The Youth Pastor’s Wife Podcast

You want godly friends. You want to feel known, supported, and invited in. But if we’re being honest… making friends as an adult (especially in ministry) can feel awkward, frustrating, and just plain hard.   If you’ve ever thought, “I wish someone would invite me to coffee…” or “I’m tired of feeling left out,” this episode is for you.   We’re talking about what it actually looks like to go first —...

Between youth group chaos, church events, and that one person who always needs “just five minutes” after service, being married in ministry can start to feel like a never-ending game of tag — and you're always “it.” If you've been craving more connection with your husband but aren’t sure where to start, this episode is for you.   I’m sharing 8 simple, no-pressure habits that have helped Kevin and...

Let’s talk boundaries — the kind that keep you sane when your phone won’t stop buzzing, people keep asking for “just one more thing,” and social media makes you feel like you’re somehow not doing enough.   In today’s episode, I’m sharing 3 boundaries I’m learning to set without feeling guilty (okay… trying not to feel guilty). We’re talking about not answering every phone call like it’s an emergen...

Ever had one of those weeks where everything goes wrong right before a big youth event? Or maybe you’ve felt unusually disconnected from your husband, discouraged in your role, or just weighed down by something you can’t explain? Yeah… that might not be “just life.”   In this episode, we’re diving into the very real (but often overlooked) reality of spiritual warfare—what it is, how it shows up in...

Have you ever sat in a room full of people and still felt completely alone? Like you’re showing up week after week, supporting your husband, loving on students… but deep down, you feel invisible? Maybe you’ve cried in secret and thought, “I don’t even know who I can talk to about this.”   If that’s you — I’ve been there too. And this episode is for you.   We’re talking about what it feels like to...

If you want to lead a small group for students—and you even feel like God’s nudging you to do it—but you have no idea where to start (and honestly, you're a little freaked out), this is the episode for you!    I’m breaking down the exact format I use for our student small groups (yep—copy and paste it if you want to). I’ll walk you through setting group norms, using fun ice breakers that aren’t cr...

When your husband’s in ministry and his schedule is all over the place (what even is a weekend?), creating a routine can feel...laughable. Late nights, weekend events, last-minute texts that somehow turn into counseling sessions… yeah, it’s a whole thing. So how in the world are you supposed to build a routine when your life feels like a never-ending game of “what day is it again?”   In this episo...

Have you ever walked away from a youth night thinking, “Did that even matter?” Maybe you’ve shown up, served, supported your husband, stayed up late, cleaned up the mess—and still felt like no one noticed. If you’ve ever wondered if any of it is actually making a difference, this episode is for you.   I know what it’s like to feel tired, discouraged, and invisible in ministry. Today, I want to spe...

Let’s be real—youth camp is one of the most powerful, exhausting, overwhelming, and amazing things we get to be part of as youth pastors' wives. But if you’re already feeling stressed just thinking about packing, schedules, and the nonstop chaos, you’re not alone.   The good news? You don’t have to just survive camp—you can actually thrive in it.   In today’s episode, I’m sharing my top 10 practic...

When I first stepped into the role of a youth pastor’s wife, I was eager to be involved—but I kept hearing older pastors' wives say, “I’m not in ministry—he is.” And honestly? That really messed with me. It made me question what I felt like God was calling me to do.   In today’s episode, we’re talking about that tension—how to navigate the desire to serve together, what to do when other voices dis...

Ministry is all about people… but what happens when one of those people just gets under your skin? Maybe you’ve tried to shake it off, stay polite, or even pray it away—but the tension is still there. If you’ve ever wondered, “What do I do when I don’t get along with someone on the team?”—this episode is for you.   We’re having a heart-to-heart about what it looks like to navigate tricky relations...

Ever poured your heart into a student—showed up to their games, grabbed coffee with them, prayed for them like crazy—only to feel like...nothing’s changing? 🙃 It’s honestly one of the most discouraging parts of student ministry. You want to be intentional. You want to make a difference. But how do you know if you’re investing in the right student?   In this episode, we’re talking about what it re...

Ever feel like your life revolves around keeping everyone else happy—even at the expense of your own peace? Trust me, I’ve been there. People-pleasing can feel good in the moment, but it’s exhausting, overwhelming, and honestly, it’s not what God calls us to do.   In this episode, I’m sharing the exact mindset shift that's helping me break free from the pressure to make everyone happy. We’ll talk...

Have you ever felt stuck watching your husband navigate a tough ministry situation — especially when it involves a difficult lead pastor?   It’s hard to know what to do or say when he’s discouraged or frustrated, and honestly, it can feel pretty overwhelming.   In this episode, we’re having a heart-to-heart about how to support your husband when ministry leadership is challenging. I’ll share some...

If you want to change the way you approach conversations with your students, your husband, your church members, or really anyone in your life, then you're going to LOVE this episode!   Today, I’m sharing a game-changing concept my counselor taught me called 3-way listening. It’s all about listening to the person in front of you, tuning into the Holy Spirit, and responding in a way that helps the o...

Do you ever feel like your quiet time has to be long, deep, and perfectly structured to “count”? In this episode, we’re letting go of that pressure and embracing the true purpose of spending time with God—connection, not perfection.   I’ll share practical ways to simplify your quiet time, make it sustainable in any season, and remove the guilt that often comes with it. Whether you have 10 minutes...

Ministry never slows down, which means if we’re going to rest, we have to be intentional about it. But how do you prioritize rest when there’s always another student to check in on, another event to plan, or another late-night text to respond to?   In this episode, we’re diving into what it really looks like to rest when ministry feels like it never stops. We’ll talk about setting boundaries, maki...

Does it feel like you and your husband are just passing each other in the chaos of ministry and everyday life? Between church events, family responsibilities, and everything in between, it’s easy to feel disconnected. But what if a simple 20-minute check-in each week could bring you closer, help you communicate better, and strengthen your marriage?   In this episode, we’re talking about The Weekly...

I had a very different plan for the episode I was going to release today, but I'm switching it up because this is something we need to talk about.   Life is just hard sometimes. Ministry can feel overwhelming, your marriage can feel stretched thin, and on top of it all, you still have regular life things to deal with—health struggles, financial stress, job changes, family issues. If you’re in a se...

Leading a small group is one of the most rewarding things you can do in ministry, but let’s be real—it can also be a little intimidating. Maybe you’re wondering how to get students to actually talk (instead of just staring at you in silence), or you’re trying to figure out how to balance fun with real discipleship. I get it—leading a small group can feel like a lot, but it doesn’t have to be compl...

When your husband is interviewing for a youth pastor position, it can feel like everything is up in the air. You want to be helpful, but you’re not always sure how. Should you help him prepare? How do you encourage him without adding pressure? And what do you do with all the emotions that come with waiting for an answer?   I’ve been there. When my husband was interviewing for a new ministry role a...

Does it ever feel like being vulnerable is just too risky—like everyone’s expecting you to have it all together so you can’t let your guard down? Same, girl. Same. But here’s the thing: I've learned firsthand that vulnerability is the key to deeper relationships, a stronger ministry, and real spiritual growth.   In this episode, we’re talking about why it’s so hard to be vulnerable, but also why i...

Let’s be real—ministry life is busy, and sometimes it feels like every conversation with your husband revolves around church stuff. But your marriage is about more than just serving together; it’s about actually enjoying life together. So how do you make sure your relationship stays strong beyond Sunday mornings and church events?   In this episode, we’re talking about simple, intentional ways to...

Have you ever wondered what your purpose really is as a youth pastor’s wife? Maybe you feel like you’re just there to support your husband, but deep down, you’re asking, "Does Jesus have something specific for me too?"   In this episode, we’re diving into what it truly means to walk in the calling Jesus has for you as a youth pastor's wife. I’ll share my own journey of figuring this out—the questi...

Does it ever feel like ministry is taking over your life, and your family is getting the leftovers? You’re not alone! Balancing family and ministry can be really hard, but it doesn’t have to feel impossible.   In this episode, I'm giving you three simple systems that can help you protect your time, prioritize your people, and still serve your church well. Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, stretc...