The Self-Leadership Lab

Your inner voice can either build you or quietly destroy you. In this powerful conversation, motivational coach Brayden Black shares how self-leadership, awareness, and intentional thinking can completely change the course of your life. In this episode, Bobby sits down with Brayden Black, a motivational speaker and vision & strategy coach, to unpack one of the most important (and overlooked) leade...

What do you see when you look in the mirror? Your appearance, or your leadership? High performers often look successful on paper while feeling disconnected inside. In this powerful conversation, Bobby sits down with Jay Suggs, founder of Suggcess Consulting to explore why so many high-performing leaders feel disconnected, empty, or burned out even when everything “looks successful” on paper. This...

If you’ve ever ended the day exhausted, distracted, or disappointed in yourself — this conversation will change how you think forever. What if the most powerful leadership decision you make each day is simply deciding who you will be? In this episode of Self-Leadership Lab, Bobby sits down with mindset coach, strategist, and bestselling author Bridget Hom to unpack why mindset is the root of perfo...

What if procrastination isn’t a discipline problem but a mindset signal? In this powerful episode of The Self-Leadership Lab, Bobby sits down with mindset strategist and coach Lin Yuan-Su, who shares her deeply personal journey from a prestigious healthcare career to a life of purpose, freedom, and impact. Together, they unpack the hidden psychology behind procrastination, self-doubt, and overthin...

Most conversations about leadership focus on titles, authority, and control. But what if real leadership starts somewhere else entirely? In this episode of Self-Leadership Lab, Bobby Shelton sits down with U.S. Marine Corps officer, author, and leadership educator Olaolu Ogunyemi for a powerful in-studio conversation about what it truly means to lead, starting with yourself. Drawing from military...

In this episode of The Self-Leadership Lab, Bobby sits down with pastor, coach, and strategist Joshua Delp for a deeply honest conversation about men, identity, self-leadership, and the power of brotherhood. Joshua shares his personal journey. From growing up without a healthy model of manhood, navigating trauma, addiction, and insecurity, to finding healing through faith, coaching, and intentiona...

As we step into a new year, this episode of The Self-Leadership Lab isn’t a hype speech or a resolution talk. It’s a pause. In this solo episode, Bobby reflects on what the past year revealed about self-leadership, why awareness alone doesn’t change behavior, and how real growth happens quietly, through honesty, discipline, and action. You’ll hear three simple but powerful lessons about building s...

In this episode of The Self-Leadership Lab, Bobby sits down with entrepreneur, musician, and leadership thinker David Ask for a wide-ranging conversation about grit, identity, values, and what it really means to lead yourself. We often celebrate grit, hustle, and determination but rarely stop to ask an important question: What if we’re applying grit to the wrong things? David challenges the idea t...

Every Christmas, we hear the same songs but we don’t always hear the message. In this special Christmas episode of The Self-Leadership Lab, Bobby Shelton reflects on the timeless hymn “O Holy Night” and the powerful self-leadership lessons hidden in its lyrics. Lessons about awareness, hope, peace, love, and the quiet courage required to lead yourself well. Through reflections on phrases like “the...

In this episode of The Self-Leadership Lab, Bobby is joined by Dorota Kosiorek, a neuroscience-based coach for high achievers, to explore why ambition often leads to burnout and how to build success that lasts. Dorota shares how high performers unknowingly work against their brain biology through perfectionism, overachievement, and constant external validation. Together, they unpack the mindset pa...

Discover how Project-Based Learning transforms classrooms, builds student agency, and creates purpose-driven education with PBL expert Ryan Steuer. In this episode of The Self-Leadership Lab, Bobby sits down with Ryan Steuer, founder of Magnify Learning and a national leader in project-based learning (PBL). Ryan shares how PBL transforms classrooms from passive to purposeful, empowering students t...

Discover how Tolstoy’s timeless “Three Questions” can help you slow down, find clarity, and lead yourself with greater purpose in the present moment. In this episode of The Self-Leadership Lab, we explore how presence shapes our well-being, our leadership, and the way we show up for the people in our lives. Inspired by Leo Tolstoy’s short story The Three Questions, we break down three truths that...

This week felt loud, not on the outside, but inside. When your emotions take over, that’s EXACTLY when self-leadership matters most. In today’s episode of The Self-Leadership Lab, we break down what it really looks like to lead yourself when life gets overwhelming, noisy, or emotionally heavy. If you’ve been dealing with stress, insecurity, or internal chaos… this episode is for you. WHAT YOU’LL L...

In this pilot episode, Bobby Shelton officially launches The Self-Leadership Lab, the evolution of the Easy Hard vs. Hard Hard podcast. This rebrand isn’t a goodbye ; it’s an expansion. Bobby explains why the name is changing, what stays the same, and how this shift opens the door for deeper conversations about purpose, presence, discipline, and the real work of becoming who you're meant to be. In...

Bobby talks with comedian and podcaster Dustin Anderson, covering everything from weight-vest walkers to hamster cemeteries to navigating emotional heaviness in the aftermath of public tragedy. Dustin opens up about how humor helps people heal, why he started a podcast, how “Dustin’s Book Club” was born, and why connection through story matters so deeply. They also discuss online comments, creativ...

What happens when a man walks 3,007 miles across America with no music, no phone, and no escape from his own thoughts? In this powerful episode, Tim Perreira joins Bobby Shelton (Easy Hard vs. Hard Hard) to talk about depression, presence, suicidal thoughts, and the internal battle every man is fighting. Tim’s 6-month journey across the U.S. wasn’t about adventure; it was about survival. What he d...

Author and coach Bobby Shelton sits down with Ken Davenport, entrepreneur, writer, and author of The Stoic Edge, to explore how ancient Stoic wisdom can guide modern leaders toward purpose, discipline, and peace of mind. Ken shares lessons from The Stoic Edge, The Stoic Transitions, and his upcoming book The Virtue Ethos, revealing how timeless principles from Marcus Aurelius and Seneca can help u...

What are you going to do with this information? We spend our lives collecting knowledge by reading books, listening to podcasts, and talking with mentors. If these efforts never turn into action, it only fills our heads, not our lives. In this episode, In this episode, Bobby challenges you to stop hoarding insights and start applying them. You’ll hear how emotions and overthinking can sabotage you...

You’ve done the thinking. You’ve made the plans. But none of it matters until you take the first step. In this episode, Bobby explores what separates the Easy Hard from the Hard Hard: action. You’ll learn how to move from intention to momentum, why starting small matters, and how consistency and accountability fuel transformation. “In twenty years, you’ll be more disappointed by the things you did...

Welcome back to the Easy Hard vs. Hard Hard Podcast, a show dedicated to helping you find and do the work that actually matters. In this solo episode, Bobby Shelton explores Chapter 6 of his book , Self-monitoring, and why this simple but powerful habit separates those who drift into Easy Hard from those who stay on the road to their Hard Hard. Fresh from attending at the CEO Summit at Liberty Uni...

The Easy Hard vs. Hard Hard podcast celebrates Episode 20 with author and publisher Ben Gioia, creator of Influence With a Heart®. Together they explore how to write your book with purpose. Ben shares how coaches and leaders can finish a meaningful book in just weeks, overcome fear, use dictation to find their voice, and market it before it’s even published. If you’ve ever said “someday I’ll write...

After a recording mishap, Bobby takes the mic solo to share what he learned from his backyard trees and how their rhythm of growth and rest can help us avoid burnout. He unpacks the concept of masting, the natural cycle where trees go all-in for one season, then pause to recover. The message? Even purpose-driven people need to recharge. Also in this episode: Updates on the Easy Hard vs. Hard Hard...

In this episode of the Easy Hard vs. Hard Hard Podcast, Bobby Shelton explores the critical distinction between self-evaluation and self-assessment and why both are essential for chasing the work that truly matters. You’ll learn: How self-evaluation helps you look back at past actions with honesty, kindness, and clarity. Why self-assessment is about looking forward, setting small, achievable goals...

Self-discipline isn’t about punishment or willpower it’s about aligning with the work that truly matters. In this episode, Bobby Shelton breaks down common myths about discipline, explains why chasing someone else’s goals never works, and shows how consistency, accountability, and purpose create lasting self-leadership. Tune in and discover how to build discipline that actually sticks.

In this heartfelt episode, Bobby Shelton steps away from the planned topic of self-discipline to address something deeper: the role of love versus hate in our lives. Sparked by recent conversations with friends and neighbors, and a tragic event in the news, Bobby explores how easy it is to let hate creep in and how essential it is to intentionally root ourselves in love. You’ll hear: Why hate is t...