Trauma Bonded

Elly & T discuss Episode 327 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you found your family on the path of celibacy?”, in which we cover bearing each other’s burdens, finding wholeness in chosen family & T’s potential undercover assignment at a Promise Keepers event.  This is part of our TIAH series,  The 82%: Modern Stories of Love & Family.  To seek o...

Elly & T discuss Episode 326 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you discovered a new way to love?”, in which we cover choosing for oneself, cheating your way out of a trap & the  other  family bible.  This is part of our TIAH series,  The 82%: Modern Stories of Love & Family.  To seek out info about the Modern Family Institute, donate to...

Elly & T discuss Episode 325 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you grew up in a polyamorous family?”, in which we cover the value, inherent, in dating a good breaker-upper, the possession and co-dependence messages of a Cameron Crowe film & the sheer devastation of unwittingly showing up on F** N*ws. This is part of our TIAH series,  The 82%: Modern Stories of...

Elly & T discuss Episode 324 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you were asexual?”, in which we cover true sexual freedom, third-wheeling it, the power of zines & Elly’s amazing Airbnbaby idea. This is part of our TIAH series,  The 82%: Modern Stories of Love & Family.  To seek out info about the Modern Family Institute, donate to help advance their wo...

Elly & T discuss Episode 323 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you were suddenly a blank slate?”, in which we cover the imprinting of one's past, our stories we still have time to collect & where did these bones go?  *Sorry for the crying. Yes, Elly still cries about her dad. *Sorry for the happy children in the background. Someone has a pool but shares i...

Elly & T discuss Episode 322 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you kept hitting rock bottom?”, in which we cover imposter syndrome, the trials of a long suffering partner & the endless tunneling through rock bottoms to more rock bottoms. Thanks to storyteller, Jamie! Go check out his pictures on @actuallyhappening IG! Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia...

Elly & T discuss Episode 321 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if they tried to erase you?”, in which we cover owning your self-belief, merging our crappy lives with others’ crappy lives & the tragedies that are pre-pubescent boys and their bodies. Thanks to storyteller, Merle Yost - can find out more about him:  merleyost.com ,  unspokenboundaries.com , Mer...

Elly & T discuss Episode 320 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if your mother believed she was a good witch?”, in which we cover the religious trauma of “God told ME about YOU”, the diverging paths of two siblings & pine trees – not paint thinner.  Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Cathy Sitzes  Special thanks to : Whit Missildine &a...

Elly & T discuss Episode 319 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you couldn’t find your way home?” in which we cover the helping hands of those in need, how our backstories shape us & what constitutes a lethal dose of marijuana. Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Cathy Sitzes  Special thanks to : Whit Missildine & Andrew Waits of&nbsp...

Elly & T discuss Episode 318 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if your daughter went missing?”, in which we cover the peace of knowing, the time theft of drugs and booze, and is there wisdom in Forrest Gump?  Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Cathy Sitzes  Special thanks to : Whit Missildine & Andrew Waits of  This Is Actually H...

Elly & T discuss Episode 317 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you found peace in the fog of war?” in which we cover the soundscape of screaming, the culty acronyms of cults & anger – only anger.  Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Cathy Sitzes  Special thanks to : Whit Missildine & Andrew Waits of  This Is Actually Happen...

Elly & T discuss Episode 316 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if a masked man appeared at the foot of your bed?” in which we cover keeping your hands to yourself, the common RAGE we all feel inside & R*pists are monsters. You can find our storyteller’s, Danielle Luekam, books on Amazon:  Four Pounds of Pressure: A Memoir of Rape, Survival, and Taking Back My Pow...

Elly & T discuss Episode 315 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if your life became a movie?” in which we cover the healing powers of letting in light & having a new perspective.  You can find our storyteller’s [G.J. Echternkamp] documentary and feature film of the same name, Frank & Cindy, on Netflix NOW. APOLOGIES FOR ELLY WRESTLING HER PAPERS THROUGHOUT. An...

Elly & T discuss Episode 314 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you harbored an unrelenting fury?” in which we cover the real villain of the story, what it is to feel at home & the Milli Vanilli documentary.  Our storyteller is Amy Ronhaar. You can buy the book and reach out to her via website or email  amyronhaar.com  /  amyaronhaar@gmail.com &n...

Elly & T discuss Episode 313 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you had to find your own salvation?” in which we cover being stuck with being, deliverance from the demon of conviction & a tragic Cracker Barrel meet-up.  Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Cathy Sitzes Special thanks to : Whit Missildine & Andrew Waits of  This Is...

Elly has a conversation with storyteller & spouse, Anonymous, from the episode, “What if your husband entered The Void?” Hosted by : Elly Westberg (T is there in spirit!) Edited by : Forrest Chiras (with music added by Cathy Sitzes) Special thanks to : Whit Missildine & Andrew Waits of  This Is Actually Happening Content/Trigger Warnings : Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Bi-polar & Ment...

Elly & T discuss Episode 312 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you believed your love could cure him?” in which we cover the pros & cons of being a caregiver, the value of saying "I don't know", & knowing when to leave a toxic relationship. Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Cathy Sitzes She’s not Anonymous; She’s Marabai Rose! Podc...

Elly & T discuss Episode 311 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you danced for those who couldn’t?” in which we cover introducing yourself with intent, the blatant racism of indigenous schools, blood memory & separating addiction from the person you love.  Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Cathy Sitzes Special thanks to : Whit Miss...

Elly & T discuss Episode 310 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if your mother disappeared?” in which we cover speaking truth to harm, old time religion & please don’t put peas in the mac-n-cheese. Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Cathy Sitzes Special thanks to : Whit Missildine & Andrew Waits of  This Is Actually Happening Conte...

Elly & T discuss Episode 309 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you gave everything to The Job?” in which we cover the importance of balance, the bleakness of capitalism & we command you all to STOP APOLOGIZING. Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Cathy Sitzes Special thanks to : Whit Missildine & Andrew Waits of  This Is Actuall...

Elly & T discuss Episode 308 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if they couldn’t wake me up?” in which we cover our personal experience with nearly losing our dear friend, Whit, how to trust a friend in crisis & mmmm sourdough bread. Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Bella Special thanks to : Whit Missildine & Andrew Waits of  Thi...

Elly & T chat with Todd about his own mental health journey, his podcasts & other bits of stuff.  Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Forrest Chiras (with music added by Cathy Sitzes) Special thanks to : Whit Missildine & Andrew Waits of  This Is Actually Happening Content/Trigger Warnings : Suicide, Drug & Alcohol Abuse, Animal Death, Explicit...

Elly & T discuss Episode 307 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you fell hard for the scam?” in which we cover what it is to be worthy, discovering the badass within & the figurative over-eating of Christ’s flesh. Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Cathy Sitzes Special thanks to : Whit Missildine & Andrew Waits of  This Is Actua...

Elly & T discuss Episode 306 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you lived someone else’s life?” in which we cover our personal feelings about this storyteller, and an arc organically presents itself after a messy discussion! Join us! Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Cathy Sitzes Special thanks to : Whit Missildine & Andrew Waits of&nbs...

Elly & T discuss Episode 305 of the podcast  This Is Actually Happening , “What if you were expected to do no harm?” in which we cover gay trajectory, the ins and outs of sperm donation, & the echoes of trauma. Hosted by : Elly Westberg & Therese Garcia Edited by : Forrest Chiras (with music added by Cathy Sitzes) Special thanks to : Whit Missildine & Andrew Waits of  Thi...