The Transformational Leader

Whether they like it or not, most leaders operate over top of what is already there. While seemingly harmless, this can actually get in the way of their leadership. For instance, when there is negativity in the space, rather than getting clear and addressing what's there, some leaders tend to just adopt solutions on top of what is present. When this happens, they'll have a leadership that's dictat...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam live coaches special guest Rebekah Zimmerman around her ownership of the family aviation business with her brothers that they inherited from her dad's death, and how she'd like to operate{or not} within it moving forward.

Part of the job of any leader is to enroll themselves as well as others in possibility. In fact, it is often considered the first step leaders (and people under them) take when they embark on a transformational journey. However, while seemingly simple, continuously seeing possibilities can be challenging. Why? For starters, most people's ability to hang on to possibility is both fragile and fleeti...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam live coaches special guest Sharon Lavant around transformational work (meditation, breathwork, silent retreats, Rythmia (ayahuasca), and how she can bring this work to the uninformed sector.

After a fresh trip from Costa Rica, Adam Quiney talks about Benevolent Manipulation. Benevolent manipulation is a subtle way in which we reject people. We say, "I know better than you what you need." It's common in leadership and our lives. What it does is suddenly, as I manipulate other people, it also creates dissatisfaction in ourselves about how the world is going or the people around us. List...

Possibility is the conversation about all the stuff you already precluded as unavailable.  It sounds like, "We'd love to raise our profits but then we would have to do this, and therefore we can't do it." Why is possibility important? Because that's where all transformation lies. In order to cause transformation in the lives of yourselves, you have to play out in a world of possibility.  In this e...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam coaches special guest Katie Joy Duke around the topic of growing and promoting her coaching business in a way that aligns with her core business values of authenticity, courage, creativity, responsibility, and inner harmony, as well as and finding the ideal clients who align with her mission.

How to deal with roadblocks and belligerence? In your leadership, you might encounter a lot of roadblocks and belligerence. These are situations where you aim to develop someone's leadership, coach someone, or you have a team where you encounter roadblocks that stop you. These are statements like, "Why should I have to do that?"  "The problem is not me."  "The problem is them." "This isn't the way...

In this episode of The Transformational Leader by Adam Quiney, you will learn about the red flag phrases in leadership. Here are some of these phrases:   "It's not just the way I am."  The first problem of this phrase is that the way you are is a fabrication. There's no such thing as "the way you are."    "This has to change." This phrase is sort of like a lack of choice that you can do. If you ne...

As a leader, you are not called to simply do a job. You are called to lead, to step into the unknown.  Doing so requires a lot of generation. You have to create that direction from within. But the struggle is that there are moments when you don't feel inspired to do so. You don't feel like you are called to a particular direction and aren't sure of what to do. Listen as you will know the two sides...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam coaches special guest Mary Dee around the topic of being more clear on how to not confuse the market with my offers when they're so different (spiritually led vs business).

Communication skills refer to soft skills. These are the things you can see people constantly share about, talk about, ask about, and insist on that leaders need. These skills tend to be the ability to communicate in an effective way, to have people feel listened and have a flow of the conversation work. There are different areas in which we can gauge someone's effectiveness. More than communicati...

"Filling Your Cup." It is a common theme in leadership. When you talk about filling your cup, you are talking about leadership and taking on leadership in a way that leaves you sourced and resourced rather than being drained. It may be for a job, family, or leadership, but where would I want the fun to exist? Just look for what you want and what feels good in what you are doing.  It is just one of...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses topics such as AI and Coaching, Choosing out of the Wagon Rut, Forgiveness and Why it's Challenging, International calamity (Israel, Palestine, Ukraine, Russia, Etc.), Aggressiveness (Yours and Others), Supporting People in the Breakdown, Commitment and Surrender, and more!

Great job! It is an easy phrase to say to people if they are doing a great job. Society has a high bar for what a great job is. It is a never-ending set of goalposts you never really get quiet for. Most of the time, you are very stingy with yourself to the great work that you are doing. You become very hesitant to receive praise and acknowledgment.  This episode will remind you that when you pract...

There is a distinction between projection and being.  In leadership, you see a lot of projection of confidence, and the projection of confidence is radically different from confidence. How would you know a projection of confidence? It has no room for things like, "I am not afraid because being afraid would mean I'm not confident." However, to be confident, it must have room for fear. You can show...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses topics such as Ontology's origins, Taking support as needed vs. Committing to being supported, working with cynicism, somatic work, how to become accountable, when you don't achieve your result, learning to learn, and more!

Agreeing or disagreeing on something is a situation that arises when you meet feedback that causes a degree of dissonance. Dissonance is an experience where you have a perspective about the world, and how you are about everything, and then you receive feedback that does not align with that perspective. This moment of dissonance is interesting because it represents the moment where transformation i...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses A lack of desire to take responsibility, Learning to use rigour, Bad trips, Gaslighting, Narcissism and Imposter Syndrome, Magnetism and Relationships, Staying in the Conversation, Studying NXIVM and more!

"How could I bring the being of leader more in a situation?" In a traditional hierarchy, leadership is a uni-directional relationship. If you are having your leadership developed by someone, for you to turn back and point to what they are doing, that won't work. As soon as you point to their stuff and tell them to take on that work, it fouls everything out. It also breaks the understanding that we...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses sharing goals vs. keeping them private, calming your nervous system before big moments, resilience, how Who Do Think You Are was created, coaching mastery vs. leadership mastery, the importance of fun, understanding why we feel as we do, magnetism in relationship, and more!

Gaslighting is a super popular term these days. The essence of it originally came from a 1944 American psychological thriller movie "Gaslight." The idea in this movie is that a woman marries her accompanist, and the husband slowly but surely starts to isolate her wife and convince her that she is crazy. In that way, the husband makes his wife doubt her own senses, and he can do whatever he wants t...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses Integration, Isolation, Our fundamental Innocence, Learning to be receptive and sensitive to feedback, Stages of openness, and more!

There are lots of things happening in leadership. The first is that a leadership relationship is not an equal footing relationship. It happens for a few reasons: First, the person generally leading you in a corporate environment usually occupies a higher position on a hierarchy. So there's a lack of equal footing based on that. But there's also a lack of equal footing in the energetics of a leader...

That is the most common complaint of people who have a leader or a coach. Most untrained "coaches" are helping, fixing, and guiding you toward a path. They give you advice that does not empower you to discover your path in your wisdom. It has you become reliant on his advice. It is important to distinguish that it is your default as a human. Holding space, not giving answers, and supporting people...