The Ugly Truth About The Girl Next Door

In this first episode in a two part series, we have a conversation with Alicia Cohen who is a survivor of family controlled sex trafficking and the founder of SAFE (Survivors Against Familial Exploitation).   Join us as Alicia shares her experience of sexual abuse and exploitation at the hands of her father who who used the church to hide his crimes.  Alicia also unpacks her very frustrating attem...

In this episode we unpack the phenomenon of 'staring at a pebble while the parade passes by'....otherwise known as 'majoring on the minors' or being distracted from what really matters by details that are irrelevant to the central message. Updated since we have to triple and quadruple think every single word and sentence

In this episode we will talk through the churches involved and some of the offenders there.

In this episode Laurie has a conversation with Darrin Folger, former Executive Pastor of The Well in Amherst, NY about what God has to say about a shepherds response to a predator among the flock

In this episode we share how the investigation has been going….or not going.

In this episode we talk through some of the potential paths to safety and justice and how these paths can intersect and happen in parallel.

In this episode we address the questions about naming names….Why now? What are the factors that affect the decision for us to name an offender and what is next?

In this episode we hear from Pastor Dale Ingraham who challenges the church to be who God calls us to be….a people who boldly stand for the vulnerable and bring hope to the hopeless.

In this episode we share an authentic and sometimes raw look at what it is like to keep pressing forward when so many forces seem to be pushing against us

Also known as the messy middle….in this episode we will address some recent events and more about the reality of what it’s like for survivors trying to get help.

In this episode we address recent events….and the repeating pattern of DARVO and it’s impact

In this episode we continue the discussion of how investigations feel to the survivor. We will specifically be addressing private/non-law enforcement investigations and their emotional impact on the survivor.

In this first part of a two part series, we unpack how a criminal investigation is experienced by the survivor.

In this episode we unpack the painful….and empowering….reality of how regular people make the difference. Thank you to the Butfalo Bills for taking a stand for the vulnerable even if it means a sacrifice….Go Bills!

Listen as Kait and her husband, Patrick, talk about what it’s been like for him as he has walked this road with Kait. They share a little insight into their dating life, premarital counseling, and marriage❤️ as well as how it has been for him as the puzzle pieces have come together and the boxes have opened. If you are a spouse or loved one of someone who has experienced trauma, this is a good one...

In this episode we talk with Christiana Christiano about her own experience with the church that much of Kait’s abuse happened in, her own sexual abuse story, and her choice to get involved in The Ugly Truth About The Girl Next Door.

Listen as we continue talking about and answering many of the questions our listeners have asked.

You asked and we are answering! In this episode we answer some of the many questions we have gotten from our listeners since starting the podcast. 

In this episode we continue to unpack the details that make familial sex trafficking unique and highlight the unique needs of survivors.

In this episode we start to unpack the unique realities of familial sex trafficking

Deny, Accuse, Reverse Victim and Offender (DARVO)….the playbook for responding when you’re accused of sexual abuse

In this episode we interview Zachary Carr, PhD and consider how the science of deception informs our understanding of sex trafficking

In this episode we share more details about the enormity of the sex trafficking organization in WNY and the bits of information that have come to us from listeners corroborating Kait’s experiences.

In this episode we address the issue of The Second Wound. This happens when instead of support and protection, a survivor experiences victim blaming, denial and other damaging responses when they come forward with their trauma. Survivors are left feeling re-traumatized, confused and isolated. Listen as we unpack this very real and harmful phenomenon and discuss many of the second wounds that have...

In this episode Kait and Laurie unpack what they wish for in an organization’s response to allegations of misconduct. They also directly address what they want to see from The Chapel.