Thorny Issues

Happy New Year.  January is self love month so in this week’s intro Jax discusses ways to start to love yourself more. And shockingly, they aren’t all naughty!  One off this week’s questions involves a man thinking he might be about to have an affair. How can he stop it? And a listener is fed up with dating and apps. Are there any good people left out there? Listen to Jax’s advice here.  If you ha...

Welcome to the in between. Jax just pops on to wish you a happy new year, and has a couple of suggestions of ways you can create a sexy to do list and conduct a fun sexual inventory with a partner or solo.  Happy new year folks - we will be back next week with a full length normal episode! Have fun, be kind, stay curious xx If you have a question for Jax you can submit it here https://www.thornyis...

It’s the week before Christmas and Jax has some extra advice for you about how to have the best first experience at your partners family home.  On this episode we deal with feelings of finding your partners ex intimidating. And in our first question our listener is struggling to open up his relationship after his anchor partner cheated on him earlier this year.  If you have a question for Jax you...

This week we are going back to basics on Anal Sex. If this is something you have ever wanted to try, Jax gives you a true beginners how to guide.  If you have a question for Jax you can submit it here https://www.thornyissues.ca/submit-your-question Please follow the show https://www.instagram.com/thornyissues/ If you'd like to show Jax some monetary support you can buy her a coffee at https:...

We are talking Love on this week’s show. The first question there are too many sparks. The second. No sparks. Where do you stand on love at first sight?  And in the Intro Jax talks about why this podcast exists - what shame means to her and how talking about shameful things can help us live a shame free happy confident life.  If you have a question for Jax you can submit it here https://www.thorny...

On this week’s show a listener who hates texting asks for advice as to how to communicate over the apps without seeming creepy or weird for wanting to meet in person, chat on the phone, or really do anything that isn’t just meaningless back and forth texts.  our second caller is having an issue when her husband slept with other people when they were on a self imposed break. Was this cheating? Shou...

On this week’s show a couple go to a sex party to fulfil his fantasy. His wife has an amazing time but he didn’t enjoy it.   Also, after some wine fuelled conversations at girls night a listener wants to bring a sex toy into play with her partner but how should she go about addressing the conversation.       Listen to Jax's advice and let her know what you think of the episode.       If you h...

This week a listener calls in asking how to deal with his girlfriends jealousy. Is it possible for him to be friends with his ex girlfriend and stay with his current squeeze.  Our second caller’s boyfriend body shamed her vulva and now she isn’t enjoying sex anymore.     Listen to Jax's advice and let her know what you think of the episode.     If you have a question for Jax you can submit it...

On this week's show we have a question about being dominant in the bedroom. The listener isn't sure if it is for her, and if it is, what does that say about her?  Our second question is from a man in his 30's wondering if he needs Viagra due to some ED mishaps in the bedroom.  Listen to Jax's advice and let her know what you think of the episode.  If you have a question for Jax...

On this week’s episode a caller asks Jax if she is being controlling by asking her husband not to go to a strip club on a lads weekend to Vegas.  And our second caller is struggling to move out of the nostalgia from a previous relationship and move on with her life without experiencing jealousy and regret.  If you have a question for Jax you can submit it here https://www.thornyissues.ca/submit-yo...

On this week's episode Jax answers a question from a listener who pegged her boyfriend at his request, but he has since pulled away from her. Jax gives some advice to the pegging newbies ass to how they can  get back to being adventurous and intimate together in the bedroom soon.  The second questions is from a listener who is hoping to start exploring non monogamy but wondering how to commun...

Trigger Warning. I talk about my Eating disorder in the introduction. If this is more likely to hinder than help you, skip to the first question. It is 10 minutes in.  On this week's episode we have a question about a woman’s boyfriend who can only orgasm by his own hand. What can they do so they can enjoy partnered sex stress free In the second question, a couple are really happy at home, bu...

On this week's episode we have a question about losing sexual desire and libido now the listener is on anti-depressants. Are there things we can do to increase desire without changing or stopping the meds? In the second question, how can a listener set boundaries with her casual sex partner now he has a potential cancer diagnosis and has asked her to get involved in his medical care.  If you...

Jax is back from vacation and excited to be answering all your thorny questions.  Up first we have a married man who has been finding sex outside of his sexless marriage. Should he tell him wife? The guilt is beginning to eat away at him.  And secondly, an inquisitive listener wanders, is there such a thing as too much when it comes to penis size? Jax delves into the facts.  If you have a question...

Jax is on vacation in the UK visiting family, so of course this is the week she saved the prerecorded episode wrong! So today you can here personal ramblings about kidulting and sexual shame from religious teenage years If you have a question for a future episode please head to the website for details.  https://www.thornyissues.ca/submit-your-question You can find the podcast on instagram https://...

On this week's episode Jax delves into the nitty gritty of what squirting is? What is the liquid? How does it work? Can everyone with a vulva do it?  And a listener asks about opening up her sexless long term monogamous relationship. How do you start difficult conversations?  If you have a question for the podcast, head to https://www.thornyissues.ca/submit-your-question  Please follow the sh...

We have our first guest!  This week we hear a question from a listener who is mystified and overwhelmed by the world of sex toys and does not know where to start with the purchase of her first toy. Jax turns to Bee, the founder of Esmerelda ESO ES; A company that makes high quality sex toys in amazing vibrant colours and innovative designs. There was nobody better to help answer the question and d...

On Episode 5, Jax tells you what she thinks good sex is.  Only 30% of women can have an orgasm through penetration alone, yet so many feel ashamed about this. The first question today looks into this topic and how outercourse can be so much more stimulating for vulva havers than intercourse. In the second question a newly single chap is struggling to stay hard when using a condom. Jax chats about...

On this week's show Jax discusses how to be more confident in initiating sex with your partner. What are the small things we can do to show our partner we are keen to help get over the embarrasemnet and vulnerability of saying we want it.  The second question deals with a couple who have opened their relationship up but jealousy and pain is making one partner think this was a bad idea. How ca...

On this weeks episode Jax answers a question from a woman whose boyfriend won't give her oral sex even though she has asked for it. We look at shame and fear around sex education and how sex is something we learn to be great at, we aren't born that way.  Also, a question around demi sexuality and sapio sexuality.  And finally - would you go on vacation with your ex boyfriend after only 3...

On this week's episode Jax answers questions on how to be able to have a healthy fulfilling sex life whilst dating without coming off as an asshole. Also, how would you have a conversation with your new partner about their dog sleeping in the bed with you? Listen to Jax's opinion here. If you like the podcast you can follow on instagram @thornyissues If you have a question you would like...

On this week's episode I look at how to date someone who is already in an Ethical Non Monogamous (ENM) relationship, how to keep a Long Distance Relationship spicy when the distance kicks in and you haven't seen each other for a while, and how to talk to your partner about your needs during period sex.  For more information on the podcast please go to thornyissues.ca or follow the pod @t...

Welcome to the Thorny Issues Podcast Trailer A podcast with the  goal to help you release any shame, or inhibitions you might have so you can have the most satisfying, pleasurable sex life possible. Because we all deserve that.  Have a fantasy you want to explore but don’t know where to start? Ask me. Struggling to communicate how your body is feeling with your partner? I’m here. Feel embarrassed...