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“The fact is no one can achieve success by themselves. They say successful people read that's a fact and they learn from others that's another fact, but life comes with one manual. The learned behaviors and the people who are in our circle are our instructors. “Frances Hammond When I was a child cartoons were something I would look forward to every Saturday morning. Today the new generation has no...

It Black History Month and so many hidden gems are now being told. Why? Because of the omissions of the contributions of Black people we were cheated of the many important facts about history. Listen instead of buying the up to date sneakers and video games spend time with your children and teach them about the contributions that Black people made to the world. What would the world look like if we...

Let Me Reintroduce Myself Many have not heard of The Unexpected Detour podcast well let me reintroduce myself. I am Frances Hammond, your host of the podcast as well as a blogger with the exact same title. In 2017 I was diagnosed with Stage 2 Triple Positive breast cancer and hearing news was a nightmare. I had just turned 60, had negative mammograms for twenty years, then cancer.  Talking about t...

“Separation anxiety is a universal phenomenon; indeed, it is such an intimate and familiar emotion that we almost have to make a special effort to realize that it is a concern which accompanies every instant of our everyday lives.” – Jean-Michel Quinodoz Separation Anxiety is a form of mental health issues. Whether we want to accept it or not we all have or will deal with separation anxiety someti...

Welcome to The Unexpected Detour Where Detours in Life are Inevitable I am your Host Frances Hammond Happy New Year to all my listeners and sponsors. I have been on many Unexpected DETOURS in my life but now I share one with everyone. COVID 19,the Delta and Omicron variant is now a detour that either have or may encounter. Many roadblocks have kept us from living a normal and productive life. Ques...

Living in New York has become a city that's acquired more homelessness than before. More crime than I could ever imagine and the perpetrators not giving a damn about another person's life. A mayor who feels he can impose unnecessary mandates which makes me question how much jurisdiction he has over NYC none the less private business. We have been forced to get a vaccine against our own free will,...

I learned that funding is allocated by the number of new cases, mortality years and lost of life. Out of sixty-four types of cancer breast cancer was at the top followed by childhood cancer, leukemia, and lung cancer. At the bottom of the were cancers that affect internal organs like the liver, colon, pancreas, stomach, and the brain.

Life is not promised to us for only God knows the date of our departure. So learn to love better learn to tell those you love how much you love them every day. Don't take life for granted but live each day to the fullest. Peace and blessings always

As Breast Cancer Awareness comes to and end please schedule your yearly mammograms. If you're over the age of 40 and have not gotten one then you should do so asap. Those approaching the age of 40 be sure to get a mammogram. Yearly mammograms just like yearly Pap smears are FREE so there is no reason to not get one. The BRCA gene is heredity therefore some men can get breast cancer. Lets be proact...

There are many contributing factors that lead to breast cancer. We leave in a world of I will make the appointment tomorrow. Tomorrow may be to late so make your MAMMOGRAM appointment today and save the boobs.

September is Alopecia month and my guest is my sister and friend Rachel Massey Coles. If your dealing with aleopica have a listen and learn how to walk in your BALDNESS UNASHAMED.

I would often reflect on the what ifs. If I could only have done things better. I am sure you have all been there now and again wondering had you done the things as you dreamed how would life have turned out? Unbeknownst to me that very dream would be revived through an unexpected illness.

Every one loves an good party but please don't invite them to your PITY PARTY 😢

Being a parent never came with a manual. We learn from trial and error. What worked for us may still work but nowadays it seems like some parents don't care. Parents we have tom work on our parenting skills in order to raise our children to be responsible  adults

WHEN you ask God for something we never know when it will happen so be prepared to answer the CALL.

They say BLACK LIVES MATTER my question is do they really? Is this organization around to bring awareness to the cause “ALL” black lives or maybe its only when a white person has killed a black person? While crime is consistently on the rise in our own neighborhoods it seems to me that those black lives DON’T matter.

Just when you think the tooth is removed and the problem solved the pain returns and makes you HOLLER in your sleep

Fear became inevitable as the death tolls rose and daily and we wondered would we or our family members would be next. Fear of hugging family members, not being able to say goodbye to your loved ones as they lay dying. Visiting the elderly but only seeing them behind glass. Humans were meant interact with other humans not caged like animals which our lives been reduce too. Or those incarcerated an...

What does the Analog Clock have to do with Breast Cancer. Go figure it wasn't until the pity party I figured it out for myself.

For me I am a thinker and try to analyze why things happen and the reason. The more I searched for answers the more perplexed I became. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks! I know why things happen because I created the situation, and the outcome would be based on my decision and choices.

Rejection is another one of those Detours we deal with in life. Meeting family members as an adult and they disown you can cut deep and emotionally damaged. Well sit back and listen to my story on rejection and perhaps you can relate.

There are those times in life when we hear what we choose to hear. That was me again when it came to the removal of my lymph node. I hear it was removed for testing but that's not what was said.  I began to think many times I choose to hear what i wanted to hear because the truth is too painful. In this episode I come to terms that my selective hearings was at work.

Goodness gracious the hair has left the body. Yes that's the cutural shock I was faced with while on chemotherapy. You never will understand the feeling of the pain I experienced as the hair vanished from the scalp.

Transparency is the key when telling your journey. Speaking for myself my story and not being unashamed of what you have gone through can help some who may or is going through Breast Cancer

The thought of cancer is very trumatic within itself but accepting that this is no cure; is a bitter pill to swallow.