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⁠it was fun while it lasted, but you're done.how do you let someone know that you're no longer interested? the first step is admitting to yourself that you don't want this relationship anymore. the second step is hearing them out.give the other person the closure they deserve. it's the least you can do.sending you all lots of love and peaaaaaaaaaaaaaaace! https://linktr.ee/thezurki...

when you realize how quickly life can be taken away, you start to appreciate it a lot more. we often live like we have all the time in the world, but we don't. that doesn't mean you need to stress yourself out to the point of burn out, but maybe it means that pushing yourself just a little bit harder. you'll be happy you did so. let this be a sign to get moving in the direction you want to go. sen...

⁠it's not over. are things out of your control? yes. does it feel crushing to not see any progress as you try to improve your situation? absolutely. but it doesn't mean you can't change. be patient, focus on the things you can control. find out what you can change moving forward, DO NOT get stuck ruminating in the past. that's how you build resentment towards yourself. sending you all tons of love...

is that as good as it gets? not at all. we have a lot more control over the "good" moments in our life than we think. and why do we feel to live certain eras of our lives as if that is the "best" time we'll ever get. a lot of my favorite memories are the ones I was the most present for, not the ones I was told were in "the best years of my life". sending you all lots of love and peaaaaaaaaaaace! h...

making friends all starts from you. you have to make the first move. that can be putting yourself in a new situation, such as going to a club meeting or going up to a stranger. the quicker you get out of your comfort zone, the sooner you'll meet the right people for you. one decision to say hello could get you your best friend. be open and most importantly, be patient. these things take time....

there are a ton of hurt people in our generation that decided to wreak havoc on others as a means of coping to what happened to them. it may have happened to you, but it doesn't mean you should inflict it onto other people. that isn't fair to them, and it isn't fair to you. being hurt is a two way street. taking accountability means true freedom. sending you all lots of love and peaaaa...

the end goal shouldn't be to have someone like you. you should go on the date because you want to, and it's good for you to get out of your comfort zone. don't let fear suppress your inner desire to be better and search for something good. if you don't try, you'll never know. sending you all love and peaaaaaaaaace! ⁠https://stan.store/thezurkieshow⁠

trust your gut. if something feels off, if something feels weird, if something feels wrong; changes are it probably is... or pay the price.sending you all lots of love and peaaaaaaaaaaace! https://stan.store/thezurkieshow⁠

⁠it's time to accept that the past won't change. it's good to look at it and realize the lessons you needed to learn, but ruminating in the past is a dead end. I've had to learn that taking people for who they are is the most important thing you can do. it doesn't mean you shouldn't take accountability for your actions, but forgiveness is a two way street. don't confine...

having standards for excellence and being hard on yourself are two different things, but oftentimes we just lump them together. the greats have standards, but they don't beat themselves up more than they have to. if you want to work with yourself to achieve anything in life, you must be fair. you must be able to look into your habits and lifestyle and truly acknowledge if you're doing enough. send...

⁠happy mother's day!!! sending you all lots of love and peaaaaaaaaaace https://stan.store/thezurkieshow⁠

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⁠I feel the need to control it, even if I can't. but in my adulthood, I've learned that doing so does more harm than good. I've found myself worrying about the mistakes I've made instead of doing something to change my future. be conscious about the decisions you make, but don't feel like you need to steer the outcome to your favor each time. the more you focus on what you can...

why should we try to be ourselves? what if we aren't our crush's type? isn't life all about changing? yes, but not for other people. "just be yourself" is cliche, but it's also difficult. being genuine isn't easy. it means opening yourself up to criticism and discomfort. but the pay off is being able to live your life in a way that feels real, not like you're having to fit a mold. stop performing...

I used to ignore my own pain. I didn't see it as something I needed to address because I could always find a distraction to get me thinking about something else. it worked for a while, until suddenly I found myself deep in a trench that I couldn't see out of. we experience pain because our body wants us to address an issue. we feel pain emotionally because our mind wants us to just acknowledge tha...

if you wait for the applause, it'll never come. we often wait for others to celebrate us so much that we forget why we do things in our own lives. don't get me wrong, being celebrated is a great feeling. I love being told that I'm doing a good job. however, that only feels genuine when I'm working on doing something that matters to me. if I focus too much on how I will be perceived and what it wil...

life is suffering. so if we're going to go through hardships regardless, maybe it's worth giving ourselves grace. in my life, I've found the most peace when I consciously decide to look into the positive side of the challenges I face. it isn't easy, but it makes things just that much more better. maybe optimism drives you nuts, but don't knock it until you've given it a fai...

it's time to crash out. whenever I let myself feel the negative emotions that have hindered my ability to feel good about myself, I end up learning what the root of my suffering is. maybe instead of suppressing your frustration, give it the time of day. Sometimes all we need is for our thoughts to be acknowledged so that we can keep moving forward. you got this, I believe in you. sending you lots...

life never goes according to plan. you can try to push back on the changes, but rolling with the punches allows you to build something better for yourself. just as long as you keep swimming through the trenches, you'll make it to where you need to go. don't hold back, just stay in there. sending you lots of love and peaaaaaaaaace! https://stan.store/thezurkieshow⁠

I know deep down we don't want to seem like we care, but we do. I've learned to accept the fact that I missed my ex-partner at one point or another. there's no shame in it. but I also know there is a big difference between the person they are and the person I "fell in love" with. feel those emotions, feel the sadness, feel the pain of seeing them with someone else. we need to...

you were meant for more. maybe you cringe thinking about it because you're scared of how other people would perceive you, but it's true. if you feel like your current situation isn't working, it's your responsibility to do something about it. and usually, that means leaving your old self behind. you got this. I'm sending you lots of love and peaaaaaaaaace! https://stan.store/th...

sometimes we need to treat ourselves as if we were a D.I.Y. project that your dad was obsessed with even though your mom begged him to "just buy it" at Menards or Home Depot. it takes time to change, but more importantly, it takes evidence. if you feel like the evidence is stacked against the person you want to be, you won't believe in your progress. just try to focus on the things you can do for...

I used to run to relationships as a way to distract myself from my own fear of being alone. I was convinced I was never going to be worthy enough to be loved by someone else. it was after I accepted my irrational fear as a possibility that I finally started to live life on my terms. ask yourself if you're dating someone because you like them and who they are, or are you just entertaining a per...

I can't be perfect. it pains me because I want to be perfect.but as human beings, we are flawed. what makes us so special is the way we deal with the mistakes we make on a day to day basis. make mistakes, own up to them and try your best to be better. that's all you can ask of others, including yourself. sending you lots of love and peaaaaaaaaaace ⁠https://stan.store/thezurkieshow⁠

it's cool to care. it's great to have an opinion. it's awesome to stick by your interests because you find value in them and you think others should know about it. the people who care tend to uplift us and build the things we need as a society. so be a nerd, and a passionate one at that. sending you lots of love and peaaaaaaaace. https://stan.store/thezurkieshow⁠