Two Bi Guys

This week I sat down with Mark Cusack (he/they), founder of the support site "Not Defining" (a space for anyone struggling with their sexuality, gender, or identity), and we discussed why even under the Bi+ umbrella, many queer people are moving away from fixed labels and definitions of their identities. Mark is also an ICF Certified Integrative Coach and LGBTQ+ mentor, and we chatted about how hi...

Happy end of Bi+ Visibility Month! This episode includes the second part of my chat with Lewis Oakley – a Bi+ Activist in the UK, co-host of the "Bisexual Brunch" podcast, and author of a new book, “Bisexuality: The Basics” from Jessica Kingsley Publishers – and spoiler alert, the title of this episode is ironic, as Lewis argues that you can't go into these things with a game plan, and we discusse...

Happy Bi+ Visibility Day / Week / Month! In this episode, I chatted with Lewis Oakley, a Bi+ Activist in the UK, co-host of the Bisexual Brunch podcast, and author of a new book, “Bisexuality: The Basics” from Jessica Kingsley Publishers. We chatted about his recent appearances on cable news (where he had to prove he was a “real” bisexual), and then we dove into his book and the complicated, nuanc...

We’re back with RJ Aguiar, part two! We chatted about queer stand-up comedy (and butthurt straight guys), we debuted a new segment called “Bye Bye!” where we rant about things that bother us, I asked RJ about his hottest sexual experiences both on and off camera, and then we have a difficult time saying goodbye… Everyone gets the bonus content today! But for early access, full video episodes, and...

Two Bi Guys (By One Bi Guy) is back! And with a familiar friend, RJ Aguiar! We discussed his new "professional penis" and all that comes with it... In honor of Bi+ Visibility Month, I'm trying something new -- weekly episodes! (We'll see how it goes...) The second half of my chat with RJ will drop next week -- or for access to both parts right now, plus 10 minutes of bonus content, subscribe on Pa...

Bi+ book season concludes with a returning guest, the first out NFL player to identify as bisexual, RK Russell!. We discussed his new memoir, The Yards Between Us, and he also has a new men's journal out called Huddle. It was great to check in and see how RK's bisexuality and artistry have evolved since we last spoke in 2020 -- don't miss this one! There's no bonus content for this episode, but yo...

Bi+ book season continues with a special guest from South Africa, Ohene Yaw Ampofo-Anti. We discussed his collection of short stories, Simunye: One We Are, which features Bi+ and queer characters, themes, and inspiration, and we chatted about his unique bisexual journey in South Africa and how it compares to his time living in Los Angeles. There are almost 20 minutes of bonus content with Ohene on...

Bi+ book season continues with Dr. Lisa Speidel and her upcoming book, Bisexuality Beyond Binaries: Celebrating Multiple Bisexual Identities in a World of Erasure. Dr. Speidel also published with Routledge and is a big part of the reason why I was able to publish Bisexual Married Men  there -- she reviewed and recommended my proposal! We connected a year later when she interviewed me for her...

Welcome back to Bi+ book season! We're picking up right where we left off, interviewing 4 more Bi+ authors about their new bisexual-themed books, and this week I’m so excited to reunite with J.R. Yussuf to discuss his new book, Dear Bi Men: A Black Man’s Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure . J.R. was one of the first ever guests on this podcast, and it was...

It's the final interview (for real!) in this series on Bi+ married men. But first -- I'm starting a coaching practice! I specialize in helping LGBT+, queer, questioning, and non-monogamous people navigate their identity and relationships, but I can coach you in any area of your life in which you feel stuck. For the first 20 minutes of this episode, I give an overview of my new practice, what coach...

Here's the last interview in my series on Bi+ married men. (Or maybe the penultimate! I'm still waiting to hear back from someone. I'll do a wrap-up episode either way.) This week I interviewed Austin, aka "Quentin" in my book, Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity (out now) -- back on Two Bi Guys for the second time (first time was season 2!) with lots of up...

Happy new year! Here's another interview from this special series on bisexual men who are married to women. This week I interviewed Nana, another subject in my book, Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity (out now). Nana's story is unique and layered, especially because he was the only interviewee with a military background (which intersected heavily with his...

We're back with more in this special series on bisexual men who are married to women! This week I interviewed Cassidy, another subject in my new oral history book, Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity – out now! Cassidy's story is unique and layered, especially because he abandoned his "straight" label early on as a teenager, but it also features common thre...

Welcome back to this special series on bisexual men who are married to women! This week I interviewed Charles, another subject in my new oral history book, Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity – out now! Charles' story is unique and layered, but it also features common threads that many Bi+ men have experienced – though we often feel like we’re alone. There...

My book, "Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, & Authenticity" is available now! I hosted two book launch parties last week to celebrate, share stories, and build community, and I'm so excited for everyone to read the book. In this episode, I give a brief recap of the launch events, and then you'll hear the last 50 minutes from the Zoom launch party, which includes a pan...

Welcome back to this special series on bisexual men who are married to women! This week I interviewed a couple, Keith and Candice Parnell, both subjects in my new oral history book, Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity – out November 30 and currently available to pre-order. Keith & Candice's story is unique and layered (and different from most in the boo...

Welcome back to this special series on bisexual men who are married to women! This week I interviewed Timothy Babulski, one of the subjects in my new oral history book, Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity – out November 30 and currently available to pre-order. Timothy's story is unique and layered, but it also features common threads that many Bi+ men have...

Welcome to this special series on bisexual men who are married to women! This week I interviewed André T. Short, one of the subjects in my new oral history book, “Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity” – out November 30 and currently available to pre-order. André’s story is unique and layered, but it also features common threads that many Bi+ men have experie...

Surprise episode! My first book, "Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, & Authenticity" comes out in exactly one month on November 30, 2023! In anticipation and to add context to the oral histories in the book, I'm doing a miniseries on Bi+ married men, interviewing subjects from the book (beginning next week). In this episode, I give an overview of the book, explain why...

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For this episode I was so excited to welcome back season 4 guest Benjamin Perry, a Minister at Middle Church in NYC, to discuss his new book, "Cry, Baby: Why Our Tears Matter"! I loved Ben's book, and we had a fascinating chat about crying and how it relates to queerness and queer liberation. We discussed Ben's realization that he hadn't cried in years and had to teach himself how again (and how t...

Bi+ people tend to look at gender differently than most, and many of us are working toward more gender equality, especially in romantic partnerships. That's why this week I'm excited to share my interview with Dr. Kate Mangino, a gender expert whose debut book, "Equal Partners: Improving Gender Equality at Home", looks at gender imbalances in our personal lives and what we can do about it. We chat...

Vaneet is back, and since his last visit to Two Bi Guys, he wrote his first book, "Bisexual Men Exist: A Handbook for Bisexual, Pansexual and M-Spec Men" -- available now wherever books are sold! We chatted about the process of researching, writing, and promoting his book before diving into its contents: Bi+ representation in media, coming out, dating and relationships, M-Spec intersectionality, w...

I finally got to interview Jessica Fern, author of one of my favorite books, "Polysecure"! I've been reading and re-reading this book for a couple years now, and it has helped me enormously in navigating polyamory and understanding how my own attachment style might affect various partnerships. In this interview, we discussed Jessica's bi identity and poly journey, why the intersection between poly...

Welcome to Season 6 of Two Bi Guys! Our premiere episode features Zachary Zane, back for his second Two Bi Guys interview, and we discussed his awesome new "memoir and manifesto", BOYSLUT. We chatted about sexual shame, the relationship between porn and queerness, kinks, fetishes, dom/sub dynamics, Zach's book tour and the surprising "controversies" that have popped up, the joys of anal stimulatio...