The Relaxed Male

We as humans have emotional responses about many many things. Some people have more responses than others. Yet one of the big choices a person is able to make is not to the benefit of someone else but to themselves. Yet for some reason many people don't want to better themselves. I have started to  understand that many people  often seek out suffering and pain in their lives. This sounds so odd to...

Thoughts are what make your world yours. We love to have thoughts and share thoughts about what our thoughts are thought to mean. Our thoughts are fascinating when you step back and look at them. Especially when you can step back and see when a person is lost in their thought loops. A thought is nothing more than what we think. Was that the audience saying " Duh!"? YOu would think that it is a uni...

What happens when the pressure of life gets too much? How do so many men act like life doesn't bother them while you are sweating bullets? Frustration is a huge emotion when you are in a stressful situation. Examine why you are having all this pressure You are running to get the kids for your 4 hours of visitation. Yet you have a boss who is holding your job over your head. Stating that if you are...

This week we have a long episode. Yet it is a great episode. I have a friend of mine who has gone through a divorce and we talk about how a divorce changes a man and how that can be for the better or the worse. This week we have Craig Ignatowitz from the podcast At Home with Craig, He has gone through 3 different divorces and so if anyone has some insight as to how divorce can affect a man it is t...

  One of the main traits that define a man is his ability to take action. Stop playing the ignorant game You do know you just don't want to have to say it out loud. I don't know is an indulgent action Make a decision One of the hardest parts boys have is when they are faced with a choice. How do they decide? How can you decide? Why are decisions so hard to make? What is a decision? It is the cutti...

Let's go back to the first night your wife told you she wants a divorce. How did you act or what did you do? You had thoughts racing through your head like, She's going to take the house. I am going to have to live in an apartment again. She is going to take the kids away from me. Followed by tons of questions that get answered with scary thoughts. That first night and the rest of the week were pu...

Relationships like many things in life aren't always permanent. There are some relationships that will last only for the time of your airline's flight. While some may last for decades. Now, this needs to be said, If you are in a place where you are in danger then yeah time to leave. Do not pass go and forget about the $200. If you are in an abusive relationship then get out and find safety first....

How many times have you found yourself off balance? Especially when you are going through something as unpredictable as a divorce. It is easy to be knocked off balance when you don't have your focus What happens when you are off balance? Small things set you off Your attention is easily drawn away from the important objective. You will not get anything accomplished easily You will find yourself in...

Now I have talked about this a bit in  Episode 82 The 3 A's There are 3 reasons for divorce and those are the 3 A's. These A's are trust destroyers. You can overcome these but it takes time and a lot of it. When I say, "time" I don't mean days or months I mean a minimum of 3 years but it can take as long as the offended party needs to trust in the offender again. Now those three A's are... Abuse A...

Tools Needed Notebook Pen/s Determination Plan Now I have been talking about Break the plan down into sizable chunks Use the Smart goal technique Specific - Measurable - Attainable - Relevant - Timely - This technique is just the start. It is nothing more than a starting place. This helps you get your thoughts in order and determine how you will proceed. Because when you take the SMART technique a...

This is the end of the year. Therefore it stands to reason that we are looking toward the future. Why you don't look to the future? I don't know how. What if I fail? I don't have the money I don't know what I want I have never done X. Are you looking to the future or are you just daydreaming? Many times we say we are looking at the future when in all reality we are daydreaming. The difference betw...

With it being  the Christmas season  it is easy to want to hide away from relatives who stick their noses in other people's business. It is easy to just not go anywhere and avoid people. It is easier to spend time in your own misery than to spread it around and let other people see. What Family Is Your first friends people you bond to Where you are loved Human What Family Is Not family isn't just...

Is it OK to be rich? These questions will bring up so many thoughts about money. I don't care about money/Money isn't important Money Is the Root of All Evil Money makes you greedy Money Tears families apart Money is nothing but a score Money is a circumstance Money is like alcohol Money is a tool

You are worthy Inferiority complexes Love Yourself Being the Bully to yourself Troubled by your past? Nobody really cares about your past. Building your Self-worth Kintsugi  and Ikigai Find your purpose Feel like an imposter

Ok, Guys this week we are talking about what men need to stop doing to attract more women. The Thanksgiving Story The biggest reason I did this show is that on Thanksgiving my mom got an unsolicited Dick pick from one of the guys she is talking to. how do I know? because I was looking at a picture my mom's suiter had sent earlier when he sent her an image of his morning wood. This is something tha...

This week I have a special guest who has taken the time to find out how to get the best out of an awful situation. Andy Heller had the rug ripped out from under him after being married for 8 years and being the father of 2 kids. What did Andy do? Did he delve into shame and Scarcity? He may have tried but he didn't in the end. He actually started studying what was going on and taking notes. He als...

How closely have you followed your dreams? How often have you talked about something being nice or cool to have and leaving it at that? If you are like me then you probably do it fairly often. Then there are times that I will get very intentional about a specific idea and pursue it to fruition. The difference is striking. How do you follow your dreams? Have you ever made one of your dreams come tr...

It doesn't matter how you look at it, you have had the feeling that you have been wronged at least a few times in your life. It may be just a minor faux pas or something major where you have had a major grievance. We all have the opportunity to forgive at one point or another.  The problem most people have is that they have the opportunity to forgive someone and they don't. These people often stru...

We are talking about the Lonely man this week. We look at, why are there so many lonely men in society. Boosts! Main topic Today I wanted to talk about a post that has been making its rounds on social media and other sites. This is why there are so many lonely men in society today. Is the lonely guy lonely because he is toxic, or is it be of other factors? It is from  Psychology Today  and it came...

Life is full of stress how you handle that stress can often determine what makes you or breaks you. Panic and stress Don’t use it as an excuse to not get your goal done Apply it as gas for your goal We panic and stress because we want to win Don’t hide/ resist it will tire you out

You look around you see many people of different degrees of wealth. Some are rich, some are very rich and others are filthy, stinking rich. The same goes for the other direction. You have those that don't make as much as you. Some are poor. There are those who are dirt poor and there are those who are so poor they can't even pay attention. You fall somewhere in the middle of the two extremes. You...

Boosts! Chad 8599 sats - I heard your Boostagram on PC 2.0 so I’m checking out your podcast. Main Show Why do you do what you do? Sounds like a weird question to ask yet we always ask that and there is a reason why we keep doing the same things over and over. Why do certain people keep falling into the same traps time and again? Why do men pick the same type of woman over and over again? Why do we...

We often come across people who claim we are wrong, or that we have someone who is completely wrong and has no clue about the topic at hand. An instance where so many people who didn't know what they were talking about are often seen as blowhards or complete fools. Today it seems like everybody has to be right. Insistent on being right and even when you prove that they’re wrong. they find a reason...

There is a myriad of emotions that we men go through. in fact, we have all the same emotions that women have. Whaaaaa? Yeah, Men have the same emotional depth as women, Now we express those emotions differently and we may not use the same language for what we feel as our feminine counterparts but they are there. Many times we use emotions for the very same reason. This includes our avoidance of em...

Many people hear discomfort and they shy away from it because the word brings up images of their skin being flayed off, or they have to lay on a bed of nails. You know, horrible things being done to them. Yeah, they are right none of that is very comfortable. In fact, all that sounds downright painful. Yet pain and discomfort actually are good things to have in your life? They help you gain the sk...