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Secure Relating in an Insecure World (SRIW) Series episode #3, Part 2 of 2 (203/204). This episode is Part II of Racial Trauma, linked with Ep 203.  To make sure you are paying attention 🙂 we are running a series, Secure Relating in an Insecure World, and this is Ep 3 of that series.  Today’s episode is also 2 of 2 in the conversation about racial trauma. Yea, we have so many ideas around h...

Secure Relating in an Insecure World (SRIW) Series episode #1.   Debra Chatman-Finley LPC and Gliceria Pérez LCSW highlight their similarities and differences of being BIPOC women in the United States and encourage an open discussion about racism in our institutions. As they reflect on their careers and experiences, they provide perspectives on how they have navigated their identity and healt...

Finding and maintaining connection and a sense of security in times of fear and general chaos is THE ultimate challenge.  This is a very special episode - co-hosts Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott are joined by 24-year-old homesteader Mason Marriott-Voss, to discuss navigating big generational differences and re-building a sense of security in an uncertain world. This is the first of the new series...

In this episode, explore the significance of our dreams and the potential journeys of growth through a Jungian lens. 

Join Ann and Sue as they discuss the power of association in dreams for connecting with ourselves and updating our inner working models.

Attachment schemas / internal working models - what it means to have our relational history "wired in" with Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott

Learn about the impact and importance of EMDR through a client's eyes with the guidance of an experienced clinician. 

A neonatal therapist brings lessons on co-regulation, intentional energy, and neurodevelopment with Sue Ludwig and Sue Marriott.

Learn to expand your window of tolerance with proven mindfulness-based tools that can help you thrive with Dr. Elizabeth Stanley.

An extremely practical dive into the inner workings of the mind with Dr. Jill Bolte-Taylor & insights from her book, Whole Brain Living.

Don't miss Loretta Ross, a powerhouse teacher who challenges, surprises, inspires, and confronts in a few words - Calling in call-out culture

Find new perspectives on how culture and trauma affect our navigation within the world. Using bottom-up approaches, Jan Winhall explains how addictions are regulation strategies and provides tools to deeper connect to our nervous systems and ourselves. Join as we explore Winhall's "felt sense" model, where she blends neuroception and interoception through a polyvagal lens. Join our online communit...

Dr. Scherer and Dr. Sylvester sit down with co-host Ann Kelley, Ph. D., and break down helpful strategies when co-parenting, integrating attachment into disciplinary styles, and finding balance in our relationships. Introducing structural markers like the "7 Essential Attachment Needs" and emphasizing the importance of the "repair" aspect of relationships, this episode dives into the building bloc...

Attachment 'insecurity" is, in part, a manifestation of patterns of unresolved stress in the child and by extension, the family. Therapists usually think of stress as interpersonal and dyadic; however, that needs to include the context we discuss on this podcast. Context means the circumstances or setting which helps to understand a process more deeply. As Sharon Lambert says in today's episode, y...

You don't have to be totally healed from years of therapy under your belt or a history of secure attachment to develop skills for increased intimacy and secure relating. This is something that anybody, no matter their history, can begin to learn. Channeling your inner awareness to recognize a heightened state of arousal or using visualizations to help stay in a regulated place helps tap into your...

Hair-pulling, skin picking, and cheek, lip, & cuticle biting are self-soothing strategies that depending on degree can become body-focused repetitive behavioral disorders. Learn about a new attachment-informed psychodynamic model for treating these painful, shame-associated behaviors. While we may not be fully aware when we are pulling and picking, these sorts of unconscious behaviors can be an in...

Assumptions block our view of seeing the whole perspective and equip us with a bias that can make our relationships difficult to navigate. Not asking people personal questions or receiving feedback might be underlined unexamined bias. Whether your "moral compass" may get in the way, your assumptions form from cultural influence, or you even feel avoidant of those tougher conversations and just ass...

Throughout this five-session series, we've explored different defenses, self-reflection, and navigating our own internal systems. But how do we navigate something we aren't aware of in the first place? In this episode, Ann and Sue recap the material we've learned and take a dive into suppression versus repression. Organizing defenses on a continuum can help us tap into our own emotions, and better...

Aggression is not a feeling - it is a goal-directed behavior that is frequently associated with feelings such as anger, fear and even hunger.  It is a vital energy that propels us forward with an intention. Aggression can be used for positive or negative gain, it is basically a resource to help us navigate our personal goals, increase intimacy within our relationships, and to act as a catalyst for...

Therapy boot camp - session 3 of a series of 5. When you unconsciously deem "power" as what keeps you "safe" in vulnerable situations, reflecting and rewiring on this dynamic can transform your connections. Human defenses are quite necessary to protect our nervous system and sense of self. The goal isn't to eliminate defenses - but to learn how to regulate them, especially in relationships. Defens...

In the last episode, we explored what Sue and Ann call the 3-R spiral of change, Recognize, Reflect and Rewire.  We also identified various common defenses. In this episode, Ann & Sue break down the different areas of our brain and discuss the roles each can play in our defense responses. Understanding the critical interplay between the amygdala and hippocampus gives us more insight into our own b...

In this first session in a series of 5, Ann and Sue discuss the 3R spiral of chance and get into the nitty gritty of exploring normal human defenses to help you identify and disarm unncessesary armor. Using the full body of work from translated relational neuroscience, modern attachment and depth psychology they break down their professional and personal experience moving from armor back to more c...

Today's episode weaves together psycho-pharmacology, trauma, neuroscience, attachment, and a type of bottom-up intervention called Internal Family Systems (IFS). IFS is an easy to learn and apply technique to explore intrapsychic dynamics and form representations of conflicting self states. Dr. Frank Anderson is a world recognized IFS expert and he walks us through the theory in conversation with...

We've heard of post-traumatic growth, but what about coping while the trauma is actually happening? Co-host Sue Marriott LCSW CGP and trauma expert Arielle Schwartz, Ph. D. take a deep dive into post-traumatic and peri-traumatic growth. This compassionate conversation is full of excellent resources for enduring when overwhelmed. Learn more about yoga for trauma, somatic therapy and EMDR with these...

Deciding who to trust in today's world is especially hard - fake news, political polarization, and societal strife amplify our already on-guard nervous system. When our trust has been broken, whether early in childhood or in our adult relationships, learning who to trust can prove even more challenging. In today's episode, Dr. Steve Finn and Dr. Ann Kelley discuss the science behind epistemic trus...