The Secure Love Club Podcast

In this episode, I sit down with my sister, Hannah, to have an honest, nuanced conversation about what it’s actually like to experience relationships from an avoidantly attached perspective. So many anxiously attached people are left feeling confused, rejected, or questioning their worth when someone pulls away emotionally. This conversation offers a rare inside look into what’s really happening b...

In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between building a life that looks good on the outside and one that actually feels right on the inside. This conversation was sparked by a powerful moment with a woman joining Peacefully Attached — and it opened up a deeper truth so many of us avoid: when our happiness rises and falls based on our relationship status, we’re not living in alignmen...

In this episode, I’m flipping the usual conversation around healing anxious attachment and attracting healthy love. Instead of focusing on what you should do, I’m walking you through the key things I stopped doing — the behaviours, patterns, and unconscious habits I had to let go of in order to create space for secure, grounded love. I share my personal journey of recognising anxious attachment, t...

In this episode, I’m inviting you into a powerful reflection on what happens when the way you’ve been living, working, dating, or showing up no longer feels good — even if it once did. Fresh from a deeply activating session with one of my mentors, this conversation is about recognising where you’re living on autopilot, clinging to familiarity over fulfilment, and repeating patterns simply because...

In this episode, I’m joined by the incredible Emma — a former Peacefully Attached client — for one of the most honest and expansive conversations we’ve had on the Secure Love Club podcast. Emma shares what life looked like before we worked together: moving between anxious and avoidant attachment, repeating toxic relationship cycles, people-pleasing to the point of burnout, and feeling deeply disco...

In this episode, I’m taking you into a conversation that poured through me fresh from my morning trot. You know those moments where life suddenly clicks, and you see your challenges through an entirely different lens? That’s what today is about. I’m breaking down the biggest lie we tell ourselves — that life should be linear, logical, and pain-free — and showing you why the hard seasons in your li...

In this episode, we’re diving into a question almost every woman on the anxious-to-secure path quietly struggles with: “How do I believe the partner I truly want actually exists… and that I’m not delusional for wanting it?” This conversation was sparked by a powerful question from a Peacefully Attached client who had just finished painting a beautiful, detailed vision of her ideal partner, and the...

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most addictive and confusing patterns for anxiously attached women; the chase for high-intensity relationships. You know the ones: the mixed signals, the emotional rollercoasters, the butterflies that feel electric… but end up leaving you anxious, exhausted, and questioning your worth. I’m breaking down why those “sparks” you’re chasing a...

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and giving you a real, unfiltered life update - the stuff I usually only share with my closest friends. No lessons, no frameworks today… just truth. I’m talking about the unexpected year I’ve spent in Melbourne, the slow unraveling of my mental health these past few months, the impact of pouring everything into my business, and the very real loneliness...

In this episode, I’m talking about something that almost nobody in the anxious attachment / healing space is talking about enough… and yet it’s one of THE most important pieces of what actually gets you secure results. Consistency. Not perfection. Not being “fixed.” Not never slipping up. Consistency. Because the truth is, you will have setbacks on this journey. You will have moments where your ol...

In this episode, I’m diving into why constantly dating, matching, texting, and seeking the next “spark” is actually delaying your love life — not accelerating it. We’ve been sold this idea that the woman who hustles hardest in dating wins. But in reality, the women who find healthy, secure partnership aren’t the ones sprinting from person to person… they’re the ones who pause, reflect, self-resour...

In this episode, I’m opening up about something that’s been sitting heavy on my heart lately - loneliness. Not the kind that comes from not having plans on a Saturday night, but the deeper kind that sneaks in when you’ve done the healing, raised your standards, and are no longer willing to settle for half-love or almost relationships. I’m sharing the truth about what this season of singleness has...

In this unfiltered solo episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of what’s really been going on in my world — and my heart — lately. This isn’t your typical “dating advice” chat. It’s about the seasons of life where you aren’t dating, where you’re questioning parts of yourself you never expected to, and where you wonder if who you are now still fits the life you once built. After feeling creative...

In this solo episode, I’m diving deep into the truth about situationships - not just what they are, but why we find ourselves in them. This conversation was inspired by a listener who shared how much she loved my previous episode on secure situationships, and a private client who realized she was using hers to avoid parts of her life that needed her attention. I’m sharing my own story of how casua...

We’re back for part two of my conversation with embodiment coach Emma Elmoza — and if you haven’t listened to part one yet, go back and tune in first so you’ve got the full context. In this second half of our chat, we move from naming retroactive jealousy into the heart of healing it. Emma shares how she built deep self-trust, confidence, and inner safety — and how those shifts completely transfor...

So many women secretly struggle with this, but almost no one is talking about it… retroactive jealousy. In today’s episode, I’m joined by embodiment coach Emma Elmoza, who opens up about her own journey from insecurity and self-doubt to building deep confidence and self-worth through embodiment work. Together, we explore the concept of retroactive jealousy — what it is, how it shows up in relation...

Today, I’m pulling back the curtain on something I’ve seen time and time again in my own journey and in my clients’ lives: when you commit to healing your anxious attachment and developing secure attachment, the ripple effect is massive. This transformation isn’t just about dating or finding “the one.” It shifts your friendships, your career, your self-worth, your hobbies, your boundaries – litera...

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a personal story about grief, nostalgia, and the versions of ourselves that relationships leave behind. Sometimes we think we’re yearning for an ex, when really we’re grieving the version of ourselves who existed in that chapter. And while it’s tender and sometimes gut-wrenching, this grief can also be a doorway into growth, self-love, and a deeper understanding of...

You don’t get the relationship or life of your dreams just by wanting it harder. You get it by expanding your capacity to hold it. In this episode, I’m breaking down why desire doesn’t equal readiness, the mistakes that keep you stuck even when you’re “doing the work,” and how to stretch your nervous system so you can finally hold more love, success, and visibility without sabotaging it. Inside th...

This episode is one of the most powerful conversations I’ve had on the podcast. I’m joined by Teagan Woodgate, founder of Reform Body Coaching, whose journey from surviving domestic violence to creating a thriving global coaching business will leave you feeling both shaken and deeply inspired. Teagan shares openly about her past — the warning signs she missed, the fear that kept her stuck, and the...

In this episode, I’m sharing an interview I did with my beautiful friend Hillary McVeigh — Human Design teacher, Retreat Facilitator, Certified Coach, intuitive, and the kind of woman who will lovingly see straight into your soul. Before we even hit record, she pulled up my Human Design chart (Vessel of Love, Generator 2/4 for my HD lovers) and read me like a book. Then we went deep into all thing...

This episode is one of the most vulnerable and raw I’ve ever shared. For the last 12 months, I’ve been quietly navigating something that has shaken me to my core and challenged my identity in ways I never expected… and today, I’m bringing you behind the curtain. In this ep, I open up about: - The journey of questioning my sexuality and why it’s felt terrifying and liberating all at once. - How I’v...

If you’ve ever felt afraid that once you really like someone, you’ll slip back into old habits… abandon yourself… and forget everything you worked so hard to heal—this episode is for you. After a long pattern of anxious dating, emotionally unavailable partners, and constantly losing myself in love, I decided to do something radically different: I took 12 months off dating completely. In this episo...

If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling over a situationship, stuck in a cycle of "I know he’s not good for me, but I can’t walk away" - this episode is your medicine, my love. Today, I’m joined by the beautiful Majo Torreli - somatic coach, Oxford grad, and nervous system wizard - for a powerful convo on how your body (not your brain) holds the key to finally breaking your anxious datin...

You know that moment where you get invited to something amazing — a room full of women you know you’d vibe with — but your body starts screaming, “Nope! Stay home, it’s safer on the couch”? Yeah… that was me last night. In this episode, I’m bringing you behind the scenes of a beautiful women’s networking dinner that totally cracked me open. What started as excitement quickly spiraled into social a...