The Truth About Bullies

-It's high time we started doing something about bullying (April Fools!) -Transgender man shoots up Catholic school, media focuses mostly on what pronoun should be used when referring to him -Could it be that psychiatric drugs are influencing the rise in shootings? -Bullies being blamed for shootings when it's the victims who commit terrible acts of violence -Is the word "trauma" overused? -LGBTQ...

Visit Mark Johnson's website: lifetothebrim.org -Professional history: air force to corrections officer -being bullied by infantry: "airhead," "zoomie" -Deployment to "Bumf**k, Egypt" after Muslim Brotherhood assassinates Anwar Sadat -Return home, night terrors -Deployment to Philippines, witness to acts of terrorism- more trauma -Molestation at the age of 5- early trauma -Willie Lynch- Caribbean...

-Miriam's marriage advice -Women not actually subjugated in the Yemenite or religious Jewish tradition -The cult around the Rebbetzin Chaya Mushka, The late Lubavitcher Rebbe's wife -Miriam realizes after 40 years and a presentations tour with Izzy, that she'd married her soulmate -The biblical archetype of sibling rivalry and what it teaches us -Izzy's shift from the mantra "just ignore it" to 'T...

Apologies. The interviewee requested that we remove this episode. God-willing we will conduct another interview with him and post it in the coming months.

-Why do Jewish boys act up? -James Jefferson (Martial arts and educational leader) and Izzy do an interview in the states -Why the Founding Fathers warned against intervention in foreign conflicts -Should we intervene? Is Putin this century's Hitler? The best way to wage war is through knowledge -Why foreign intervention often increases the damage and violence

-What can a march against exclusion hope to accomplish? -The hypocrisy of politically polarized adults expecting kids to be inclusive -Wishful thinking: if schools just did something to prevent bullying, it wouldn't happen -Cognitive Dissonance: the same directives which do nothing to stop children from fighting at home, can somehow make kids stop fighting in school -bullying memes that encourage...

-Trying to understand the "censorship" mix-up -News item: 14 year old NJ girl commits suicide after the release of a video of her getting beaten up -The mistaken belief that schools' failure to enforce anti-bulling policies, rather than the policies themselves, allowed bullying to continue -Why don't schools speak up in self-defense -13 Reasons Why -Connie Palmer (episode 11) praises Bullies To Bu...

-5 years as a NYC teacher with no instruction as to how to handle bullying -Connie's personal history with bullying -Connie gets turned on to Bullies To Buddies by fellow school counselor -Developing the "Golden Rule Toolbox" -Effectively eliminating bullying from her school using the Bullies to Buddies model -Overcoming the ego to win the social game -Schools' righteous responsibility to step in...

- Izzy's optimism/level-headedness -the trend in the U.S.- inflation -the price of a burger, a challah and a shawarma in NY -the political divide -the censoring of Izzy's Youtube videos ( "Super-Tough-New-AntiBully Law" on YouTube- not actually censored) -The death of Freedom of Speech -Lola accuses myher dad of being old and out of date to demonstrate the importance of Freedom of Speech -Lola's s...

-The magic of getting down to eye level with kids -Lola's sensitive spot: being criticized for her parenting by the family -When parenting brings out the clean-freak in you -The curse of too much stuff -Cleaning with your kids -Family discussions about who should pick up what -Bullies to Buddies rule: show you're hurt, not angry -Letting a bullying victim get up in front of the class to share his...

-When bullying spurs people to improve themselves -Is it good to lose weight if the bullying that spurred it hurt one's self esteem? -Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy and the uselessness of thinking "what should be" -We've succeeded in changing the culture around bullying. (Now what?) -The trickiness of practicing Bullies to Buddies with our children -The loss of parental authority -Discipline ba...

-The hurdles to Izzy's success with clients -When should a bullying victim change schools? -Critique of Jodee Blanco's "Please Stop Laughing at Me" -"Sayeret Cherem", the "Excommunication Squad" and other celebrity interventions to save bullying victims -Paul Rudd takes bully victim-gone-viral under his wing -Bullying victim opens doors at school for all the students and makes friends -The spiritu...

-Why calling the Holocaust bullying is offensive and inconsistent with the definition of bullying, -The mistake of "awfulizing" typical childhood behaviors -Nazi bureaucracy -Using the Holocaust to encourage kids to report on each other about acts of bullying -The problem with the average schoolyard -Bullying is not an issue during wartime -Anecdotes from Sebastian Junger's "Tribe" -Praise for Tod...

-The pleasure in fighting -A safe and exciting life is a contradiction in terms -"Preschool in Three Cultures" -Adventure playgrounds -"Lord of the Flies" -"The Human Zoo" -Groups dynamic courses -Leave kids to their own devices and they'll destroy their surroundings, not each other -Izzy, the starting school psychologist breaks down in front of his boss. Check out " Parenthood is Dangerous ", Lol...

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Izzy and Lola discuss the trouble with intervention between kids (and between countries), the unique court of justice that exists between siblings, the fact that nobody feels like a bully, and that the real problem is victims, not bullies.  Learn more at IzzyKalman.com