The Suzanne Venker Show

DSO is the pen name for Ralph, the founder of dadstartingover.com , host of the Dad Starting Over Podcast, and author of three books including his popular title, “The Dead Bedroom Fix”. The Dad Starting Over website is a resource for men that are “starting over” in life after divorce, after enduring a wife’s affair… or for those men who are still married and want to hit the reset button on their r...

I'm joined today by "Mrs. Midwest," the pen name for Caitlin, who runs a blog called Mrs. Midwest and who joined YouTube in 2019 with the goal of creating a haven for traditionally feminine women trying to find their place in this modern world. As a traditional wife and homemaker, it is Caitlin's aim to help women blossom into their natural femininity through discussions on style, mindset, and rel...

Julie Mastrine is a marketing and PR professional who’s passionate about being a responsible member of the media who elevates critical thinking and civil discourse. She is the Director of Marketing at  AllSides , a site that provides balanced news and  media bias ratings. Julie is also a frequent writer and editor who writes for Evie Magazine on topics such as politics, culture and relat...

Suzanne talks with Nancy Paradis, wife of Andre Paradis (a relationship coach who's been on this program multiple times) to discuss how the messages sent to young women today are untenable, unrealistic, and at odds with what most women want. IN THIS EPISODE: 4:15  Nancy describes her history, her career in ballet and her move to LA 8:00  Nancy tells the story of how she and Andre met at...

IN THIS EPISODE: 4:20  Suzanne addresses a question about the role social media plays in relationships, with young people and the expectations social media creates 7:15  When the people you surround yourself with are pro-marriage, your takeaway about marriage and relationships will be more positive 9:25  The only solution is to make our own “little world”  work and then pass al...

At the end of the day, people live one of two lives: an examined life or an unexamined life. An unexamined life is when you move through the years mindlessly, not really thinking about what you’re doing or why you’re doing it, or even if you like doing it. You’re just doing it, whatever “it” is, because that’s what other people are doing—because that’s what you think you’re supposed to do. Or beca...

I suspect that, like me, you all are probably reading a lot headlines about Bill and Melinda Gates in the wake of their divorce announcement. The most recent one I read was in the WSJ about a sexual relationship Bill Gates had many years ago w a Microsoft employee. A spokesperson for Gates said, “There was an affair almost 20 years ago which ended amicably.” As soon as I read this headline, I thou...

This episode is about how thinking about and doing things differently from the norm when it comes to marriage and relationships is what ultimately allows you to succeed in love. I came across an article the other day that was entitled “Covid quarantine confirmed that sleeping in separate beds is the best thing for my marriage,” by Judi Ketteler. And upon reading this, in addition to thinking about...

Several weeks ago I posted an interview with Adam Coleman, author of the book From Black Victim to Black Victor , where Coleman outlines the ways in which the black community has been conditioned to believe they're oppressed and how black women in particular have fallen for feminism to the detriment of their families and even themselves. Shortly thereafter, I received an email from India Lee Stark...

Today on the show we're going to talk about thirteen reasons modern marriage fails. 3:00  Too many young couples don't understand the meaning of marriage 6:00  Adopting a Judeo-Christian model for marriage can solve marital issues 6:30  Men have become feminized, and women have become masculinized 7:00  Couples are holding back the tide of nature, trying to make something fit t...

Today we're going to talk about the most important red flags to consider while dating, for both women and men.   IN THIS EPISODE:   3:20 ​  Your guy needs to have a job, a purpose and a plan   8:00 ​  Is he a mama’s boy?   10:40 ​  Men: There’s really only one thing you need to figure out while you’re dating: Is your gal a feminist?   11:30 ​  Clea...

Ladies, do you wish someone would have told you the things you had to learn the hard way about men?  I don’t know about you, but I wish I’d known the things I’m going to tell you when I was first married. If you know how men think and become fluent in their language, your marriage or relationship is just exponentially stronger. So for those who have a strong desire to understand men, I’m goin...

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know that America has become a society of victims. My next guest, Adam Coleman, just released a new book entitled “ Black Victim to Black Victor ,” where he outlines all the ways in which the black community has been conditioned to believe they are oppressed and how black women in particular have fallen for feminism to the detriment of their families and...

It is one of the most taboo topics on the planet: what happens when wives earn more. The following podcast is an in-depth look at what happened when one wife's side hustle exploded and created a rift in her marriage, causing resentment and frustration that led to an eventual separation. When Lauren Taylor, who's from South Africa, first reached out to me, she and her husband Jarryd had separated a...

**This is a rebroadcast of Ep. 44 w/ Mikhaila Peterson. We'll be back next week with more exciting content. Suzanne will be interviewing one of her coaching clients. DON'T MISS IT! Thanks for listening. Enjoy.**    It's hard enough to be a millennial these days. But does being Jordan Peterson's daughter make it easier? Or harder?  Mikhaila Peterson is perhaps best known for being Jo...

Most of us are aware that what happens to us in childhood has a huge effect on who we become as adults . But what if the opposite is also true? What if what doesn’t happen in childhood has an equal, or even greater effect? The absence of emotional support in childhood is as damaging as other traumas. Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) is not a form of childhood abuse because it's subtle and usually...

Have you been told that science is sexist? Or that being obese is healthy, that there is no such thing as biological sex, or that only white people can be racist? Are you confused by these ideas, and do you wonder how they have managed so quickly to challenge the very logic of Western society? James Lindsay is a mathematician, an author and cultural critic known for his involvement in the grievanc...

Roy Baumeister is a social psychologist who explores how we think about the self, and why we feel and act the way we do. He's one of the world’s most prolific and influential psychologists who has published well over 500 scientific articles and more than 30 books. In 2013, he received the highest award given by the Association for Psychological Science, the William James Fellow award, in recogniti...

So my kids and my friends' kids are now at the age when they're seriously dating and thinking about the future. Unfortunately, the advice most of them receive from the culture, via the media and via their universities, isn't just bad. It completely undermines women's chances for a happy, balanced life. Young women in particular are taught all the wrong things about life and love, about men and sex...

You probably know the adult viewpoints on marriage, infertility, reproductive technologies, same-sex parenting, divorce, and adoption. But have you ever considered these matters from the kids’ perspective? In her new book, Them Before Us , Katy Faust flips the script on adult-centric attitudes toward marriage, parenthood, and reproductive technologies by framing these issues around a child’s right...

Believe it or not, many men today are just as interested in having a happy marriage as are women, and they’re actually great at becoming true partners in creating a great marriage . But: they need guidance. Too many men grew up in homes where a father was absent physically or emotionally. As a result, men often have faulty beliefs about what makes for a good marriage. In The Essential Guide for Th...

So I had a coaching session recently w a gal who, on her intake form, wrote that she'd read my 2011 book, How to Choose a Husband —which, as a side note, is being re-released this year under a new title with a new intro—and that when she came across the passage that said 'Put marriage and motherhood, not career, at the center of your life, and fit everything else in around that,' she thought to he...

"Women have been acculturated to believe they should be their own heroes . Women's television delivers this message over and over again with movies in which, at most, one good man might provide some small assistance as the heroine rescues herself." Those are the words of "Claudia," the wise grandmother who tutors her granddaughter Kimberlee in the art of loving a man in The Queen's Code. The Queen...

In this podcast episode, Suzanne shares letters from readers and listeners. 3:00  Suzanne reads an email from Ashley, a left-leaning listener/reader who has a PhD, lives in a big city and was on the verge of divorce. Feeling like she had no other options, she started reading Suzanne’s books, tried out her theory and saw immediate changes in her marriage 8:00  The most receptive people to...

A lot of men want to be good guys. But Elliott Katz, author of Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man ,  says a lot of what men are doing, thinking it makes them good guys, actually makes women lose respect for them. To help these men understand why, Elliott and Suzanne discuss the top 5 things men mistakenly do thinking it makes them good guys. IN THIS EPISODE: 4:...