True Love

To anyone whose been told, "you're too picky," I say, "be even more selective." Resources: Mina Yang https://www.minayang.com/ Level Connections https://app.levelconnections.com/ Get full access to True Love at trueloveshow.substack.com/subscribe

What is this quest all about anyway? Meandering through my childhood, cultural mythology, personal psychology, the nature of love and spirituality try to understand why I want this anyway…what’s it all about? + Happy New Year everyone! Get full access to True Love at trueloveshow.substack.com/subscribe

Enjoying every moment in my life and getting advice from my besties. Happy New Year's Eve Everyone! Get full access to True Love at trueloveshow.substack.com/subscribe

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My Tinder Saga continues. No dates yet. Today, I try to honor the humanity of the people behind these tinder profiles...with varying success. It takes a lot of focus. Collected Poems of Wendell Berry with “For an Absence” https://amzn.to/4pbxFoX This is an affiliate link so I may earn a few bucks if you buy this poetry book:) Get full access to True Love at trueloveshow.substack.com/subscribe

Wow. Online dating really does bring out the worst in people, especially me! My two tinder dates fell through, mostly due to my own flakiness and dating hangups, so I kept swiping and tried to find a match, but it doesn’t feel like I’m getting much closer. In the meanwhile, I’m trying some new channels and also zoom in on where my ideal partner might hang out…and/or what channels he’d use to find...

Hey guys, I wanted to show you more of the actual swiping but it just ended up being way too complex trying to put stickers over all the images and I didn’t feel comfortable sharing people’s profiles, so it’s just me staring into the tinder abyss. Sorry about that! If you want a weird, inside look at what swiping on apps and getting date looks like in practice, this is the video for you! If you’re...

What am I some kind of wind-up doll? Psyching myself back up again and quickly (so I don't lose time) sometimes feels like the hardest part of dating. Here we go again…Mamma Mia! Get full access to True Love at trueloveshow.substack.com/subscribe

Alcohol is a hugely important topic in dating that not a lot of people talk about. Many people use alcohol to ease anxiety in dating. And alcohol has a deep impact on romantic and family relationships. The man I thought I was going to marry 4 years ago was an alcoholic and it ruined our relationship, so this triggers me deeply. My second date with the guy I just met turned out to be a disappointme...

Getting ready for a second date and reflecting on pre-date anxiety. Get full access to True Love at trueloveshow.substack.com/subscribe

(Dance available for viewing on YouTube) Sometimes when we choose to follow the red thread of desire, in the pursuit of personal evolution, healing or even finding the treasure we so dearly seek, resistance comes up: it can take the form of boredom, denial, and today, for me, a deep depression I hadn’t experienced in a while. These moments, I know, call for accountability, if we’re to continue to...

And so it begins...navigating early dating and experimenting with mutuality . p.s. instead of texting, I facetimed him and it went great. Get full access to True Love at trueloveshow.substack.com/subscribe

Some exciting news! My true love strategy seems to be working and I’ve been meeting some great men! A newly single business colleague drifted into my life I had a coffee date with a male friend, I’ve been matching with some guys on Tinder and I met a guy at a Christmas party! Here are the playlists I’ve put together so you can do what I’ve been doing and join me on the ride if you’re looking for l...

Yesterday, we talked about getting super specific on what I'm looking for in a life partner. Today's episode is all about reflecting on how to embody those qualities myself and getting in touch with what life will be life as a married woman. Get full access to True Love at trueloveshow.substack.com/subscribe

In today’s episode, I get clear on what I want in a life partner, share why I’m doing this, a quick update on some interesting developments on my life, share 20 questions chatGPT came up with from popular frameworks on getting clear on the ideal life partner and last but not least…I share what I wrote about the ideal life partner I want! Here you go universe!!! The 20 questions * What do you want...

Everything, everywhere all at once, falling to pieces, will particles rise up as ashes make space for pure light ? Music Credits:"Vulcan Street" – Riverside Music Library"Borough" – Riverside Music Library"Eggs and Powder" – Riverside Music Library Get full access to True Love at trueloveshow.substack.com/subscribe

Here’s the top 16 steps I’ve made to find my life partner. Maybe I’ll find him before I get through all 16! Part 1: First things firstGet super clear on Create my ideal partner listGet clear on Who am i as a wife and start acting like it : Start to Finish: How I Manifested My Husband in 3 weeks! Make a list of amazing husbands from facebook/ linkedin (Make a list of men in my social network who ha...

Time to stop talking about dating and actually start dating. Let’s walk through the strategy. A recounting of my somewhat ridiculous attempt to use chatGPT Pro to analyze top dating sites and give me 20 concrete action items. Waste of time or useful insights? You decide. Get full access to True Love at trueloveshow.substack.com/subscribe

Music credit: One Time - Jeremy BlackToday, I decided to inspire myself to get back into the dating game by refreshing my wardrobe at the Second-Hand Store (yes, called the Second-Hand Store). I recently learned that new items go out Monday so I decided to check out the action for myself. Sometimes trying to do the normal, right thing as a person trying to get through life just feels hard. We woul...

A year and a half ago, I paused the True Love Podcast. An episode I posted got some really harsh comments and I didn’t feel ready to expose such a vulnerable part of myself and receive that kind of feedback. But, I do still want to find love and I want to help other women like me find it too, so I’ve decided to renew this podcast again and promising you a day of content every day. When I returned...

Hi all, maybe I’ll look back at this time as my all-time low, most dejected moment in dating and laugh at how far I’ve come and it was all just luck. Or maybe, this is the time I’ll have the insight that will help me grow. In any event, I watched this interview with Stacy Katz and Bela Gandhi and thinking it may all be about fear. But can it be surmounted? Hard to tell. Get full access to True Lov...

After my discouraging/discouraged message, I’m ready to share my update from my first date since renewing my bumble efforts. Get full access to True Love at trueloveshow.substack.com/subscribe

I wanted to hold myself accountable with an honest update on how my renewed dating efforts are going. And the answer is bad. The dating apps are so boring and exhausting. It’s hard to see myself to be so judgmental and fearful, and know I’m blocking my own way. I feel like I don’t know what I’m looking for or even if what I’m seeking is worth the search. But at this point, the only way that feels...

In this episode, I had the distinct pleasure of speaking to Wendy Kraly, a therapist who met her wonderful husband and had her child at 41. Wendy beautifully articulates the challenge so many women face in their thirties of deciding if they most want to go for the partner, go for their baby, or simply go with the flow. When Wendy let go, started enjoying herself, and took a break from looking for...

In my second interview, I talk to my cousin Barbara who just had her second child at age 42! She discusses dating in NYC, moving to Dallas and really zoning in what was important to her in a marriage, including some elements that surprised her, like the politics of her partner. While Barbara acknowledges how rough online dating can be, she also is a shining example of how online dating can yield a...