The Soul Enchilada

This Week’s Listener Question: All my college friends get together every year for a “Girls Long Weekend.” I really want to go but my husband makes me feel guilty for leaving him at home with the kids. The problem is… he never goes anywhere. What should I do? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What parts come up for you...

This Week’s Listener Question: I hear my friends talking about how the Holy Spirit or God is speaking to them so clearly. God doesn’t speak to me clearly. Why don’t I hear from God? And how can I?   SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1.          When you were growing up how were you taught to hear from God?   2.        H...

This Week’s Listener Question: I’ve been working at the same company for twenty-one years. I’ve been super loyal and helped them become successful. I just found out we’re being bought and my job is being phased out. I’m so mad at them and God! How do I move past this anger and the injustice of it?   SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these...

This Week’s Listener Question: Christine and Laura continue discussing attachment styles. To Laura’s surprise Christine showed up at the recording a “hot mess” having a complete meltdown. Step into their conversation and learn how you can move from chaos to calm and panic to peace.   SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1....

I'm someone who likes being alone. I'm content reading and working on a project. My partner, on the other hand, says I'm distant, aloof, and often distracted. We don't agree on physical touch and how often we should have sex. He wants sex a lot more than I do. How can we get closer? What's wrong with him/ us? Join Dr. Michaelle Knight and me for our final Summer Webinar: PRESS ON WITH PERSEVERENCE...

This Week's Listener Question: My partner always wants me to go everywhere he goes. He won’t go to parties, games, church, or vacations without me. It feels like he’s smothering me and I need some space. What should I do without hurting his feelings? Announcements: Summer Webinar Series – You are invited to join Laura Busse and Dr. Michaelle Knight August 8 – Press On with Perseverance and Make a...

This Week’s Listener Question: I’ve been learning about attachment styles and how we develop unhealthy attachment styles if we didn’t have secure attachment with our parents when we were growing up. I didn’t have one with my parents, so I’m wondering how to form a secure attachment with God and others. Is it possible? Announcements: Summer Webinar Series – You are invited to join Laura Busse and D...

This Week's Listener Question: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. There's nothing wong with the relationship. On paper we look perfect, but I feel restless and bored. Should I practice gratitude and find contentment, or is this a sign I should leave the relationship? Announcement: Are you in a time of transition? Do you need coaching and teaching to take steps in a new direction?...

This Week’s Listener Question: Wow! I just got terrible news which will greatly impact my upcoming plans. I feel like I’m swimming in the soup of confusion, disappointment, and crisis. How do I figure out where to start when I can’t even think straight?   Announcements: Are you in a season of TRANSITION? Do you want to find firm footing in times of change? Then sign up for Laura’s Summer Webinars...

This Week’s Listener Question: I’ve been a person of faith along time AND I still wrestle with negative talk in my head. How do I stop all the negative chatter?   SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1.  Draw a map of your mind and label different areas with thoughts that often repeat. Which ones do you think are negative...

This Week’s Listener Question: I’m really lonely. I wish I could find a life partner. I’ve always wanted to get married. It’s really hard on the weekends. I don’t trust dating apps. How do I learn to be content with being alone?   SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1.  When do you often feel lonely? How can you relate to...

This Week’s Listener Question: I’m a single woman now. My husband died five years ago from cancer. I’ve always had a dream of doing mission work and recently found out I could be a nurse with Doctor’s Without Borders. I’ve never had the courage to change my life so dramatically. Do I follow my dream or stay in my comfort zone and continue to do what’s practical?   SOUL Group Questions: To build co...

This Week’s Listener Question: At work, I’m the director of my department. I really like my job but I want a promotion, a new position of greater responsibility and authority. How can I find the courage to self-promote and apply for new positions?   SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1.  How do you get sabotaged by your...

This Week’s Listener Question: How can I empower my adult children to turn to God and trust their relationship with Him without me (Mom) as constant intermediary?   SOUL Group Questions:   To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1.  What is the nature of your “mother wound”? Was your mother more likely to be intrusive, controlling, rejecting, negl...

This Week’s Listener Question: I became an empty nester two years ago and I’m having an identity crisis. I no longer know what my life is supposed to be about. How do I find myself in this new season?   SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1. Releasing – What from your old life do you need to release: clutter, relationship...

This Week's Listener Question: I went through a divorce a couple of years ago. I still feel like I’m wandering in the dark and can’t get over it. How do I get over this and move on? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What grade in school would have skipped if you could? 2. Christine and Laura shared several ideas for pr...

This Week’s Listener Question: I have been fighting depression for over a year now with little to no relief. I’ve tried different medications and nothing seems to work. What would you suggest I do now?   SOUL Group Questions:   To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1.  When have you gone through a dark night of the soul? What did you learn about...

This Week’s Listener Question: Why is life so hard? I’ve going through a divorce, hate my job, and my best friend and I are fighting all the time. Does all this mean I’m on the wrong path? And if so, how do I get on the right one?   SOUL Group Questions:   To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1.  Where in your life are you playing it safe or cl...

This Week's Listener Question: I don't like change at all. I like routine and predictability. Is the Heroine's Journey just for adventurous people or for all of us?    SOUL Group Questions:   To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1.   What did it mean to be a “good girl” in your family of origin?   2.  How have you tried to separate from a mothe...

This Week's Listener Question: Christine and Laura, I feel stuck. My life feels like I’m just going through the motions – same thing, same ways, every single day. There has to be more! What do I do to get unstuck?   SOUL Group Questions:  To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1.  In what places of your life are you feeling stuck?   2. What fears...

This Week’s Listener Question: I lost my mother two years ago and had to be strong for my dad. Now we’re getting close to the anniversary of her death and I’m getting really anxious and angry at everyone who wants to talk about it. How do I deal with this?   SOUL Group Questions:   To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1.  Name some of the small...

This Week’s Listener Question: My husband seems to have the same sexual appetite he had in his 20’s. My sexual appetite, on the other hand, has completely died. What’s wrong with me?   SOUL Group Questions:   To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1.  What were you taught about sex while you were growing up? Can you relate to Christine’s “good gi...

Yes. You read that right. I don’t remember this class being offered in school.    This Week’s Listener Question: I heard your last episode (Soul Enchilada #69). I’d like to go deeper. What do you do when you’re in the third stage of marriage and your partner is resigned. It feels like he’s completely given up on making our marriage better.   SOUL Group Questions:   To build connection with a frien...

What do you do when you’ve been married for 25 years and there’s no passion left? Is it possible to get it back?   SOUL Group Questions:  To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1. Laura and Christine discussed the five different types of love languages and encourage you to discover yours and your partners.   Five Love Languages ·      Words of Af...

What goes around comes around, as the saying goes. Caring for elderly parents bring up so many emotions that’s impossible to list them all here. Couple these with the overlay of decades of family dynamics and you’ve got yourself a good old fashioned mine field. This week we talk about walking through that mine field in ways that preserve relationships… and sanity.   This Week’s Listener Question:...