The Zachary Stockill Podcast

In today’s video, I’m going to share five reasons why jealous behavior doesn’t work. Read or watch below to learn about the top-5 reasons why jealous behavior doesn’t work. Zachary Stockill: If you’re struggling with any kind of irrational jealousy in your relationship or in your dating life, this can involve things like obsessive jealousy, […] The post Jealous Behavior DOESN’T Work: Here Are The...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about possibly the number one factor that holds many retroactive jealousy sufferers back. Read or watch below to discover a new perspective on the meaning of your partner’s past. Zachary Stockill: As you may or may not know, I’ve been working on this issue of overcoming retroactive jealousy for […] The post The Meaning of Your Partner’s Past: Does THIS Hold You...

In today’s video, I’m going to share a possible “secret” for how to stay together in a long-term relationship. Read or watch below to learn the secret of staying together. Zachary Stockill: There are a lot of videos on the internet with people talking about the secret of staying together, how to make love last, how […] The post SECRET of Staying Together: Is This It? [VIDEO] appeared first on Over...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about the #1 key to long-term health and happiness, according to the world’s longest research study on human flourishing. Read or watch below to learn about the key to long-term happiness. Zachary Stockill: Scientists and researchers have recently discovered the number one key to human health and long-term […] The post Key To Long-Term Happiness DISCOVERED in Ne...

In today’s video, I respond to a reader who tells me “I found out about my wife’s past by accident.” Read or watch below if you can relate to this reader, who “found out about my wife’s past by accident.” Zachary Stockill: One of the common components of retroactive jealousy is wanting to go snooping for […] The post “Found Out About My Wife’s Past by ACCIDENT… Help!” Q & A [VIDEO] appeared first...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about a thought experiment you can try if you feel like your girlfriend’s past relationships are “killing” you. Read or watch below if you’ve ever said the words “My girlfriend’s past is killing me!” Zachary Stockill: As you probably know, I get endless emails from retroactive jealousy sufferers from […] The post “My Girlfriend’s Past Is KILLING Me… Help!” Q & A...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about a term that could be applicable to some people who struggle with their partner’s past– retroactive envy. Read or watch below to learn more about retroactive envy. Zachary Stockill: I speak a great deal about something called retroactive jealousy. Which basically refers to unwanted intrusive thoughts, and often […] The post Is It Retroactive ENVY… Or Retroa...

In today’s video, I want to cover a very common cognitive distortion: personalization. Read or watch below to learn more about personalization. Zachary Stockill: In today’s video, I want to cover a very common cognitive distortion, which is personalization. So what is personalization? The simplistic answer is continually taking things way, way, way too personally. […] The post What is “Personaliza...

In today’s video, I’m going to share my #1 question that I believe every retroactive jealousy sufferer needs to ask themselves. Read or watch below to learn more about my #1 question to retroactive jealousy sufferers. Zachary Stockill: I’m speaking to you today in the first month of the new year. And I think the first […] The post My #1 Question for Retroactive Jealousy Sufferers [VIDEO] appeared...

In today’s video, I’m going to cover the cognitive distortion of “labeling.” Read or watch below to learn more about labeling. Zachary Stockill: Hello and welcome back to my ongoing series on retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions. In today’s video, we’re going to cover a classic, and that is the cognitive distortion of labeling.  So what […] The post What is “Labeling?” (RJ and Cognitive...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about something we are all guilty of: the cognitive distortion of “magnification.” Read or watch below to learn more about “magnification.” Zachary Stockill: Welcome back to my ongoing series on retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions. Very briefly, before we get into it: the term retroactive jealousy refers to unwanted […] The post What is “Magnification...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about the cognitive distortion of “emotional reasoning,” a common pitfall of retroactive jealousy sufferers. Read or watch below to learn more about emotional reasoning. Zachary Stockill: Hello and welcome back to my ongoing series on retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions.  In today’s video, we’re going to talk about one […] The post What is Emotional R...

Today, we’re covering the cognitive distortion of “should” statements, particularly prevalent among retroactive jealousy sufferers. Read or watch below to understand “should” statements. Zachary Stockill: Welcome back to my ongoing series on retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions. In today’s video, we’re covering the cognitive distortion of “should” statements.  A quick note for the people...

Recently, I appeared on The Jealousy Junkie Podcast for a guest interview on retroactive jealousy. You can watch the interview below: In the interview for The Jealousy Junkie Podcast, I discussed my personal history with retroactive jealousy, my work, and how to start overcoming intrusive thoughts about your partner’s past, and more. I hope you […] The post Zachary Stockill Interview for The Jealo...

One of the best parts of my job is waking up to retroactive jealousy success stories in my email inbox. Recently, I received a moving and inspiring new RJ success story from a former student of mine named Josie. Josie’s story is the subject of today’s blog post. Josie struggled with painful, relentless intrusive thoughts […] The post Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: Josie’s Story [AUDIO] appeared...

My primary message: stop living like you have more time, because unfortunately, you may not. Read or watch below to learn more about my message for the new year… Zachary Stockill: There’s a reason why I’m recording this video right now on my phone instead of my fancy camera and without the intro and without […] The post My Message To You for the New Year [VIDEO] appeared first on Overcoming Retroa...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about something that I’m sure many retroactive jealousy sufferers can relate to: “discounting the positive.” Read or watch below to learn more about the cognitive distortion of discounting the positive. Zachary Stockill: Welcome back to my ongoing series about retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions.  In today’s video, I’m going […] The post What is Disco...

In today’s video, I share a conversation with Johnny, a recent graduate of my “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast” online course. Read or watch below to learn how Johnny beat retroactive jealousy. Zachary: First off, once again, Johnny, thanks a lot for making time for me today. Johnny: You’re very welcome. Thank you. I […] The post How Johnny Beat Retroactive Jealousy [VIDEO] appeared first on Ove...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about something that is common among many, if not most retroactive jealousy sufferers, and that is jumping to conclusions. Read or watch below to learn more about jumping to conclusions and its role in retroactive jealousy. Zachary Stockill: Hello and welcome back to my ongoing series on retroactive […] The post Jumping to Conclusions (RJ and Cognitive Distortio...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about a cognitive distortion called mental filtering.  Read or watch below to learn more about the cognitive distortion of mental filtering. Zachary Stockill: Welcome back to my ongoing series about retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions.  In today’s video, I’m going to talk about something called mental filtering.  Okay, if […] The post What is Mental F...

In today’s video, we’re going to cover a very common cognitive distortion called overgeneralization. Read or watch below to learn more about overgeneralization. Zachary Stockill: Welcome to part two of my new series on retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions. Today we’re going to cover a very, very common cognitive distortion called overgeneralization.  Just to remind you, […] The post What...

In today’s video, I introduce a concept from Cognitive Behavior Therapy called “cognitive distortions,” which will be useful for anyone struggling with retroactive jealousy. I will also cover what is referred to as “all or nothing” thinking. Read or watch below to learn more about retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions. Zachary Stockill: The older I get, […] The post Retroactive Jealousy a...

In today’s video, I want to address a viewer’s question about “keeping things casual,” and beating retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below to learn more about whether you should avoid relationships because of retroactive jealousy. Zachary Stockill: So, as you may or may not know, I’ve been putting out content on the topic of retroactive jealousy […] The post “Should I AVOID Relationships Because...

In today’s video, I share a conversation with Jacob, a retroactive jealousy sufferer and recent graduate of my online course, “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast.” Read or watch below to hear Jacob’s remarkable story of beating retroactive jealousy. Zachary: Once again, Jacob, thank you so much for doing this. I really appreciate it. So, […] The post Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: Jacob’s Story [...

Today, I respond to a viewer question: “What should one look at within themselves if one tends to attract a very needy girlfriend?” Read or watch below to learn more about what attracts a very needy girlfriend/boyfriend. Zachary Stockill: I’ll keep the preamble brief. In today’s video, I’m going to talk about what you should look […] The post “My Girlfriend is Needy… What Should I Do?” Q & A [VIDE...