The Zachary Stockill Podcast

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about something we are all guilty of: the cognitive distortion of “magnification.” Read or watch below to learn more about “magnification.” Zachary Stockill: Welcome back to my ongoing series on retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions. Very briefly, before we get into it: the term retroactive jealousy refers to unwanted […] The post What is “Magnification...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about the cognitive distortion of “emotional reasoning,” a common pitfall of retroactive jealousy sufferers. Read or watch below to learn more about emotional reasoning. Zachary Stockill: Hello and welcome back to my ongoing series on retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions.  In today’s video, we’re going to talk about one […] The post What is Emotional R...

Today, we’re covering the cognitive distortion of “should” statements, particularly prevalent among retroactive jealousy sufferers. Read or watch below to understand “should” statements. Zachary Stockill: Welcome back to my ongoing series on retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions. In today’s video, we’re covering the cognitive distortion of “should” statements.  A quick note for the people...

Recently, I appeared on The Jealousy Junkie Podcast for a guest interview on retroactive jealousy. You can watch the interview below: In the interview for The Jealousy Junkie Podcast, I discussed my personal history with retroactive jealousy, my work, and how to start overcoming intrusive thoughts about your partner’s past, and more. I hope you […] The post Zachary Stockill Interview for The Jealo...

One of the best parts of my job is waking up to retroactive jealousy success stories in my email inbox. Recently, I received a moving and inspiring new RJ success story from a former student of mine named Josie. Josie’s story is the subject of today’s blog post. Josie struggled with painful, relentless intrusive thoughts […] The post Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: Josie’s Story [AUDIO] appeared...

My primary message: stop living like you have more time, because unfortunately, you may not. Read or watch below to learn more about my message for the new year… Zachary Stockill: There’s a reason why I’m recording this video right now on my phone instead of my fancy camera and without the intro and without […] The post My Message To You for the New Year [VIDEO] appeared first on Overcoming Retroa...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about something that I’m sure many retroactive jealousy sufferers can relate to: “discounting the positive.” Read or watch below to learn more about the cognitive distortion of discounting the positive. Zachary Stockill: Welcome back to my ongoing series about retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions.  In today’s video, I’m going […] The post What is Disco...

In today’s video, I share a conversation with Johnny, a recent graduate of my “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast” online course. Read or watch below to learn how Johnny beat retroactive jealousy. Zachary: First off, once again, Johnny, thanks a lot for making time for me today. Johnny: You’re very welcome. Thank you. I […] The post How Johnny Beat Retroactive Jealousy [VIDEO] appeared first on Ove...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about something that is common among many, if not most retroactive jealousy sufferers, and that is jumping to conclusions. Read or watch below to learn more about jumping to conclusions and its role in retroactive jealousy. Zachary Stockill: Hello and welcome back to my ongoing series on retroactive […] The post Jumping to Conclusions (RJ and Cognitive Distortio...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about a cognitive distortion called mental filtering.  Read or watch below to learn more about the cognitive distortion of mental filtering. Zachary Stockill: Welcome back to my ongoing series about retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions.  In today’s video, I’m going to talk about something called mental filtering.  Okay, if […] The post What is Mental F...

In today’s video, we’re going to cover a very common cognitive distortion called overgeneralization. Read or watch below to learn more about overgeneralization. Zachary Stockill: Welcome to part two of my new series on retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions. Today we’re going to cover a very, very common cognitive distortion called overgeneralization.  Just to remind you, […] The post What...

In today’s video, I introduce a concept from Cognitive Behavior Therapy called “cognitive distortions,” which will be useful for anyone struggling with retroactive jealousy. I will also cover what is referred to as “all or nothing” thinking. Read or watch below to learn more about retroactive jealousy and cognitive distortions. Zachary Stockill: The older I get, […] The post Retroactive Jealousy a...

In today’s video, I want to address a viewer’s question about “keeping things casual,” and beating retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below to learn more about whether you should avoid relationships because of retroactive jealousy. Zachary Stockill: So, as you may or may not know, I’ve been putting out content on the topic of retroactive jealousy […] The post “Should I AVOID Relationships Because...

In today’s video, I share a conversation with Jacob, a retroactive jealousy sufferer and recent graduate of my online course, “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast.” Read or watch below to hear Jacob’s remarkable story of beating retroactive jealousy. Zachary: Once again, Jacob, thank you so much for doing this. I really appreciate it. So, […] The post Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: Jacob’s Story [...

Today, I respond to a viewer question: “What should one look at within themselves if one tends to attract a very needy girlfriend?” Read or watch below to learn more about what attracts a very needy girlfriend/boyfriend. Zachary Stockill: I’ll keep the preamble brief. In today’s video, I’m going to talk about what you should look […] The post “My Girlfriend is Needy… What Should I Do?” Q & A [VIDE...

In today’s video, I’m going to answer a viewer question: “My girlfriend’s past is a dealbreaker. Should I try to work through this, or leave?” Read or watch below to hear my response to a viewer who tells me “my girlfriend’s past is a dealbreaker.” Zachary Stockill: I received an interesting and thought-provoking comment on […] The post “My Girlfriend’s Past Is a Dealbreaker… Time to Leave?” Q & A...

In today’s video, I’m going to share a quick method to know whether you’re truly trusting your partner or not. Read or watch below to discover more about what trusting your partner truly means. Zachary Stockill: If I were to ask most of the people watching this video whether they truly trust their partner, my guess […] The post Trusting Your Partner? Here’s How to KNOW For Sure [VIDEO] appeared fi...

In today’s video, I talk about one of the most important and impactful books that helped me overcome retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below how the book Man’s Search for Meaning can help you beat retroactive jealousy. Zachary Stockill: Back when I was struggling with retroactive jealousy, it probably won’t surprise you to know that I […] The post “Man’s Search for Meaning” and Overcoming Retroa...

In today’s video, I share my number one tip for any man who is interested in “vetting” for a potential girlfriend or wife. Read or watch below to learn more about how to vet a potential girlfriend. Zachary Stockill: So you’ve met some incredible woman who you can’t seem to get enough of. She laughs at […] The post How to Vet a Potential Girlfriend: My #1 Tip [VIDEO] appeared first on Overcoming Re...

In today’s video, I talk about four crucial steps for how to feel more confident in your relationship. Read or watch below to learn more about how to feel more confident in your relationship. Zachary Stockill: If you follow me on Instagram, you’re probably aware that periodically I will do Instagram Live Q&A’s. Occasionally, I get […] The post How To Feel More Confident in Your Relationship: 4 Tip...

In today’s video, I’m going to offer a few thoughts for men troubled by the fact that their girlfriend or wife used to be promiscuous. Read or watch below to discover my response to the question “My Girlfriend Was Promiscuous in Her Past… Should I Be Concerned?” Zachary Stockill: For almost 10 years of one on […] The post “My Girlfriend Was Promiscuous… Should I Be Worried?” Q & A [VIDEO] appeared...

Today, I’m sharing an inspiring conversation with Matt, as well as his story of overcoming retroactive jealousy, a former student from my online course, “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast.” Read or watch, below to learn more about Matt’s story of overcoming retroactive jealousy. Zachary: Thank you so much for doing this. I really appreciate […] The post Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy Story: Matt...

In today’s video, I respond to a common question: “What can you do when you’re single to prevent a retroactive jealousy relapse in your next relationship?” Read or watch below to learn more on how to prevent a retroactive jealousy relapse. Zachary Stockill: I was recently hanging out on Instagram doing a Q&A with my followers. […] The post Retroactive Jealousy Relapse: 3 Tips to PREVENT One In The...

In today’s video, I respond to a viewer of my YouTube channel who’s worried because his girlfriend has a “past,” and he doesn’t. Read on or watch below to discover what to do if your girlfriend has a past, but you don’t. Zachary Stockill: The term retroactive jealousy refers to unwanted intrusive thoughts and obsessive curiosity […] The post “Girlfriend Has a Past… And I Don’t. What to Do?” Q & A...

Today, I’m going to address a question I occasionally get from male retroactive jealousy sufferers: “My girlfriend’s past turns me on. Am I weird? What does it mean?” Read or watch below to discover why some men may feel “my girlfriend’s past turns me on.” Zachary Stockill: In today’s video, I’m going to address a common […] The post “Girlfriend’s Past Turns Me On… What Does It Mean?” Q & A [VIDEO...