Therapy, Coaching & Dreams

Send us Fan Mail What if your stress, your arguments, and your burnout all point to one simple mismatch—using the right energy at the wrong time? We explore a Jungian-informed model of four energies—Stabilizer, Transformer, Initiator, Responder (STIR)—and show how balancing them reduces conflict, eases burnout, and strengthens relationships. Real client stories ground the ideas in clear steps you...

Send us Fan Mail Ever catch yourself asking, “Is anybody thirsty?” when you really mean, “I am thirsty”? That’s projection. Projection is the way we see our denied traits, desires, needs, and fears in other people. In this episode we dig into projection with clear language, real stories, and actionable tools you can use the next time a small ask turns into a big fight. We break down how projection...

Send us Fan Mail The hardest part of growing up isn’t getting older—it’s seeing yourself clearly. We start with a raw reaction to a public figure’s killing and follow the thread into how midlife shakes our beliefs, our relationships, and the stories we tell about who we are. That shift often arrives as discomfort: a spouse says “I’m unhappy,” a job that once thrilled now numbs, a faith you inherit...

Send us Fan Mail This episode considers the importance of integrating the various personality styles. We explore the sobering shift from rescue fantasies to self-responsibility and how flexible thinking builds emotional safety and connection. Along the way, we unpack the minimized feminine voice, creativity as a practice, and why humor often shows up as armor. • accepting that no one will rescue u...

Send us Fan Mail A single line sparked the conversation: the life you want is on the other side of the work you’re avoiding. From that starting point, we unpack what actually turns insight into movement and why so many smart plans stall before they start. We talk candidly about initiating energy—the force that begins things—and how non‑initiators can find it without trying to become someone they’r...

Send us Fan Mail Ambition can build bridges or burn them—so how do you keep the fire without scorching your team or your relationships? We dive into the Initiator, a personality expression defined by dynamic masculine energy: goal-first, action-forward, and relentlessly independent. Think founders, crisis leaders, and the people who move when everyone else hesitates. We unpack the real strengths—d...

Send us Fan Mail We unpack the Responder style—how nurturing brings safety and connection, and how over-functioning turns love into control.  You’ll hear the difference between static care that over-plans every risk and dynamic care that adapts in the moment. We talk through the classic attraction dance: why unintegrated Responders often choose highly driven, aggressive partners, how dependency er...

Send us Fan Mail Ever been the life of the party—and then felt the crash after? We dig into the “dynamic feminine” energy: the magnetic spark that says the unsaid, generates fun, and moves people forward, but can also ignore limits, dodge accountability, and create chaos when it runs the show. Together, we map where this energy shines at work and at home, and where it needs a counterbalance to sus...

Send us Fan Mail Episode 7: The Four Personality Styles We continue the discussion of personality. We propose that there are four aspects or expressions of personality. Those four aspects include a dynamic energy, a static (or stabilizing) energy, a feminine expression and a masculine expression. These combine to create four different personality types. Most everyone has within them the possibilit...

Send us Fan Mail Feminine, masculine and androgynous characteristics are in every person. This is not a description of male versus female. Rather it is an acknowledgement that human personality has a broad spectrum of expression, and we might benefit greatly from better understanding of those parts of ourselves that dominate our personality and those parts that have remained undeveloped. Cohosts D...

Send us Fan Mail This episode explores the dynamic and static components of our personality. Cohosts Dee Kelley and Jim Shalley provide useful examples of how these different styles complement one another and antagonize one another. Some of the key points include the following:      1. A dynamic energy or style is typically action-oriented, creating movement and change. A static energy or style or...

Send us Fan Mail The cohosts present the Stabilizer personality style, referred to as a static-masculine energy. Everyone has this within them. For some it is dormant and rarely accessed, and for others it is their dominant style. This style is discussed, both in its healthy form and in it dysfunctional form. It is also compared to the other three styles (Initiator, Transformer and Responder). Her...

Send us Fan Mail Episode three continues the discussion of our family of origin and its affects on our current relationships. Here are some of the key concepts and questions.      1. How did your parents handle emotions? (This is not about blaming anybody; it is just diagnostic.)      2. Do you see any similarities between how your parents handled emotions and how you handle emotions in your curre...

Send us Fan Mail Episode two explores how our family of origin affects our adult relationships, particularly in how we handle our emotions. Below are some key ideas and questions considered by your cohosts, Dee Kelley and Jim Shalley.      1. First let’s consider that you are not in a bad marriage. Instead it might be things you don’t yet understand about your family of origin.      2. Consider yo...

Send us Fan Mail This opening episode of the first season of Therapy, Coaching & Dreams (TCD), provides an introduction to therapy and life coaching. The cohosts provide a model for understanding personality, that is based on Jungian principles. There are two different expressions of personality; masculine and feminine. These are not gender specific designations, but rather expressions that ar...