Trauma Hiders Club Podcast

The green bean casserole is, undoubtedly, the Thanksgiving fan favorite. But I think of it the way I think about practicing gratitude: I don’t like it, I don’t want it, and I’m going to move it all around my plate until I get the chance to surreptitiously feed it to the dog. If you’re someone who, like me, feels ashamed for not counting your blessings enough, gratitude can be a hard green bean to...

Becca Pronchick is a photographer, coach, certified Ananda Yoga and Meditation Teacher, and Master Practitioner of Emotional Freedom Techniques. Since 2002, Becca has blended her training in yoga and meditation, coaching, and EFT to create safe and sacred spaces where people can find healing and creativity. She is the Chief Relaxation Officer and Founder of Permission to Relax, through which she w...

I’ve referred to myself as a trauma hider several times in this podcast, and my guests have shared how they hide their wounds from the world. So, it’s understandable if, at this point, you find yourself wondering: Am I a trauma hider? How do I know if I am one? Well, I’m not an expert on you, but I’m certainly an expert on me. By looking at myself, I know some of the best ways a world-class trauma...

Joe Ryan is a trauma coach. During his lifelong path of overcoming trauma and shame, Joe has turned his journey into a mission to pave the road for others. Through his one-on-one coaching services, Joe helps people heal and conquer their own traumatic pasts. His podcast, It’s Not You; It’s Your Trauma, tackles trauma, PTSD, abuse, anxiety, and recovery. In addition to his work as a trauma coach, J...

Some songs really just come out of nowhere and melt you into a puddle of tears on the floor. Yes, I’m talking about Adele’s new song, “Go Easy on Me,” which caught me folding the laundry when it started playing and had me curled up—stunned on my couch—when it got to the chorus. I’m not sure if everyone who listened to the song had the same responses—frozen in place, mouth open, and one hand on hea...

Kendra Cunov is the founder of The Collective, a global web of women devoted to embodied awareness. Throughout her career as a Relational Coach, Kendra has worked with thousands of men, women, and couples in improving embodiment, deep intimacy, communication, and full self-expression. She has worked for and consulted with organizations and leaders who know the role of truth, connection, and integr...

Earlier this year, I did some inner child work with my extraordinary, hilarious, and generous coach, Nate Postlethwait. It was deep, dark, and confronting as much as it was uplifting, light, and joyful. And, at the end of our journey to meet the child within me, I wrote a letter to my younger self--that younger me, that fierce, 10-year-old warrior who took charge and fought. In this episode, I sha...

Allison Crow is a life and self-leadership coach for authentic, ambitious women. She has been teaching and coaching since the mid-90s and started coaching full-time in 2007 with Keller Williams Realty, where she established and carried out mentorship and coaching programs for new and existing agents. Today, Allison helps her clients work with thoughts, emotions, and behaviors through her coaching...

We often hear that resilience can make us stronger. The philosopher, Lucius Annaeus Seneca, once said that “difficulty strengthens the mind as labor does the body.” Nietzsche (and Kelly Clarkson) riffed on “what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” In their book, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy, Adam Grant and Sheryl Samberg argue that we can think of resilience as...

Rabbi Steven Stark Lowenstein is the Senior Rabbi of the Am Shalom Congregation in Glencoe, IL, and was ordained in 1995 by the Hebrew Union College Jewish Institute of Religion. He is also the author of the books, For the Love of Being Jewish: An A-to-Z Primer for Bubbies, Mensches, Meshugas, Tzaddiks, and Yentas! and For the Love of Israel: The Holy Land from Past to Present. A dear friend, Rabb...

With the exception of messages, calls, and cards I received from people I love and people who love me, the day unfolded not unlike any other. As I reflected on the expressions of love from everyone, I realized how this was all new to me. I was struck by the newness of receiving love. In this feeling of being loved, I believe that I am lovable; in this belief, I practice receiving love. While I can...

Reverend Rachel Hollander is many things: an interfaith minister, singer, songwriter, officiate, and counselor—and she’s on a mission to help people navigate a life of depression. She fulfills this mission through a variety of her work, including Choose Again: A Journey to Wholeness, a performance piece that recounts her adventures (and misadventures) in a life with depression, and the podcast, I...

You are here, feeling unworthy and unlovable. Your traumas, fears, blame, and self-judgment fill all of your stories. Whether it’s your first or tenth time, you have to fight it. You have to stop them from getting in the way of your healing. You have to fight because you’ll get through it. You have to fight because you are worthy. And know that there are people around you—people who support you, b...

Bay LeBlanc Quiney is an executive leadership coach, consultant, and the President of Wonderland & Co. She received her training as a professional ontological and facilitative coach through Accomplishment Coaching, and completed her undergraduate degree in Anthropology & Professional Writing from the University of Victoria, where she also completed her Master of Business Administration deg...

If you’ve experienced trauma, there’s a high chance that keeping boundaries may be difficult for you. “Boundaries” might not even be in your vocabulary. But creating and maintaining boundaries are some of the ways you can honor your healing. Without boundaries, creepers will continue to invade your life and suck your energy so much that you might not have anything left for healing. As you work thr...

Dr. Tamsin Astor is a chief habit scientist and author of Force of Habit. She is a sought-after coach, consultant, and international speaker who guides CEOs and entrepreneurs to habit mastery. In her book, Tamsin blends her background in cognitive neuroscience with her knowledge of yoga, ayurveda, meditation, and coaching to help others master their habits and unleash their true power. Tamsin comp...

I have another name for the eighth rule of Trauma Hiders Club: “Sometimes Other People Suck, and It’s Not Their Fault.” It can be frustrating whenever you share your trauma with others. Sometimes you don’t get the response you want; sometimes, they trigger your trauma even more; sometimes, you trigger their trauma. That’s because nobody else has lived your experience but you—inevitably, some peopl...

Jacqueline Pfadt is a consultant for financial reporting systems & IT support services and the author of PTSD Raw and Real: A Reason for Hope and Motivation to Fight On. Having survived sexual abuse as a child and reclaimed her life through therapeutic work, Jackie bears witness to her lived experience through PTSD Raw and Real to help others cope with the struggles of trauma and healing. She...

If you’re just beginning your journey through healing trauma, you might find yourself wanting it just to be over so you can get back to your life as soon as you can. I was there when I started my own deep trauma therapy as a patient. It felt like my progress was incremental - so small, in fact, it felt like I barely made progress at all. Conversations with my therapist felt like it hardly made any...

Jess B.—former biomedical researcher, craft brewery logistics manager, and traumatized mess—is the force behind the proudly named Traumatized Motherfuckers community, a support group for complex trauma recovery born from her blog and podcast of the same name. Blending her background in science with experiential snark, Jess uses research, personal insight, communal spirit, and honest vulnerability...

Healing trauma can be a long, long journey. In my own healing experience, I spent so much time creating safe spaces and safe resources - all of which were imagined. I spent so much time creating those imaginary safe places and containers that I only spent 10% of my time actually unpacking and dealing with the trauma... and 90% in those containers. That’s why the sixth rule of the Trauma Hiders Clu...

Giovanna Capozza is a coach and Functional Medicine Practitioner who advocates for mind-body healing and wellness. She is the co-founder of Blue Hive Health, a digital wellness center that focuses on the intersection between mind, body, and spirit. Certified with the Board of Professional Holistic Nutritionists, Giovanna has also been a teaching faculty member of the Ontario College of Homeopathic...

Healing from trauma takes time, and it certainly doesn’t have a required amount of time. There’s no date, no deadline. Nothing says you have to be healed by this or that point in time. The weight of emotional pain from trauma is heavy and huge. Move through it one step at a time, at your own pace, in a way that you can handle. If someone promises you that you’ll be completely healed, restored to y...

Suzy Bastone is an actor, speaker, and Certified Life Coach. After experiencing a motorbike accident about 15 years ago, Suzy had to completely re-evaluate her life. The ramifications that trauma can create spoke to her compassion, empathy, and understanding of herself and others. With rehabilitation and emotional strengthening at the forefront of her mind, Suzy later trained to become a Personal...

I remember hearing a sound. It was my dog’s breath after playing. And when the sound of my dog’s breathing reminded me of my abuser, I immediately felt sick. I had already been deep in my work; still, the sound set off my hypervigilance. It would be like this in many moments of my life: it could be the color of somebody’s eyes, a pair of glasses, or an older person, and my hypervigilance would tri...