Unbreak My Heart

"It's not you, it's me." Can we take that statement at face value? Or do we read into it and create a story that only emphasizes the shame we feel about ourselves? Sophya is an overcomer who is worn out by years of carrying the weight and pain of her past. Some things happened to her that were out of her control and other things were mistakes she made.  Together Sophya and I address healing throug...

Ashley choose marriage at a young age to a man who was focused on work, not connection. After 11 years of living together, moving multiple times and a vacuum of loneliness - she builds up the courage to say "no more"! She tried hard to make something work with a bipolar man and her efforts were never met with success. As she was figuring out what to do, she also realized her attraction to women wa...

What if we get what we ask for? We find a partner where the boxes are checked and then time passes only to expose a faded version of what used to be so fulfilling. It's as if the sun has created so much damage the original color is no longer recognizable. That's my metaphor for some of the confusion that sets in during a long-term relationship. Passion, novelty and desire don't have to fade! Liste...

Ari and Rachel were together for 3 years. Their relationship worked well on the surface and suffered from a superficial foundation.  In this episode we discover that Ari's mindset to control and protect himself hasn't really allowed opportunity for trust and true connection.  Listen as he discovers a new perspective on what it means to feel safe and come out of hiding! We have a patreon membership...

Loneliness, emotional pain and invisible injuries to our psyche and feelings can impact us for a lifetime. Dr. Guy Winch paints a picture for us to address treating, caring for and healing the wounds that go "unseen".  Why do we emphasize taking care not to get sick, or covering a cut to avoid infection or see a doctor for a broken bone without question? Yet, when it comes to our feelings we resis...

In hindsight, we can learn so much about ourselves. Camille knew better than to date Badger. Their hearts deeply longed for love like dry land longs for fresh rain. Yet when they started dating, the longing for love became a crutch. It only exaggerated the areas their souls were crippled... the hold over one another became dangerous. Maybe you've found yourself here before? Camille and I find our...

Have you ever thought about the phrase we so commonly say "well, that's just how I am"? Have you thought about addiction and associated it with some type of habit measured in different levels of "badness"? What if addiction is defined as anything that is a life-controlling problem? I'm sure it levels the playing field for us when we acknowledge all of us have at least one thing about us that seems...

Do you explore dating apps hoping for something special or short term fun? Is it a just a digital pen pal or a foundation for something more? Keilee thought she connected with someone special.  She was naive and he was cowardly. This combination led to a four year tug of war on heart strings that were meant to be played for love, not play her. We have a patreon membership account! Please check out...

Ever think about lying? Is it human nature? Does lying make you a bad person? I'm excited to share Pamela Meyer's Ted talk with you. Lies take two people to happen. Lies have tells. Sometimes we lie to ourselves, sometimes we're lied to and sometimes we lie to others.  Lies have a strong impact on relationships of all kinds! Enjoy listening to Pamela breakdown some key knowledge to understand your...

Do you know there's a difference between guilt and shame? Shame is thinking something is wrong with you at your core - "I am a mistake". Guilt is about a behavior, something you did or didn't do - "I made a mistake".  Healing a broken heart takes time to sort through guilt and shame. Dr. Brené Brown addresses the topic of shame in this Ted talk. Vulnerability is not weakness, vulnerability is cour...

This weeks episode, I share Brene Brown's Ted talk called the Power of Vulnerability.  Choosing to expand your perspective, find ways to connect and be vulnerable will shape all the relationships in your life - including how well you love yourself.  I believe in you and in case you haven't heard this recently - you are worthy of love! Photo: James Duncan Davidson

Nate is 28 and met a girl on Tinder. Everything started well but there were signs he wasn't sure how to interpret. This is more than a breakup story.  Nate has had to move multiple times as his ex has stalked him and been violent, continuously threatening his well-being. What would you do?  We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate...

Molly was happily married. She and her daughters watched the man they knew and loved go through a confusing and painful transformation. His behavior changed, he stopped working, he suffered from chronic pain, he became secretive and forgetful.  No one knew why or what caused all these changes. Eventually, they learned he had alcohol induced dementia. This diagnosis didn't help make things better b...

Sometimes to survive the hard times, we forget. Greg found himself in a marriage that was not home, nor safe. He lost his identity as a man and thought the only way out was suicide.  Writing goodbyes to his children, gave him enough pause to find another way through his suffering. Greg has a message of hope with a happy ending!  We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to partici...

Part 3 of Colton's story starts with a reflection of lessons learned from the early days of his dating experiences. The dialogue unfolds slowly as Colton and I investigate why his last break up is illusive. Has that happened to you, where the memories of what happened seem foggy at best?  Listen to hear the shift as his perspective changes from anger and blame to taking responsibility and finding...

Part 2 of Colton's story takes us on a very sensitive journey into some places of his hidden core pain. We cover a lot of ground about a few break ups. The recounting of these stories, really just begin to expose Colton's fear of judgement and the prison of guilt he finds himself living within. This is rich conversation! You will literally be discovering unspoken truths in real time just as Colton...

We travel back in time to hear about Colton's first love, first breakup and first time coming to terms with his sexual identity.  The moments of truth happen when we're put on the spot and our identity is on the line. What do we do? Do we lie, hide, avoid it or tell the truth?  This is a conversation filled with nostalgia, lessons learned and touching moments! We have a patreon membership account!...

Happy Thanksgiving! What happens when you open the door to your body and soul wide open? Liberty tells us about the adventures of online dating and self-discovery. She was married for a long time and since her divorce she's explored her artistic creativity, her spirit of adventure and her sexuality. Some of it has been fun and some of it has left her with deep pain.  For more information about Lib...

Dailee was dumped by her Jewish boyfriend and it stung hard! She has recovered well; however, in our chat we found an old wound from the fall out between she and her first love.  Even though it was years ago the negative words he spoke hadn't yet left her. Dailee was brave in facing an old scar that no longer needs to make it's home in her soul! We have a patreon membership account! Please check o...

Casey's heartache first brought him down the standard shadowy path of partying and isolating. After awhile, he resurfaced to find himself hungry for more!  He wanted to invest time into growing, taking care of his body, discovering his identity as a man, and becoming a better musician. This drive truly shifted his perspective and has led him to a place of peace and new ways of contributing to impr...

Joby gave Carrie his trust. Overtime, something started to change and her affection for him became distant and cold. In his best efforts to fight for her and for them - he landed with putting the ball in her court. Do we work things out or are you going to end it?  This stepping stone experience really shaped Joby's perspective on life and relationships. He's gleaned a lot of wisdom and eagerly sh...

Maranda is still recovering from a breakup that happened a year ago. He ended 4 1/2 years in a text and it's left her hurting.  After a lot of time to self-reflect, we take time on this episode to deep dive into what holds her back from moving forward. Guilt, regret and anger have plagued her long enough! Listen to find out how she navigates her way to greater freedom and clarity. We have a patreo...

Charley and his girlfriend were on track to building their careers and lives together, or so he thought. He saw her as the woman he'd spend the rest of his life with. She felt he was never in love with her and broke it off.  How could she not see - she was it!? How could he not see she felt like a second priority?!  Charley and I discuss this misconception and so much more about the patterns we ge...

JB is both hurting and healing from his divorce only 2 months ago. He and his wife had what seemed like a bright future until some under cover patterns triggered him to fight and her to flee. We get to know a lot of JB's story to piece together what happened in the break down of his marriage and what the road to recovery will look like.   

Trent married young because that's what you're supposed to do - meet a girl and marry her... He was raised with religious mindset that you have to do things according to these rules and if you break them - it's sinful.  This conditioning set him up for a tough road ahead when he met a woman that wasn't particularly compatible for him. They tried making their marriage work until they broke. We expl...