The Soft Shoulder Podcast

All that wonderful advanced reading you’ve been doing about dating and relationships and compatibility…could it be working against you? Sometimes all that personal growth wisdom can suck us into scrutiny as we try to “not waste our time”. But do you even like this person? Listen in as Danette helps you zoom way out and get an optimistic perspective. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreati...

We all talk to ourselves. Mostly in the privacy of our own thoughts, and most of the time it’s not very nice. So often we don’t even know we are doing it! Inspired by the book Chatter, Danette offers a fun little experiment to help us get out of our heads and talk about ourselves from a little further away. Not all gossips are terrible. You can be a kind gossip to yourself. Chatter by Ethan Kross:...

We love the idea of an overnight success, but would you be able to accommodate it if it happened to you? This episode explores the role of capacity when it comes to personal growth, especially when we are in an era of expansion, pleasure and success. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the love + good news is in the emails. Si...

What are we really doing when we visualize our “future selves”? Is this one of those personal growth tools that doesn’t seem to work for you? Maybe it doesn’t have to be so precious and ceremonial. In this episode, Danette nerds out on her love for future selves, past selves and using our imaginations to feel good. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is n...

It begins with a song lyric by Ani DiFranco and opens into some big landscape-shifting questions. What happens when we suddenly know the story we thought we were living has changed direction? Have you ever received news that made your regular day seem surreal? Often this experience is triggered by events that are out of our control, illuminating what is most meaningful and urgent to our hearts. Wh...

So is a messy desk. We often make a mess when we make art. But this is about the particular, underappreciated creative act of making S P A C E. For any of you who need a soothing voice to listen to while you clear off your counters, tidy your desktop and wipe the slate clean. It can start with a desk or a drawer. Making space can make room for so much more of YOU. All things Yarrow Magdalena: http...

When you’re dating, people often ask what you are looking for in a partner. Is this the best question to be asking? Have you ever met someone who “checks all the boxes” but…it doesn’t seem to be working? Or how about being surprised by a fulfilling connection with someone who somehow doesn’t check many (or any!) of your boxes? If you enjoy the power of clarity in your dating journey, listen in for...

There is only so much preparation you can do without getting wet. Love is not something you can “get right” before diving in. And, most importantly, diving in is not the only way in. This episode is for you if you want to start dating and sharing intimacy with other people, but are afraid to take the plunge. Maybe the loving pace for you is another way back into the dating pool. Book shout-out: No...

Let’s first put some giant air quotes around the word “failed”. Do you look at the trail of relationships in your past and feel a little shamey? Like this is evidence of you not getting love right? Listen in for a pep talk on how making a resume of your relationship past can help you reframe your own personal love story. Podcast shout-out to Pivot with Jenny Blake . Join Self Love Colouring Club:...

If you’ve been asking yourself this question lately, you’re not alone. Can you hear the hidden beliefs behind this question? The truth is, there are many good reasons why you might be tired. Also, you are not a robot. Curl on up over here and let Danette ease your mind – self love doesn’t need you to prove anything. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danet...

Sometimes it really is too late. And “saving” your best gifts might be the sure way to destroy them before they ever get a chance. In this episode, Danette asks you a strange question that could unwrap the bow on a gift you most want to give. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the love + good news is in the emails. Sign up he...

Danette’s train of thought takes you on the scenic route of why she loves playing the long game of self love – and why you might love it too. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the love + good news is in the emails. Sign up here: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact The post Musings on the Long Game of Self Love appeared...

Spoiler alert – you are still worth loving. And maybe you need to hear some kind words from someone who has been there…and even wrote a book about it. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the love + good news is in the emails. Sign up here: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact The post If You Just Got Dumped – Listen to Thi...

How does it feel when someone worries about you? We often think that worry is a sign we care about something – but is it? Or is it just a really terrible fantasy? In this episode Danette explores why NOT worrying about someone when they are going through a big life heartbreak is a powerful way to show your love. And sometimes that someone is YOU. Bonus Fun – hear how Danette used the power o...

Ever had a dozen paint chips taped to your wall while you make that very important decision? Ever stand frozen in the cosmetics aisle choosing between Teal Me A Secret and Peacock Don’t Stop? Not everyone cares about these things but you do. What if you love the colour but hate the name? This episode is a creative pep talk for colour nerds, language nerds, and anyone who wants a little enthusiasti...

New Year or not, sometimes there can be too much of a good thing. Do you find yourself trying to find the “right” way to reflect and set intentions for the year ahead? Or feeling like you don’t have enough energy to honour the New Year traditions you have enjoyed in the past? In this episode, Danette meets you in the place of ritual fatigue. Sometimes what you need is to lean back and listen while...

Metaphors galore in this one! Are you currently dating, or reflecting upon your dating patterns? How present is your own self love, when it comes to the game of dating? In this episode, Danette playfully asks you some powerful questions to consider using inspiration from 3 classic board games. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour The post Dating Lessons from Board...

To love yourself, you must know yourself. That means witnessing is often the first step towards self love. But so many of us don’t realize we are taking on the role of “judge” instead of “witness”. What would it be like to pay attention, without judging? Especially in those times where we are struggling to cope, and engaging in habits we wouldn’t like to have witnessed by anyone we know. In this e...

It’s the Birthday Letter Ritual. You’ve heard about it before on the podcast. You may have even started your own letter writing practice. For the first time, Danette will be offering a live workshop to guide you in getting started on (or back into) your own collection of letters to celebrate a lifetime. It is a surprisingly deep, fun and powerful practice. Prepare to get inspired. Don’t miss the f...

What if you found out you really weren’t a Virgo after all? Or if you got to choose your own adventure on the Enneagram? Have you ever found yourself seeking guidance from a system more often than from yourself? If you are into self-awareness, personality tests can be fun and illuminating. In this episode Danette shares a helpful way to enjoy personality-based systems while still being true to a s...

Ask yourself this powerful question Danette heard in a movie. And don’t worry about whether or not the movie was any good – because the question is fantastic and could save you a lot of heartache. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour the art of self marriage the soft shoulder podcast The post Before You Blow Everything Up appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctua...

How ARE You Gonna Love Anybody Else? If you don’t love yourself, that is. We are supposed to assume it’s a rhetorical question…but what if you tried to answer it? In this episode Danette illuminates how a distracting debate might be taking us further away from the love we seek. Let’s be self lovers, not fighters. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour the art of sel...

The Self Love Colouring Club is back and more wonderful than ever. In this episode, Danette nerds out on the soothing delights of chilled-out colouring and makes herself laugh, as usual. Come for the invitation to colour, stay for the Karate Kid references and loving reframe of what it means to “go through the motions”. Spoiler alert: it can be a beautiful thing. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www...

A powerful self love exercise from reality tv? Of course. But it’s only powerful if you DO it. In this episode, a playful take on inner child work & practical tips to make it happen. the art of self marriage the soft shoulder podcast The post Say it to Your Face appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary .

Do you actually have a problem? What if the only problem you have is the belief that there is a problem at all? In this episode, Danette talks about two popular ways we like to judge ourselves, how you can notice if you are doing it, and shares a powerful writing prompt to change the story, right now. the art of self marriage the soft shoulder podcast The post What if Judging is Optional? appeared...