The Yellow Pill Podcast

It's the Season Finale People! And we're wrapping up the season with the notion of building a good life in an unsteady world. I’m guessing you were born in the 90s like we were. Many of us are still waiting for the fairytale adulthood to begin, even though we are physically there.  For many, rent consumes half or most of our income, and many of us delay ‘life plans’ waiting to be more settled (whi...

How many of us are strangers to experiences of bullying? Either as the bully or the bullied? If we were to guess, we’d say not many. We say this confidently because bullying in all forms is rampant in all societies. It is also a very complex experience and hence, a complex topic. First, bullying can occur in many forms whether through physical, verbal, social, or even online means. Because of thes...

Who are you? What is your real self? How would your close friends describe you? Forming our ‘selves’ is a lifelong, intense process, especially while we're young. It is also heavily influenced by our physical environments & the people in those environments. To establish our ‘selves’, we all experiment with different interests, ideas, and, above all, self-presentations. By self-presentation, we mea...

"To err is human, to forgive, divine.”  ― Alexander Pope Forgiveness seems to be one of those complex events that we take for granted and assume we understand to the fullest.  We all know that saying “forgive and forget”.  Right, like it is that simple.  Sometimes we equate forgiveness with pardon, condonation, and/or excusing bad behaviour.  Many times we don’t even know who the act of forgiving...

Damn, breakups are hard, and we don't mean just with romantic relationships. If we consider the deep influence couples in relationships, 'situationships', talking stages and so on exert on each other, it is not too surprising that ending relationships can be one of the most emotional, distressing, painful events adults can experience. One thing that contributes to the distress we experience during...

Ageing is inevitable. Yet many of us have a sense of fear, anxiety, or ambivalence about growing old. For some, it is the pressure of meeting certain ‘milestones’ before a certain age. For others, it is the avoidance of physically looking their age. This is not surprising given that many of us younger folks apply a range of negative stereotypes to older adults. These negative perceptions of ageing...

When it comes to #sex and #abstinence, it is a no brainer that our perspective about it greatly depends on our worldview, beliefs, experiences & more. The journey of abstinence till marriage may seem old-school but our research showed us that it is not as scarce as one may think. Now, although the internet is replete with pros and cons of practising abstinence, we noticed that several issues, chal...

When we recorded “Losing Religion” last season, we aimed to explore the thoughts, motivations, & interests behind agnosticism & atheism at large. This episode takes a different turn. It poses more questions about the core of what we’ve largely overlooked, our natural religious instincts.     You see, there can be arguments made for the idea that the society & culture we inhabit today, is the most...

If love is one of the ultimate, most desirable experiences of human life, what makes it so? Giving love or receiving love? Some have said that receiving love in a somewhat unconditional positive form is a crucial key to happiness and can sometimes feel like winning the lottery. Others have said that giving love and learning the difficult “art of loving” is the crucial thing that offers us emotiona...

On any given day, we navigate conversations with loved ones, colleagues, and friends, both to connect with people and to communicate with them.   We long for real conversation, not always because we knowingly feel that way, but because we yearn to experience the best and most substantial versions of others we come across. We also long for the most real part of ourselves to be understood and liked...

Your two favourite co-hosts are back for the seventh season of the Yellow Pill podcast! Listen in to find out what we've been up to during a much-needed break and what we've got in store this season. . . . As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love! Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫 Follow us on Twitter ( @yellowpill_pod ) 🐦 Follow u...

Thanks for tuning in! As part of our off-season series, we discussed trending issues at home and abroad. In this episode, we spoke about the relationship between mainland China and the African continent. There's been a lot of talk in the news about China's debt-trap diplomacy (a term in international finance which describes a creditor country or institution extending debt to a borrowing nation par...

Thanks for tuning in! On this bonus episode, Tobi sat down with one of his close friends, Anjola, to chat a bit about the experience of being a millennial Christian focusing on experiences such as being hurt by the church, defending one's faith in public spaces, and a lot more. Tobi and Anjola tried to make the conversation very practical, so even if you do not identify as a Christian or are gener...

In this new monologue from our off-season, Wole runs through his thoughts on the idea of engagement proposals as performances and the impact culture and history have on the expectations surrounding the act itself. This monologue was centred around 3 main contemplations: To what extent are proposals performed front-stage as actual performances. How proposals are developed backstage behind the scene...

Thanks for tuning in!   In this opinion piece from our off-season, Tobi caught up with a friend to chat about a book they had both read titled "The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now" - by Meg Jay.   Their conversation was centred around 3 of the main themes covered in the book: Identity Capital Weak Ties Making difficult decisions  It was a fun conversa...

Thanks for tuning in! In this monologue from our off-season, Wole runs through his thoughts exploring the relationship between parental figures, masculinity, and superhero films we've all come to love. A lot of comic book superheroes have dead parents. For many, that loss is a defining moment in their backstories that helps to set them on their journey. But is there more to this than immediately m...

Thanks for tuning in! As part of our off-season series, we discussed trending issues at home and abroad. In this episode, we discussed the ongoing 2-year-old pandemic touching on some of the questions, narratives, science, and data that keep popping up.  . . . If you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can support us! Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫 Follow us on Tw...

(Hi! Please take a few minutes to fill out a survey we put together about the podcast!) We don’t choose the environment we are born into, yet our environment shapes our core beliefs. Our families, friends, newsfeeds, and experiences in the world reaffirm the assumptions we have, which then become beliefs, which then become paradigms that are the frameworks for how we live our lives. From fleeting...

In this episode, we dove into a conversation around the laws of nature when it comes to mate selection. Yes, you read that right, mate selection. This was partly inspired by the work of evolutionary theorist, David Buss on sex differences in choosing a short or long-term partner. According to Buss, we all create strategies and preferences in mate selection, but these are different for men and wome...

As young boys, one could say male friendships tended to come more naturally for us. But as we’ve grown older, you can argue that men mostly have associations they share a common interest with - replacing interpersonal bonds that arise from a relationship of mutual affection with mostly a system of social hierarchy or activities that don’t require talking or conversation. Maybe it's because society...

Many of us make assumptions about interracial relationships, but do we really understand how interracial couples experience their relationship together? whether they see themselves as “interracial”? and what struggles and challenges they face? In this episode, we sat down with our lovely friends Dabi and Jon to discuss how they perceive and negotiate their journey as a couple of different races an...

Okay, let's start by saying that the idea that men & women (heterosexual) cannot be friends is antiquated. But it’s also not that simple. In some ways, some of us see opposite-sex friendships the same as same-sex friendships. We initiate them for the same reasons like shared interests, companionship, good times etc. But are these the only ‘coincidental’ ’reasons? Are there any other reasons and mo...

Growing up in certain parts of the world can be an extreme sport, with some areas being more extreme than others. For those of us who grew up in Nigeria, living with some levels of insecurity is kind of the norm. From kidnappings to carjackings, religious killings, armed banditry, ethnic clashes and more, these violent crimes have increasingly become regular signatures that characterise life in Ni...

One of the modern social norms that we all voluntarily practice in our 20s or 30s, compared to a century ago, is the postponement of childbearing. This is usually because we delay marriage, or pursue educational or career goals, or wish to first secure some economic stability. Because of this, the common thing we are often taught or seek out to be aware of is knowing how to protect against pregnan...

The history we all share is replete with injustice, often spearheaded by people and systems in power. If you take a historical journey through the 20th and 21st centuries, you might easily spot infamous Tyrants who have spurred injustice across all continents. In this episode, we used the Tyranny Playbook from the Netflix docu-series, HOW TO BECOME A TYRANT, as a guide to see possible repeating pa...