mindful and productive place of love, respect, and not winning , but simply wanting to solve the problem at hand.

So much about how we are conditioned to view romance is rooted in a lack of choice–time and again we are shown examples of love in media that are beyond choice, bigger than the will of anyone involved. In real life, this can be a toxic motivator for people to get (or stay) involved in unhealthy situations, it can be a notion used by abusers to justify the unstable nature of these back-and-forth re...

Violating consent is a process of objectification, dehumanization, and disrespect--yet we live within a system that requires us to put up with this violation daily. Conversations around consent require vulnerability, honesty, and an ability to receive another's truth without defensiveness or judgment--but when survival asks us to put our vulnerability aside, to stifle and numb our feelings, how ar...

Wars have been around as long as humans have, but that doesn't mean they're correct, natural, or unavoidable. If everyone set their intentions on healing the greed of the ego, we may no longer need to fight over imaginary things like ownership of land, money, or even access to resources. The impulse to hoard and make scarce what should be abundant, of always wanting more at any cost, and of disres...

Complex-PTSD is something most people walking this planet struggle with–emotional flashbacks and dysregulation, attachment trauma, addiction, guilt, shame, and low self-love. The good news is, there is no shortage of ways to heal and feel better. Here is a list of tools that have worked for me along my journey. What has worked for you?

“Life is short” is such a cliché that it's all but lost all meaning, but that doesn’t make it any less true. Your path in this life is unique, it's perfectly tailored for your infinite soul to experience what it needs to learn, to grow, and to find liberation–not to be perfect, not to succumb to “supposed to,” and certainly not to suffer. Let go. Just be. Live your one wild and precious life.

Existing within a system that operates on the condition that you will sacrifice what you want in order to meet your material needs, and growing up in toxic family systems that reinforce those expectations in order to receive love, knowing what you want can be a struggle. Even once you come to terms with what you want, owning it is another skill entirely. 

Self-Sabotage is something that we do unconsciously, but that doesn’t mean it's unfixable! The root of this subconscious impulse is unworthiness and the first step to healing it is awareness. How do we make the unconscious conscious? How do we let ourselves have what we want?

Unrequited love (also known as limerence) is something that most people experience in their lives, so much so that people in Medieval times had a word for it; courtly love. People who struggle with attachment issues experience limerence more often, and more intensely than people with healthy attachments (who are usually more drawn to people who are equally drawn to them). If you’ve dealt with the...