The Stepmom Diaries | Blended Family & Stepmom Support Podcast

Are you the one tracking the dentist appointments, school forms, birthday gifts, custody schedules, groceries, and all the details everyone else seems to forget? That invisible work has a name: the mental load. In this episode of The Stepmom Diaries, I'm sharing my conversation with Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space. We talk about the mental loa...

We've all been there. Someone makes a comment about being a stepmom that they probably mean well... but it still stings. "You knew what you were getting into." "At least you get a break." "They're not really your kids." In the moment, it's hard to know what to say. Later, you think of the perfect response. This listener-favorite replay is packed with practical, gracious ways to respond to some of...

Have you ever realized that the things that make a family look different on the outside don't change what matters most on the inside? In this episode, I sit down with Jaimie Kelton and José Rolón to talk about LGBTQ families, parenting, belonging, and the many ways families are built. From infertility and surrogacy to stepfamily dynamics and family acceptance, we explore the challenges and joys of...

Ever feel like your stepkids are living in two completely different worlds? The rules change from house to house, expectations don't always match, and somehow everyone expects the kids to make sense of it all. In this episode, I sit down with researcher, professor, stepmom, and former stepchild Bailey Oliver Blackburn, PhD to discuss new research on co-parenting with different values and what happ...

Ever feel like you're carrying everyone else's responsibilities while somehow still feeling like you're failing? Yeah... you're not alone. In this episode, I'm chatting with organizational expert and Escaping Quicksand author Lisa Woodruff to talk about why so many overwhelmed stepmoms feel like they're drowning, even when they're doing everything right. We dive into the invisible load many women...

"You knew what you signed up for." If you're a stepmom, chances are you've heard that phrase before. Maybe it's, "At least you get every other week off." Or, "Why do you care so much? They're not your kids." And if you're anything like me, those comments don't just annoy you. They stick with you. In this episode, I'm unpacking some of the worst things people say to stepmoms, why these comments hur...

Anybody else look at the summer custody schedule and immediately feel their eye start twitching? 😅 In this episode, we're talking about why summer hits so differently in a blended family and why so many stepmoms head into this season already feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and exhausted before it even begins. From schedule changes and camp logistics to vacation drama and invisible labor, summer c...

Blending a family is hard. Blending a family with three teenagers? Absolute chaos sometimes. 😅 In this episode, I'm talking with Ashley Noelle, creator of Blended Bond, about the small communication shift that completely changed the way her blended family connected. Ashley shares what it was really like bringing together two completely different households (a structured mother-daughter home and a...

Ever felt like stepmom life isn't what you expected- and no matter how hard you try, you're carrying a weight you can't quite explain? If you've felt resentment, guilt, or even questioned your choices, this episode will hit home. In this episode, we're joined by Rachel Dunne, licensed counselor, certified stepfamily coach, and founder of Spiritual Stepmom. Rachel shares her personal journey into s...

If Mother's Day feels more painful than joyful as a stepmom… you're not alone. While everyone else is celebrating, many stepmoms are left feeling unseen, unacknowledged, or unsure where they fit. In this episode, Cameron Normand breaks down why Mother's Day for stepmoms can feel so heavy—and reminds you that it's not because you're doing anything wrong. More importantly, you'll walk away with a si...

Have you ever felt like you've lost yourself somewhere along the way in stepmotherhood—and no matter how hard you try, you can't quite find your way back? If you've been holding it all together on the outside but feeling overwhelmed, resentful, or invisible on the inside… this episode will hit deep. In this episode, we're joined by Christina Nelson, host of the Radical Stepmoms Podcast and a leadi...

Do you feel like your stepkids keep pushing you away, no matter how hard you try? In this episode, we're talking about rejection, emotional distance, teenage stepkids, and the painful reality many stepmoms face when connection in blended family life feels one-sided. I'm joined by Mindy Kyle, Certified Parenting with Purpose and Certified Stepfamily Coach, who has spent more than 16 years helping s...

Most stepmoms have a will. Almost none of them have a plan. And in a blended family, that gap can cost your stepkids their inheritance- or even cost you your home. Tara Yukawa- certified executor advisor, author, and stepdaughter- joins Cameron for a conversation that's equal parts wake-up call and practical roadmap. After navigating loss in her own blended family, Tara now helps others avoid the...

Transition days can be tough in any blended family, but when ADHD is part of the picture, they can feel even more overwhelming. In this episode, ADHD expert and stepmom Jennie Anderson joins the conversation to explain why kids with ADHD often struggle with moving between households and how stepmoms can help create more stability. You'll learn how emotional dysregulation, rejection sensitivity, an...

When kids live in two households, education decisions can get complicated fast!   In this episode,  Houlie Duque , former teacher and founder of Homeschool to Go , shares a fresh perspective on how families can rethink learning when co-parenting is part of the picture. As both a biomom and stepmom raising kids in a blended family, Houlie brings real-life insight into how parents can create flexibl...

What if your stepchild isn't rejecting you… but protecting someone else? In this episode, I'm sitting down with the incredible Barb Goldberg: coach, author, podcaster, and stepmom to talk about one of the most misunderstood (and painful) dynamics in blended families: the loyalty bind. If you've ever felt hurt, dismissed, or completely invisible as a stepmom, this conversation is for you. Because w...

AI isn't "coming." It's already here - in your kids' phones, in their homework, in their group chats, and maybe even in your marriage. And most stepmoms have no idea how deeply it's shaping their blended family dynamics. If you've brushed off AI as a tech trend or something you'll figure out later, this episode may completely shift your perspective. Because the reality is: kids are already using i...

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The fastest way to experience stepmom burnout from trying to prove she belongs? Over-functioning in a family that was already functioning before you arrived. High-capacity stepmoms don't come in weak. They come in capable. Responsible. Strong. And quietly determined to earn their seat at the table. But what happens when proving your worth slowly turns into resentment… exhaustion… and losing yourse...

Have you ever wondered why being a stepmom feels so much heavier than you expected-like no matter what you do, it still doesn't feel like enough? If social media leaves you questioning yourself or you're constantly comparing your stepmom life to impossible standards, this episode is going to feel very familiar. In this episode, I'm joined by Tara Clark, creator of Modern Mom Probs , to talk about...

Have you ever tried to connect with your stepkids, only to feel like everything you say somehow makes things worse? If conversations keep blowing up - or you're walking on eggshells trying not to mess things up - this episode is going to hit close to home. We're breaking down how to communicate with your stepkids in a way that builds trust instead of triggering shutdowns, power struggles, or rejec...

If January already feels heavy…  if you're tired of trying to feel hopeful...  or if you're sitting there thinking, "What is wrong with me?" this episode is for you.  January can be hard for stepmoms. And there's a reason no one talks about it. In Today's Episode, We're Talking About: Why January hits so hard for stepmoms Why the 'try harder' culture and first family advice miss the mark - especia...

"My husband is an idiot." That's what a stepmom said to me recently - not once, but multiple times. But behind those words? A mountain of hurt, exhaustion, and feeling completely alone in her own home. If you've ever felt like you're carrying everything by yourself while your partner seems checked out, dismissive, or just doesn't get it - this episode is for you. I'm diving deep into what "he does...

You're not broken. You're overwhelmed. This episode is for those moments when you're trying so hard to keep it together, but inside you're screaming. The mental load is crushing you, your patience is hanging by a thread, and even the dog's breathing feels like too much . . .  If that rings a bell, let me reassure you that no, you're not broken. You're just overwhelmed. And there are tools to help...