Toya Talks Podcast

Send us Fan Mail In a society that makes us conscious  of the differences we have, we as Black Women know in the work place we are like moving targets.  But the reality is we often sign a psychological contract where we subconsciously and/or  consciously at a disadvantage to make others feel comfortable. Where do we draw the line and terminate this false belief that our discomfort is the required...

Send us Fan Mail This episode should have really been entitled 'A Phased Return' a slight play of words if you understand the context.  What happens in politics usually finds itself in the office including the pricks and false narratives pushed for the success of the corrupt. In this episode we round up things I have missed whist I have been away. I also share my hypochondriac boss takin...

Send us Fan Mail This is a Dilemma Episode. I will also be discussing the recent repeal of IR35 and its impact on contractors/ consultants. Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com     Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)     Snapchat: @toyawashington    Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks    YouTube: At Home With Toya   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ   www.toyatalks.com...

Send us Fan Mail At the age of 96 The Queen of the United Kingdom passed away, this of course has given rise to topical discussions both on social media and within the workplace. The topic of the British empires role in colonisation is a painful one especially when people tell you how you should feel about the monarchy and how to react to the passing away of the Queen of England. One thing is for...

Send us Fan Mail Policing your self esteem is a duty YOU owe to yourself. Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com   Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)   Snapchat: @toyawashington    Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks    YouTube: At Home With Toya   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ   www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/ Sponsorships - Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com T...

Send us Fan Mail 'You have to acknowledge someones win even if it is at the expense of your losses' Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com     Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)     Snapchat: @toyawashington    Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks    YouTube: At Home With Toya   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ   www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/   Spons...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode I will be discussing why as Black women we accept crumbs instead of an apology that consists of acceptance and accountability. Why as Black Women do we allow those outside of our community to continuously use us and our trauma to make money. Why are we all too willing to see self appointed allies as Messiahs' of social justice. What is clear is the weaponisati...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode we discuss the the model minority, the acceptable minority that allows themselves to be controlled and puppeteered.  Case and point Rishi Sunak down to the final two in his bid to be Conservative Leader and the next Prime Minister. Note, what happens in government is mirrored in the work place. *This episode includes x1 dilemma   Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com   Tw...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode we discuss a dilemma received in the mailbox. A fellow Black Queen sent an email to her line manager correcting the continued mispronunciation  of her name. Her email was ignored, after following up for a response she then received a meeting in the diary from HR labelled 'Private and Confidential'. Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com    Twitter: @toya_w (#Toya...

Send us Fan Mail 'The more you have to protect, the weaker you become, thats why everyone and everything around you cant be a liability; - By Dencia Creating boundaries with your family especially in a culture laced in religion often creates  division and a choice, a choice between your peace and showing up in a culture that will tell you your mental health cannot be more important than your...

Send us Fan Mail ACAS gives employees and employers free impartial advice and mediation on workplace disputes, employment rights, and best practices.  ACAS must be used before approaching an employment tribunal. The view is that an employment tribunal must be used as the last resort and therefore ACAS provides a service of mediation to find a compromise in a workplace disputes. In the event that a...

Send us Fan Mail The passive-aggressive inverted commas in emails create the tension the author intended. The use of inverted commas as a microaggression is used to reinforce one's position and to provoke a response from you. In this episode, we also discuss my most recent boss reapplying for a role she has been doing for almost 2 years *This Episode also includes x2 dilemmas Apologise for th...

Send us Fan Mail As children, we were often not encouraged to use our voice, or have an opinion the old saying of 'Children should be seen but not heard.' This then evolves into being easily manipulated as we second guess ourselves or question the decisions we initially decisively make. In the working world, we become susceptible to career manipulation this is demonstrated by displaced l...

Send us Fan Mail In the workplace, I have long accepted that there is no such thing as a perfect job or workplace. Workplaces often thrive in toxicity breeding fear and control. I will always seek balance and peace because no workplace is perfect. In this episode, I discuss and conclude Florence who decided to attempt to discredit me and called into question my integrity her sole motivation was to...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I challenge you to have agency over your career it requires you to accept that the work structure is created to ensure you rely on your organisations and managers to validate you through promotions and/or bonuses. Having agency over your life and career means you operate and see the world of work as transactional and when a workplace has served in achieving your o...

Send us Fan Mail London Boys applies to those who think it's acceptable to be debating who pays for dates and think they should piggyback on the hard work and sacrifice of women who are building. Such limiting and elementary thinking is relative to the limited dating pool in London. Ladies, it is time to pivot and consider international dating. Open up the location and widen your dating pool....

Send us Fan Mail "You are not worth anything if you are not in the right place. If you are not appreciated, do not be angry, that means you are in the wrong place. Do not stay in a place where no one sees your value" - Anonymous Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com     Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)     Snapchat: @toyawashington     Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube...

Send us Fan Mail In order to recognise what brings you peace you have to know and understand your non-negotiables. In the workplaces often white-dominated where we Black Women are often in the minority what does peace look like? Workplaces are often anxiety-driven toxic places so peace is often a myth, but when we are clear on our non-negotiables we must be in a place and position to communicate t...

Send us Fan Mail This is a dilemma episode covering x3 dilemmas. This episode includes views of the death of Kevin Samuels. Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com    Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)    Snapchat: @toyawashington    Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube: At Home With Toya   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ   www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.c...

Send us Fan Mail What part of the working world is the worst part?..... I would say the first day would feature in the top 3. Trying to assert yourself without appearing overbearing, not knowing when to speak or if you should, trying to remember people's names, trying to create a good impression..... being seen. Being a consultant is completely out of my preferred comfort zone having to start...

Send us Fan Mail Blackexit - when we choose to exit the oppressive limiting beliefs created by society to keep us in a chokehold but instead seek the environments that will give life to the greatness we want to manifest for ourselves. Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)   Snapchat: @toyawashington   Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube: At Home Wi...

Send us Fan Mail I went against everything I believed in and put aside my stance and got my friend a job where I worked. This is not something I have ever done outside of my best friend who I have worked with several times before. - For several months I felt like a hypocrite. This person was a close friend who had been unemployed for 12 months, she told me this in the middle of the pandemic where...

Send us Fan Mail Workplaces encourage and push the narrative of the 'good person' not allowing for questions or mistakes but instead placing undue pressure on staff to be perfect without mistake, question,  consideration, or exception. In this episode, we explore our need to be the 'Good Person' and why we continue to allow this toxic persona to control and govern how we naviga...

Send us Fan Mail This is one for your Whatsapp group chats. When people get past the aesthetics of marriage the flowers the big dresses and the exuberant amount of money spent, people ignore the business side of marriage. The financial aspect sees both parties bring forth their finances into a financial pot. What does the business of marriage look like? Is marriage a business? - Yes, it is a finan...

Send us Fan Mail Since recording this episode Will Smith has released a statement apologising for slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars. Whenever greatness and the TESTimony the devil will always show up to take the glory, in work and in life. The devil works overtime and uses people to deliver the agenda of disruption and chaos. This episode contains x3 dilemmas. Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com     Tw...