The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & Law

Financial Disclosures are necessary in every divorce.  While the process can be tedious, divorcing parties need to do the financial disclosures truthfully and thoroughly.  We know that money can mean a lot of different things to different people.    In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn...

It's very easy to get stuck in a certain way of approaching things, especially during the challenges of a divorce negotiation.  In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how creative thinking by "thinking outside the...

Originally recorded on March 8, 2023, the Three Wisemen sit down with Massachusetts Attorney and Mediator Beth Aarons, JD, MSW to discuss the multi-dimensional aspects of the marital home and how it hits the emotional, legal and financial aspects of a divorce.   The Three Wisemen of Divorce are  Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Media...

Need to get a prenup?  What about a postnuptial agreement after your already married?   Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss why formal marital agreements can be good and why pillow talk agreements don't count.   The Three Wisemen of...

Most jurisdictions in the United States embrace the concept of  so-called "no-fault divorce".  It makes sense for the Court.  No Judge wants to involve themselves in deciding who is a fault when a marriage fails.  It's a recipe for a soap opera reality TV proceeding.  So the divorce for "irreconcilable differences" often makes the most sense.  But some folks can't wal...

Sometimes Valentine's Day, a day supposedly to express love, can be the very catalyst that leads to the final decision to divorce.  Sometimes these annual celebrations become triggering to people.  The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the post-Valentine's Day divorce surge and the relationship psychology that seem to attend such important days.  Is it the proverbial straw that broke the...

Valentine's Day may bring love into sharp focus, but for some, it magnifies the fractures in their marriage, leading them to a crossroads: to divorce or not to divorce? The Three Wisemen of Divorce—expert financial analyst Mark Hill, seasoned psychologist Scott Weiner, and esteemed attorney Shawn Weber—join us in an enlightening discussion on the emotional triggers stemming from hallmark holi...

It is rare that both spouses mutually agreed that a divorce should happen.  Usually, there is a "leavor" and a "leavee".  What do you do if you want a divorce and the other person doesn't want to "grant" the divorce?  This week, Divorce Wisemen    Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn...

It's that time of the year for New Year's Resolutions.  When folks are facing marital problems, they often include a divorce in their plans for the New Year.  In this time of rebooting, how can people approach these changes?   From a menu ranging from better co-parenting, setting boundaries and new financial choices, what other resolutions might the newly separated consider ?    Mark C....

Divorce can wreak havoc on family holiday traditions.  But divorcing parents have the ability to make holidays less painful and a nice memory for their children.  While the experience may not be a Norman Rockwell postcard, it can be positive if co-parents take the right steps.    Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn W...

Divorce is heartbreaking and emotionally tough.  During this Thanksgiving holiday, it may be difficult to think about being thankful during such a challenging time.  But we have learned that an attitude of gratitude in spite of the challenges can make a big difference.    Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, tackle...

Two topics this week.  First, what is the best approach to talking to your kids about the breakup?  We talk about how to get through that difficult conversation.  Next, and surprisingly related, we talk about how to juggle the holidays during and after the divorce.    Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*...

It's elections season.  We are in the middle of some of the most stressful times of a generation.  Between politics, pandemics, and general paranoia, there is a lot on people's minds.  What do folks do when divorce happens in these troubled times.    Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family...

Like dog breeds, people have different personality types.  Some are more easy going than others.  Some struggle to get along with others.  The personality types in the marriage has a huge impact on how the divorce will go.  The Three Wisemen of Divorce, Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Med...

A divorce case with an honest-to-goodness narcissist, borderline, or antisocial personality disorder can be a recipe for a super nasty experience.  You can't interact with a High Conflict Personality (HCP) like you would with other folks.  In their minds, everything is somebody else's fault and they live for a fight.  They are blamers, hotheads, narcissists and antagonists. It requires a...

Who's angry?  It seems that in divorce, anger is very prevalent.  But anger is a secondary emotion following hurt.  While anger is natural, it can get in the way of thinking clearly and making good decisions.    Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss t...

This week we have an enriching discussion with Collaborative Divorce icon Nancy J. Ross, LCSW.   Nancy pioneered the concept of the Collaborative Divorce Coach in California at the beginning of the Collaborative Divorce movement.   Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Atto...

There's more than one way to end a marriage.  The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the different legal ways to end a relationship to include divorce, legal separation, nullity, post-marital agreements and Marvin actions.  Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney...

Divorce rates are higher since the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic.  Politics are causing polarization in communities and within families. Times are crazy these days.  How do difficult times affect divorce?  Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how str...

The decision of HOW you divorce is almost as important as the decision TO divorce.  Sometimes it can be very confusing to decide between the many out-of-court processes available.  Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner , Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss the differences between Divorce Media...

We've talked a lot about how to make your divorce more smooth and peaceful.  But this week, the Three Wisemen of Divorce share with you the guaranteed ways to have a completely miserable divorce. Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA , Scott Weiner, Ph. D., J.D. , and Shawn Weber, JD, CLS-F . The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Rousso...

Stu had so much to say, we had to break his interview into two parts! We were thrilled that Stu Webb came to join us on the Three Wisemen of Divorce.  The Grandfather of Collaborative Divorce, Stu is probably the original and wisest Wiseman of all! A Zen Buddhist and Jazz Musician, Stu brings characteristics you wouldn't expect in a lawyer.  Stu has mastered the understanding of using love, k...

We were thrilled that Stu Webb came to join us on the Three Wisemen of Divorce.  The Grandfather of Collaborative Divorce, Stu is probably the original and wisest Wiseman of all! A Zen Buddhist and Jazz Musician, Stu brings characteristics you wouldn't expect in a lawyer.  Stu has mastered the understanding of using love, kindness, and collaboration to bring about better legal outcomes.  A ve...

Divorce, Custody and Visitation during the COVID-19 pandemic present new challenges for parents when the kids go back to school.  What if parents can't agree on what is safe social distancing? What if the parents can't agree on the school or extracurricular activities?  This week The Three Wisemen of Divorce tackle these and other difficult conversations. Presented by Financial Divorce C...

This week, the Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the Robert Frost poem, "Mending Wall," and apply an interpretation to a divorce.  Frost writes, "Good fences make good neighbors."  What kinds of boundaries are important in your divorce?  What sort of "fences" and "walls" are important to maintain when dealing with separation, child custody, visitation, divisi...