They Talk Sex

Let’s get elbow deep in complex topics like kink, neurodiversity, trauma healing and trans gender issues. Writer Cosima bee Concordia aka “Bimbo Theory” joins me here and you can find her on Patreon too. 1:00 her new IG is @bimbo.theory 3:00 what is kink? 7:00 ADHD and sluggish cognitive tempo 9:00 lists and timers can be helpful for ADHD 13:00 moral panic around trans people  15:00 informed...

Why do some people enjoy making visual erotica? How does censorship of consensual sex make it harder to address human trafficking? What can porn teach us for better, or worse? Guest and entertainer Ginger Banks explains her journey and offers resources for learning about porn and the people who make it. Timestamps: 1:00 she’s been kicked off IG six times so far 3:00 market research - what her clie...

Got sexual health questions? Primary care physician and consent educator Dr Evelin Dacker has information and tips for people of all ages. Timestamps:  1:00 meet your doctor 3:00 sexual health isn’t taught to most medical experts 6:00 why does my vulva get wet with a tampon in? 8:00 vulvodynia due to birth control for some folks 12:00 does your doctor deserve your disclosure? 15:00 being “out...

Ever wanted to ask my slutty pals all your most embarrassing questions? We cover a lot with Valentine, a biracial, queer, veteran sex worker, and friend. Let’s talk dating, pornmaking, kink, burnout, and self-help. 1:00 meet your guest, Valentine  4:00 why be closeted?  7:00 filming porn with mascs vs femmes 10:00 pregnant sex workers and choice 13:00 how we feel about sexting apps 22:00...

How does public opinion of sex toys shape their design? On vibrators, let’s talk history, personal preferences, and horror stories with guest and innovative toy designer Ti Chang. 1:00 what was the first vibrator you ever owned? 4:00 some buyers are ashamed of their pleasure 8:00 standards and testing rigor of the future  12:00 sex toys in the mall? Yes and maybe 15:00 common design issues or...

How does a non-theistic religion relate to sexuality, consent, human trafficking, and personal rituals? Our expert academic Dr Sprankle teaches about history and the impacts of religiosity on human sexuality. 1:00 he’s a twitter hit 4:00 this is a good long running joke 8:00 Satanists don’t believe in a literal devil 10:00 no prohibitions on taboos, yes to consent  13:00 occultism or rational...

In a culture that doesn’t understand grief, how do survivors of intimate partner death loss navigate their sexuality? Counselor and author Megan Devine offers help with libido, relationships and shame. 1:00 she was a counselor before her husband died 3:00 reflecting on the “before” life 7:00 death can feel like different rooms in hell  9:00 people are afraid of death and sexuality 12:00 the b...

Have you ever accidentally or knowingly pushed on someone’s boundaries? We all have, so how do we communicate our needs and heal our harm? Let’s talk about queerness, flirting, sex, and accountability in trauma and relationships with writer Clementine Morrigan. 1:00 meet your guest 5:00 examples of how consent can be confused 6:00 queer imposter syndrome 10:00 verbal consent doesn’t work for every...

Is your heart still hurting and you need help with moving on? There’s a book for that, and I chat with the author, counselor Erin E. Davidson. 1:00 guest background 3:00 Elle’s quick tips for getting over people 6:00 breakups can be a type of grief 9:00 when you find excuses to contact them 13:00 recruiting your breakup team 17:00 rumination and “switching tracks” 22:00 life will be better again i...

Foreskin removal and reconstruction: guest Eric Cunningham shares history and medical knowledge relating to penis-altering procedures around the world. 1:00 language disclaimer  5:00 penis circumcision is fairly rare, worldwide 8:00 circumcision in the US originated due to misbeliefs  11:00 war and enslavement and the marking of genitals 15:00 Alexander the great wanted to stop genital c...

For all genders: size anxiety, euphoria, acceptance, and individuality is explained to us by author Elle Chase, CSE. 1:00 this is about body acceptance, not love 5:00 the burden of negative cultural influences 10:00 gender roles for body image 15:00 how are bigger bodied people treated differently? 20:00 FOSTA/SESTA has hurt fat people  25:00 how can straight-sized sex workers help? 31:00 Lis...

 Learn some behind-the-scenes secrets and production tricks as we talk to a xxx performer who has been making adult content for a decade. 1:00 Gem makes porn - meet your guest 5:00 nude model contracts can be weird  10:00 would you prefer to let your spouse manage your OnlyFans? 13:00 likes/dislikes about adult content creation 17:00 chafed labias are a downside of a busy calendar 23:00...

Gay and bisexual men have been hugely impactful on modern fitness and gym culture, and our writer and fitness expert explains how. 2:00 meet your guest 5:00 a famous bisexual sex worker flexing was one of the first film clips 7:00 beefcake magazines 9:00 excessive carbs can lower your libido? 14:00 men, what keeps you closeted? 18:00 discrimination prevents success 22:00 hormones and steroid use&n...

How do current laws and beliefs perpetuate opportunities for sexual abuse of people, specifically children, immigrants, trans people, BIPOC, and sex workers? Let’s talk with an Executive Director for a nonprofit that supports survivors and offers resources, the Cupcake Girls. 2:00 meet our guest - why does a civilian work in anti-trafficking? 5:00 police abuse in oregon  10:00 *deep breath re...

 Let’s talk about genital self-touch with author Vic Liu and learn from Bang For All - their inclusive book on masturbation. 2:00 why write a sex ed book on masturbation 10:00 how masturbation can be good for you 13:00 masturbation myths 20:00 how to increase sensitivity in your vulva 25:00 be mindful of your anal play 27:00 anal numbing creams are so dangerous  32:00 vibrator dependency...

Which sexual scripts and stereotypes do you follow, even if they don’t feel good or make sense? Dr Chris Donaghue explains how to have sex outside the lines and expand your skills and attitudes with yourself and partners. 5:00 throw out your expectations about what sex “should” be like  12:00 approach a partner’s body with curiosity regardless of gender 18:00 controversial idea: fluid and exp...

What can it mean to be kinky and how can we play more safely and creatively? Domina Franco M.Ed has two decades of experience and gives advice and info about kink play and trauma.  4:00 what is kink?  8:00 how some types of play and relationships are pathologized  12:00 on being a joyful sadist and human furniture  20:00 slut play  28:00 a theory on why some people love su...

We all experience jealousy and feel it on a spectrum: learn how to manage it with relationship-building expert Dr Joli Hamilton. 3:00 different relationship styles  6:00 why call it CNM instead of ENM  14:00 what purposes does jealousy serve? 18:00 people don’t like identifying they are jealous - feeling shame about feeling jealous 19:00 how mismanaged jealousy can do great harm 24:00 ho...

How to run yourself as a more sustainable, cheerful and profitable business: business coach Carmen Santos from Racks-to -Riches offers advice for veteran strippers, baby strippers, and civilians. 1:10 most of us auditioning have zero or little knowledge of how to do the jobs 4:00 communication and sales skills matter 7:00 viewing yourself as a business 10:00 intergenerational and gender issues rel...

Facts, FAQs and communication about a common virus that many of us live with, with herpes educator and suicide-prevention organizer Courtney Brame. 2:00 - herpes diagnoses can make people suicidal 7:00 - shame about COVID and herpes  12:00 - skin friction is how herpes is transmitted, sexually or not 19:00 - mental health and sexuality 26:00 - disclosure: when should I? 30:00 - the three most...

Sex coach and author Stella Harris offers advice and tips on how to prep, plan and practice pleasure with three or more partners. 4:00 why do people want to have threesomes? 8:00 conflict is perhaps more likely with more people interacting 12:00 having sex positive friends creates more opportunity for pleasure  17:00 on web options or paying for it 24:00 how do you meet people for a third? 27...

Clinician and author Silva Neves explains common misconceptions about so-called “sex addiction” and gives help to folks navigating distressing concerns about their own sexualities. 4:00 Lack of sexuality training with sex workers  7:30 sex addiction type treatment is shaming of people  9:40 why “sex addiction” is not an accurate term 11:00 your body doesn’t withdraw from lack of sex, and...

On loving the work, being attacked by haters, trans man adult performer Trip Richards shares his experiences with pornmaking, dating, and censorship. 8:00 we are a mish-mosh of identities 12:00 perks of the work 18:00 trans porn resources 25:00 trip was deactivated on IG shortly after this recording 28:00 on cis women + trans man porn demand 32:00 most of us can’t be authentic in capitalism 40:00...