Ven.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma Talk

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2021. 7. 11 🔹Question: Thank you so much for taking my question. In listening to past Dharma talks, I heard Sunim describe or talk about developing empathy for those who have created suffering in our lives as a way of overcoming attachment to the past and suffering in the present. Part of what I'm working through is particularly horrific kind of abusemthat I gre...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (July 11, 2021) 🔹Question: My father has been violent to me physically and verbally. He hit me and my mom. He always told me you should play a role of a boy. I couldn’t have built basic trust to people and life seems very absurd and unjust. I was diagnosed as depression 15 years ago and another mental diseas...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2024. 11. 3. 🔹Question: Questioner)Hello, Sunim. Nice to see you again. Can you hear me, everyone? Yes? OK, good. I drew a map here. My dad lives here, and my sister lived over here. This is north. My dad wants me to move there to this house. He sat me down when I was over at his place last weekend. But I don't want to move there. I'll just admit that. It wo...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2022.12.18 🔹Question: Thank you for allowing me to ask a question. My daughter is going through a divorce, and she is separated from her husband about two months ago. They had agreed to share caring for their 13 year old son and 11 year old daughter by alternating weeks. My grandson refused to stay with his mom when she lived with me, but he said that when she lives...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2022. 10. 09 🔹Question: I'm very honored to ask the question, and thank you very much. In June of this year, my dad passed away. We installed a memorial tree and a memorial bench in the honor of my dad to help my grieving mom. My dad was cremated. At the time, we didn't know what to do with his ashes. Recently, my mom wanted to bury his ashes to a cemetery....

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2024. 7. 9 🔹Question :   Thank you for taking my question. Wespend a lot of time, money, and effort on our kids, or example, on private school, extra curriculum classes, music, and sports. As parents, we are working very hard to support all of these. And we hope that our time, money, and efforts are well spent, and the kids would appreciate it by fully utilizing the...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2024. 7. 9 🔹Question :  Good morning, Sunim. It's good to see you. Ihave a family-related question today. My mother, who lives alone, would like to sell her home and move to a new house. However, she has a lot of difficulty making decisions, and she's fearful of change. As a result, she suffers from anxiety. My sister has been the main person helping my moth...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim(October 3, 2021) 🔹Question : In my family I feel like I’m being sort of annoying to them and I’m not doing enough for them. Usually even if they tell me that I’m doing fine, there’s some part of me that thinks that I’m just being annoying to them and I’m not doing good for them. I just want to know how I can...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2014.11.8 🔹Question : Hi, It is really nice to meet you. I am a Korean who moved to the United States about four years ago. I have a husband who is a Jewish- American and I am a Korean. I wanted to ask you what kind of effort I can make to make a peaceful and loving family in terms of raising children for the family.   🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to " I Don’t Want to Live InCanada Just Because of My Husband." Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at UBC (Oct. 3, 2017) 🔹Question: I have a really personal question to ask you. I was born, educated, and worked in Korea. I came here to study temporarily and I fell in love with a guy, who’s Canadian and was born and educated h...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Bethesda ChevyChase Regional Service Center in Washington D.C. (September 18, 2019) 🔹Question: It’s been 15 years since I got married and my daughter is 12 years old. Just hitting the beginning of teenager age. Before I even resolved my relationship with myhusband, things that I do not agree with, like his personality-wise...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s DharmaQ&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Bethesda ChevyChase Regional Service Center in Washington D.C. (September 18, 2019) 🔹Question: Hi! My father lives in California. He’s older, he’s disabled. He’s not very healthy. And he’s really strong in his faith in Christianity. So he has a really strong beliefsthat president Trump is there because God put him there. And...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A August 14, 2021 🔹Question : My husband and I have been looking after his 87-year-old mother with dementia for the last 6 years. We both had to give up our jobs to look after her in her own home. She does not want to go to a nursing home. This has affected our marriage as well as our physical and mental health. We have asked for help from my husband’s older brother b...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2021. 4. 5 🔹Question : Hello Sunim, Thank you very much for this precious opportunity, I have been watching your videos for many years. I’m from Sweden and right now I’m in Taiwan learning Chinese. I have been separated from my son since 2009 due to perjury. From 2009 until now I have no contact whatsoever with my son. I do not know how he lookslike now. In 2014, th...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A September 19, 2021 🔹Question : I get extremely stressed living with my mother and my husband because of their differences, and also from having to care for my mother-in-law who has cancer. The thing that stresses me a lot is the fact that my mother is helping too much around the house. Now that my mother-in-law is living with us, the amount of work that she’s doing...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2023. 12. 19 🔹Question : (Questioner)I translated my question into English using Google Translator. So, please understand that it may be a bit awkward for other audience members. My question is...first, thank you for your valuable time. I know that this opportunity to ask questions is rare, like today. I thought carefully about what questions I would ask. I have man...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2022. 2. 19 🔹Question : Hello Sunim. I live in Torrance, California. Thank you for giving me this opportunity to ask you a question. I have a sister who lives with her husband in country side inKorea. They used to be very rich but they lost all their fortune during IMF,so now, their financial situation is rather precarious. They have a son who is in mid 40s. He live...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2019. 12. 3 🔹Question :Bottom of Form I’m recently looking to change careers. And due to incidents with my current living situation, I ended up moving back home with my parents. And it has been very interesting to be once again home and as a master role, a daughter, and not an independent person who is capable of doing whatever I would like, whenever I would like, w...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A October 10, 2021 🔹Question :Bottom of Form My wife and I married a few moths ago, but we’ve been seeing each other for a few years even before then. My question is she has a demanding career, and as a result, she’s stressed from trying to meet both her own and outside expectations. Is there any recommendation or advice as her partner. How I can support more effectiv...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A October 10, 2021 🔹Question : My mother seems like a very negative person. She tends to criticize and finds something bad in almosteverything and everyone. She doesn't seem to appreciate anything or anyone in her life. I see this makes everyone around her suffer, but especially herself. But I know she can not and will not change by herself. How should I make peac...

🔹Ven. Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A   Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (Aug. 28, 2023)  🔹Question: I'm a mom of a five year old boy. I filed a divorce when my son was 14 months old. Then I went through an extremely high conflict divorce litigation over three years. My son has been living back and forth between my house and his father's ever since. He does not hat...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (July 19, 2021) 🔹Question : I want my kids not hating me when I walk away from their mother for a divorce. What is the buddhist's way to deal with this? 🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism): https://www.jungtosociety.org/jungto-dharma-school-online-course/   🔻 Find more at the following link...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2023. 11. 2. 🔹Question : We, as most people, are now living in such fast paced societies, and are so much focused on just one thing, and forget what's really important in our lives. For example, we can be focused on earning money and live almost not knowing what our priority is, like health, family, or even our own happiness. I want to ask Sunim, "In that c...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2023.5.5. 🔹Question : I wonder why the Buddha didn't return to secular or home life after attaining enlightenment, but continued to live as a homeless and build his monastic order. Couldn't he have tried to become a good king, like honorable, generous, and wise one who really watch out for his people? Was it because he knew that it would be so hard or imposs...

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to " The Balance Between Our Own Happiness And Other People’s Happiness” Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Google (Nov. 10, 2014) 🔹Question : I’m not sure if you are suggesting that appiness is sort of the state that we should ideally be seeking. But if it is, I think to the people that I know who are the happiest and they are...