Trails of Thought podcast

Got back from holiday and despite all the lovely moments and memories, I'm knackered! Being around people - even people you love - 24/7 can be exhausting. Especially if you're someone who relies on alone time to recharge. Consider my battery depleted! I kept up to date on MAFSUK while away and Kieran's indecision around his relationship with Kristina was doing my nut in. Sh*t or get off the pot as...

First day of holiday and I wake up slightly early. Then the power goes before I can have my second brew! Once the electricity has been restored, I talk about having relied on audiobooks to help me sleep, ever since I can remember. Yes, I used to fall asleep to tapes. The next day, I'd have to rewind it and figure out at which point of the story I fell asleep the night before. Being on holiday has...

Still at the airport. Seeing a few British TV shows come out recently, focused on middle-aged men travelling together, has had me reflecting on why there's such a proliferation of these TV shows. And very few that focus on the female equivalent. This led to trails of thought on how we treat men and women's versions of midlife crisis so differently, the Gender Pain Gap and longevity. Hosted on Acas...

Messaging from the airport as I wait for my family to arrive. In my last message I was smug because packing the holiday was going to plan. Should have known shouldn't I? Ended up staining all my clean bedsheets, 2 hours before I was due to leave. FYI, still haven't gotten it all out! Also, since this message is recorded in a cafe, the audio isn't great. Soz. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy...

Sorry for the delay in schedule. I've been on holiday and naively thought I'd be able to keep recording voice messages. This is a message I recorded on the day of the departure. So I'm in a state of nervous excitement as I get ready to go on holiday. Quietly proud of myself for actually cleaning my flat last night. Quietly amazed that I managed to tick most things off my to-do list and get to the...

Don't you find it a bit weird that society often refers to women between the age of 20-40 'girl'? I'm a big fan of the Golden Girls (RIP) and we'll let the name slide since it uses a nice bit of alliteration. But that's the last time anyone should refer to women as girls. Let's leave that in the 80s. We live in a world that loves to diminish and infantilise women. You know, shave off all body hair...

Sure, ghosting isn't good manners. And generally, I don't do it. But with a caveat. Like, when someone is a kn*bhead, and I realise that responding to them would take way more time and energy, than they've put into their messages to me. It seems, some people feel entitled to your respect and consideration when they haven't extended the same to you? Yes, 'No' is a full sentence. But also, total sil...

I went a bit off piste yesterday talking about the drama triangle and my own personal grievances. So today I have my final attempt at explaining the drama triangle. I don't think I do the victim role justice in this description. Basically, the point of the triangle is when we get into unhealthy relationship dynamics that we repeat over and over, with no one taking accountability for their own emot...

If you're like me, you're overly polite and conscious of other people's needs and space...to the point that you needlessly go out of your way to make yourself uncomfortable. If you're also like me, you put anyone else who doesn't do this on your mental black list. The recent additions to my list are an older man in a yoga class, who didn't move his shoes out of the way, and a young buck in my apar...

Do you ever find yourself constantly trying to fix things for other people? Like mediating between your mum and dad, or rescuing your latest 'broken beau'? Or perhaps it seems like everything happens to you, and other people just need to stop being kn*b heads. This morning was supposed to be a mindful walk, but my wandering mind decided to talk about the model from psychology, known as the Drama T...

Do you ever secretly wish you could have a non-life threatening illness, just so you can rest for a bit? Perhaps you've caught your brain fleetingly considering a loved one's death? Don't worry, you're not a weirdo, a psycho or a wrong-un. I talk about what your subconscious is telling you when you have these random thoughts. A lot of it ties into society's fixation with progress and productivity....

Are you a cat or dog person??? It's not like I'm fighting off lovers, but I'd mark it as a red flag if someone asked me that. The question is basic and boring as! It's on the same level as asking someone if they consider pineapple as a legitimate pizza topping. Seriously, who cares. You'll also notice that people who identify as dog lovers, often demand on telling you why cats are so sh*t. Chill o...

You might have noticed over the past 5 years, that a few big left-leaning figures have made their way to the right. What's up with that? Using Naomi Wolf as the main example, I talk about their penchant for fame, the need to be loved and admired, and the pattern of narcissistic tendencies - even in those fighting for good causes. Basically, it's not about the ideology, but aligning themselves with...

Thinking about the massive affect of having trees in a city. Includes a great tree fact. Why I'm choosing to live with the discomfort of being a woman with body hair. It's been over a year now, here's how I've found it so far. FYI the discomfort of being hairy is conditioned, and not due to any logical or practical reasons. The idea of what is 'feminine' is a construction, but we all prescribe to...

Today's voice note talks about why people love getting into a bed with clean sheets, and why women say they love 'the feeling' of being in a clean bed with shaved legs. I think it's something to do with good girl syndrome. I reveal the ultimate freedom of not having a duvet. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This morning I try using rain sounds in the background of this voice note. It kind of works. I talk about why people are so fixated on height in dating (and it's all nonsense), shorter men who defy our limited ideas on success and masculinity. Why MAFSUK is great for learning about attachment styles and why we're so triggered by relationships. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more inform...

On this non-award-winning show I send you a morning voice note as I walk around my neighbourhood looking for coffee. I've been watching the latest series of MAFSUK and want to discuss some of the contestants, the cliches they all use and why they're so obsessed with looks, 'what they asked for' and whether their new partner thinks they're fit. There's a few dogs barking at me and I have to abruptl...