TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!

In the competition to see who can have the most COVID-19 tests, is the goal a high score or a low one? The process of parenting sick kids, working "essentially" in health care and education, and taking ourselves down to the city for testing a few times a month, has been an adventure. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know...

George's orientation is monogamous, and Jess is polyamorous. A recent situation had us discussing these differences and how they affect us or might be perceived. As usual, we also touched on how these affect, or are affected by, parenting and our respective genders. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect w...

As kids return to school, they sometimes struggle to adapt to changing routines and expectations. We do our best to support them, while they often would rather reject our support because adolescence does that. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-qu...

Does parenting in public turn us into invisiqueers? We dragged two surly teenagers to the "Happiest Place on Earth" and it was just as fun as you might imagine, if you imagined a fair-to-middling amount of fun. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-q...

George's cousin Vinnie has spent the past month road-tripping across the country, working remotely in their tech job, and stopped by to tell us all about it. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at  vote.pollcode.com/323713...

After having one kid gone for three weeks, we had both minor children home for July 4 and decided some family time would be good for them, even if they think they're outgrowing us. When we took them to see fireworks, George's experience as "the man of the family" was decidedly unique. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know...

Now that we're vaccinated, it's been nice to enjoy social time with small groups of friends, even if it's kind of weird to see them life size. From tacos and beers to a memorial at a gay bar, being around other people isn't half bad. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know...

Feeling his fully-vaccinated freedom, George decided to take a trip to see a ball game. Sounded like a nice escape, but nothing is ever allowed to be easy for us. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at  vote.pollcode.com/3...

How weird is it to say "back when I was in a cult..."? George has said it more than a few times, and it doesn't seem to get less weird each time. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at  vote.pollcode.com/32371374 . If you...

George's mindfulness practice prompted him to think of dreams that have come true, and of course his first thought was of transition. We had other dreams as well, but who would have expected gender euphoria from a meditation app? We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by...

The ongoing prescription testosterone shortage is making it harder for many trans men to get their HRT, and George's change in prescription insurance plan has made it even more of a challenge. But we rarely back down for a challenge, and we never forget to tell y'all all about it. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know wha...

With just under a decade of marriage, and just over a decade of partnership behind us, we still have things to learn about one another. Whether it's our patterns of thinking or our patterns of communication, we still have to continue working to become better partners for one another, and it's always interesting to consider how gender affects these patterns. We are here to share our entire intersec...

The need to change in the car before taking Child#2 swimming made us think of things that George used to do more often before transition, like swimming and massages. Then, he reminisced on how his gender would have affected his family interactions when he was younger. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect...

After the endocrinologist increased George's testosterone dose, his blood work changed more than expected. When we talked that over with another friend, that person detailed experiences that made us both jealous. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one...

Because George works in health care, he was able to get vaccinated and is now able to start carefully going to do more things outside the house, like get a haircut. The experience was odd, partly because of not having gone to a barber since a pandemic ago, and partly because of gender. Between that, another job interview, and Child#0's partner considering transition, we had an interesting week. We...

After over seven years of transition, the ways gender affects our interactions often now function as "background noise", but sometimes we have cause to pay attention to them. Being on "staycation" in absence of our annual pilgrimage to the shrine of Doctor Who gave us a few of those opportunities. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we...

George's reaction to his second COVID-19 shot is making him rather miserable, but he still found time to sit down and talk a while about our recent experiences with the gynecologist, with exceedingly cisgender clients, and with the adult children of friends seeking relationship advice. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to kno...

George finally got back to the gynecologist, and it was as much of an adventure as one would expect. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at  vote.pollcode.com/32371374 . If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed,...

Many trans folks struggle to engage with their sense of adulthood when their adolescence was full of the "wrong" milestones. Many folks who grew up with trauma struggle to fully experience their sense of adulthood when they were engaging with responsibilities much earlier than many of their peers. We, as parents, struggle with both of these challenges while also trying to raise future adults. We a...

When we scheduled our holiday celebrations early, we expected to be done with holiday stress early... which means we can get back to our normal un-holiday stress. George is preparing to go to the gynecologist, and that has caused him to pay more attention to other trans guys' online discussions of body dysphoria. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it be...

George got his blood work, and with fewer moments of cringe than last time. Then he got an email that made his blood boil, but he is on "vacation" right now (using up leave time before it dissolves at year-end) so he's got time to chill. Strongbad Emails are from the website Homestar Runner, at https://homestarrunner.com/ . We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who...

Festivus is almost a month away, but we have some grievances to air. George's testosterone is still difficult to obtain, then he got postal mail for his deadname from a university he attended NOT under that deadname. Jess has hard side-eye for Discovery's writers about unburying their queers again, and also for the "catering" service that didn't bother to heat their food before handing it off for...

Between Child#2's quarantine after potential COVID-19 exposure, and George's experience processing ballots for the election, life keeps moving along as George keeps noticing other short guys with less-angular features. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to...

As George was considering a potential promotion opportunity, he was also considering how his still-new-and-strange male privilege affected that prospective interview. Jess, on the other other hand, was considering how being out about their genderqueer status would make office interactions different in a potentially emotionally charged situation. We're both still working remotely, so that adds anot...

Going to the doctor for "preventative maintenance" is usually a good idea, whether it's the flu shot or the gynecologist. Voting is also good "preventative maintenance" for our government, it doesn't solve all the problems but it can help prevent more problems. Links we discussed: Queersplaining episode "civility" is at  https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/show/thegaytheistmanifesto/id/1641...