Truly Pivotal Moments

Transitional Relationships:  Relationships that only last for a relatively short time.  They seem real and are often so enjoyable.  However, they are gone as fast as they came, or they do not last as long as we would have liked.  These either "are" or can be considered transitional relationships.  Sure, sometimes this is just a coping mechanism to repackage relationships of old.  But think about i...

What does "La Cuckaracah" mean?  Well, it's Mexican for the cockroach.  Eww, I know, right?  Well, next in our series on Pests in Our Relationships is this particular insect.  We have talked about spiders and ants, and now it's time for these guys.  What can we learn?  How are they represented in our relationships?  Well, it's all here, just push play and enjoy!

Ants:  On the counters Looking for food and/or water Organized and Visible Send out "scouts" before the "platoon" Must destroy the nest (source) and take away the desirables to eliminate. Wipe clean the path to get rid of the "scent" trail. Does any of this make sense when it comes to people in our lives that are... well, pests?   Interestingly enough, this example can apply to people or A.N.T.'s...

A follow-up episode answering a listener's inquiry about the meaning of spiders in our relationships.

Considering all the people we interact with every day, we can see that there are many things working against good, healthy, fruitful relationships in our lives.  Seeing the negative/counterproductive connections as "pests" may help us to engage in better, more intentional ways.  This will decrease the amount of "pests" in our lives and open the opportunity for more prosperous connections.  

When we are camping, we enter into an entire ecosystem.  We are alert to how we interact with this system.  But we want to keep most of these things outside.  We do not want the majority of these things inside our tent or our home.  In the same way, when we are outside the home in our workplace or in other places, there are all kinds of people around us.  We do not invite or welcome most people in...

Takeaways from guest podcast with Infinite Whys 8.23.2020.   We had our first live recording with guest, Ms. Infinite Whys yesterday.  These are the takeaways with a few more examples from the podcast.

A telephone podcast with guest, Infinite Whys.  What to do when relationships are challenged.  How to implement structure and intention to develop a relationship on purpose.  

How do you find a good man/woman?  What things should you look for?  How can you really know a person before getting into a relationship?  How can I avoid having a rerun of my last relationship?   These questions and a few more are addressed directly and indirectly in today's podcast.  Remember, if you keep having the same experience in relationships, YOU are the common factor.  Unless everyone is...

Testimonies from listeners about how "Beyond Coping" has helped them in their toxic relationship/environment and afterward.

"Where did you learn to look at things this way, Johnathan?"  Well, there's a deeper, more meaningful reason than what I share here.  I have shared this reason with a few of you one on one.  However, one of the pivotal moments that still affects the way I see things is shared and I hope it will be helpful to you.  It just takes one thing to "click" and then you never see things...

A multi-segment Episode.  Each segment will be 5 to 10 minutes long comparing weed growth to desired vegetation in the garden of your relationships.  Some weeds look like the plant we want to grow!!  But once it is established, it drains the nutrition from the soil and affects the other plants nearby.  This is why we need to look at and identify any weeds in our relationship.  We need to plant a g...

An Episode with many segments describing relationship "weeds" and health relationship "vegetation". Continue to check the episode for added segments.😊

So many things to consider when faced with challenges in life. Even after we come out of our artificial roles, we have challenges and need to learn how to deal with those challenges in a very real way. It helps us to learn from our experience and lean into the challenge. Having a group of established friendships In our lives helps us to grow in these situations.

Whether we realise it or not, we are all playing roles to a certain degree in our young adult life. Some of us continue to play roles our entire life. We don't know who we are! This is not only tiring but it is not the way life is supposed to be. Let me share how I discovered that I was playing multiple roles and what I have learned from this process.

Wow. So many podcasts on relationship here and in other venues! I had no idea. Just searching the word, "relationship", I found a lot of podcasts. But when I sampled a few of these, I found emptiness. There were the professional, fully credentialed, but casual and cool counselors. There were many people just throwing opinions or lists at listeners, " Top 8 Ways to Have a Great Relationship" etc. A...

What can we learn about people and relationships from plants? Well, plants need a certain atmosphere to SURVIVE and another atmosphere to THRIVE! Relationships whether casual acquaintances, family members, or spouses also need a specific balance in atmospheric conditions in order to succeed, maintain, and be fruitful!

What really matters when life comes to an end? What do we think about or consider when the reality of the brevity of life is experienced? It is most likely not about seeing our fancy car one more time or even holding our trophies. It is usually the consideration of what we did with the relationship opportunities we had. Did we make them, develop them, and protect them? Or did we pass up the chance...

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