Dan & Renee

Vanilla with a Side of Kink

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Welcome to the Vanilla with a Side of Kink. Winner 2024 W3 Award: Podcast Lifestyle Category Winner 2023 W3 Award: Podcast Diversity, Equity & Inclusion 2023 Webby Award Honoree Lifestyle Podcast 2023 Nominee People's Choice Podcast Awards: Society & Culture and Leisure This podcast is one couple's journey into the world of kink and polyamory. It's a podcast for all you normal Joe citizens who are be-bopping around the world out there, who have some questions and some curiosities about things you don’t even know that you want to know about. Maybe you are looking to add some spice to your c...

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Dan & Renee

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29. Dan FINALLY Finds A Use For Peas 17.07.2023 27:49

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Dan and Renee recount events in both the Kinkdom and Vanillaland during the month of September and October of 2023. They reflect on how much they had happening in all aspects of their life, and you'll just have to listen to understand the title. Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about...

28. Lessons Learned, Lessons Taught 10.07.2023 32:17

Send us Fan Mail Dan and Renee talk about all the many lessons they learned and the many lessons they taught back in the early days of All Tied Up San Diego. Much of their curriculum shook up the status quo and ruffled a few feathers. Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about our Shibari Rope Bondage business at www. AllTied...

27. Let's Get All Tied Up San Diego! 03.07.2023 32:26

Send us Fan Mail Did we mention that we host one of Southern California's largest Shibari Rope Bondage groups? In this episode, you will hear how that came into being amid all the other relationship struggles you have heard about over the past nine episodes. Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about our Shibari Rope Bon...

26. Who Let The Dogs Out? Who? Who? Who? Who? Who? 26.06.2023 29:45

Send us Fan Mail Who you asked? Take a guess . . . Ka-Thunk! In this episode, Dan's actions show his commitment as he moves himself into Renee's house. However, they both discover how different they are from one another and how many things need to change for Dan to stay. Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about o...

25. Deflating Mattress, Coin-Op Shower, and a Whip Circle 19.06.2023 31:04

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Dan and Renee go Kinky Camping! Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about our Shibari Rope Bondage business at www. AllTiedUpSanDiego.com And our new operation, the All Good Things Center for Inclusivity and Acceptance. Fetlife.com Group: Vanilla with a Side of Kink - The Podcast

24. Pride and Injured Pride 12.06.2023 31:02

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Dan and Renee recount their first experience volunteering at the San Diego Leather Realm at the San Diego Pride Festival in July of 2015. Then they share life & relationship-defining moment in their journey. Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about our Shibari Rope Bondage business at w...

23. Heeere's Primal Panic! 05.06.2023 35:44

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Renee explains her mind-blowing realizations about her struggle with polyamory. And they have yet again, another relationship change! Book References: The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-monogamy. Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory, And Letting Go. By Lola Phoenix. A Happy Life in an Open Relationship. The Essential Guide to a Healthy and Fulfilling N...

22. Holy Ethical Complications, Batman! 29.05.2023 33:44

Send us Fan Mail Dan and Renee take a deeper dive into Consensual Nonmonogamy (CNM) as they look at how their relationship works and how it wouldn't. Book References: The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-monogamy. Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory, And Letting Go. By Lola Phoenix. A Happy Life in an Open Relationship. The Essential Guide to a Healthy and Fulfilling Nonmonogamous L...

21. Remove Those Rose-Tinted Glasses 22.05.2023 29:56

Send us Fan Mail With Dan's change in behavior, Renee starts touring him around, including meeting the parents. They learn about anchors and knowing the reasons why. Book References: The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-monogamy. Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory, And Letting Go. By Lola Phoenix. A Happy Life in an Open Relationship. The Essential Guide to a Healthy and Fulfillin...

20. Dan Goes to the Dogs 15.05.2023 30:18

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we find our hero (Dan) trying to accept many changes and not handling them as well as expected. Renee has to make a decision that might send a mixed message. And the bus ride continues that has Dan earning his lumps. Book References: The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-monogamy. Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory, And Letting Go. By Lola Phoenix. A Hap...

19. Ka-Thunk, Ka-Thunk, the Bus Ride Begins! 08.05.2023 31:42

Send us Fan Mail As Dan and Renee explore life as Friends with Benefits, the friends side takes a twist, and Renee goes into protective mode! The wheels on the bus start running over Dan as he navigates a new relationship poorly. Books References: The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-monogamy. Your GuideTo Open Relationships, Polyamory, And Letting Go. By Lola Phoenix. A Happy Life in an Open Re...

18. Friends with Benefits 01.05.2023 33:07

Send us Fan Mail Dan and Renee are now broken up (well, Renee broke up with Dan), and now they start to navigate life as Friends with Benefits! This change has a profound and dramatic effect on both of them. Books References: The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-monogamy. Your GuideTo Open Relationships, Polyamory, And Letting Go. By Lola Phoenix. A Happy Life in an Open Relationship. The Essent...

17. Season Finale - Renees Conclusion 24.04.2023 33:27

Send us Fan Mail This episode concludes Renee's origin story, including explaining how she came to meet Dan at the comic book store those many years ago. And brings us to the end of Season One of Vanilla with a Side of Kink! Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about our Shibari Rope Bondage business at www. AllTiedUpSan...

16. Renee's Origin Part 1 17.04.2023 36:01

Send us Fan Mail This episode will give you unique insight into Renee's family life and the years leading to meeting Dan. She reveals things she has not typically shared with even our closest friends. I (Dan) am very proud of her for being so transparent and approachable with the telling of this story. Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also...

15. Canes, Brains, Pains, and Drains 10.04.2023 35:40

Send us Fan Mail Renee has so much fun that she cannot move! Dan learns how to use a Cane on Renee effectively. This is an extraordinary skill of sensation. Renee explains some of the levels of play related to BDSM. We go to our first play event at someone's private home. We start teaching our very first rope class. Renee learns a critical lesson about impact play. Visit our website: www. Va...

14. You've Got to be F'ing Kidding Me! 03.04.2023 31:01

Send us Fan Mail Did you know Dan is the nice one? Don't break rule 13. Dan seeks help for his Daddy skills. Dan gets asked a question that creates a change in Dan & Renee's relationship. And Dan has some important revelations about how his actions were different than his words. Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can lear...

13. Renee's First Play Party 27.03.2023 33:33

Send us Fan Mail MELTDOWN of EPIC PROPORTIONS ! Listen as Renee shares what was happening with her as she prepares to go to her very first play party. Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about our Shibari Rope Bondage business at www. AllTiedUpSanDiego.com And our new operation, the All Good Things Center for Inclusivity and...

12. Where Does This Straw Go? 20.03.2023 29:08

Send us Fan Mail We were recently asked by a friend "WHY do you do this?" We hope this episode provides some insight into the why. Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about our Shibari Rope Bondage business at www. AllTiedUpSanDiego.com And our new operation, the All Good Things Center for Inclusivity and Acceptan...

11. Vanilla is Tasty Too 13.03.2023 26:45

Send us Fan Mail Dan describes some of the kinky events he attended separately from Renee, and we reveal a bit more about the vanilla side of our lives. Book References: Kink-Affirming Practice: Culturally Competent Therapy from the Leather Chair by Stefani Goerlich, Published 2023 by Routledge Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn...

10. New Year, New Everything, and the Top Comes Off 06.03.2023 34:25

Send us Fan Mail Going back in time, a couple of months from our last episode, we look at a different side of our Dom/sub relationship and what that meant to us going to events. And hear the story of the first time Renee gets naked in public! Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about our Shibari Rope Bondage business at www....

9. It's NOT Official Anymore! Ending Dom/Sub Relationship. 27.02.2023 25:14

Send us Fan Mail In this episode Dan and Renee experience a significant change and each reflects on how this change will affect their life going forward. Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about our Shibari Rope Bondage business at www. AllTiedUpSanDiego.com And our new operation, the All Good Things Center for Inclusivity...

8. It's Official! Entering a Dom/Sub Relationship Part 2 20.02.2023 30:51

Send us Fan Mail In this episode Dan and Renee share some of the joys and hardships of being in a Dominant/Submissive relationship and Dan learns there is a cost to having what he wants. Book References: Kink-Affirming Practice: Culturally Competent Therapy from the Leather Chair by Stefani Goerlich, Published 2023 by Routledge Unequal by Design: Counseling Power Dynamic Relationships by Sabrina P...

7. It's Official! Entering a Dom/Sub Relationship Part 1 13.02.2023 41:23

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Dan and Renee talk about officially entering into a Dominant/Submissive relationship. They talk about some of the important aspects of this and other types of BDSM relationships and some of the misconceptions that society has about them. Book References: Kink-Affirming Practice: Culturally Competent Therapy from the Leather Chair by Stefani Goerlich, Published 20...

6. The Education Starts 06.02.2023 29:17

Send us Fan Mail In this episode Dan and Renee start attending kinky events together and start learning many things about the kinkdom. Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about our Shibari Rope Bondage business at www. AllTiedUpSanDiego.com And our new operation, the All Good Things Center for Inclusivity and Acceptance. Fet...

5. Dan's Origin Story - How He Found Kink - Part 2 30.01.2023 23:01

Send us Fan Mail In this episode Dan talks about finding and attending his first kinky event. He shares some of the thoughts he had as he entered the kinkdom. Visit our website: www. VanillawithaSideofKink.com Instagram: VanillawithaSideofKink Also, you can learn more about our Shibari Rope Bondage business at www. AllTiedUpSanDiego.com And our new operation, the All Good Things Center for Inclus...