The Refined Collective Podcast

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Andi Andrew  is a dear friend of mine and I am glad to finally have her on the podcast! She is a wife, mother of four kiddos, pastor,  author , and speaker. She and her husband, Paul, are lead pastors at the Liberty Church in NYC. She also launched...

“She kept going until she looked good on paper, but it never made her feel more real.” -Mary Marantz   How human is it to want something, try and fit the bill, and then finally fit the bill and feel like you’re suffocating?  Mary Marantz and I talk all about this on the podcast this week. She grew up in a single-wide trailer, then went on to go to Yale Law School. She recently shared her story in...

Is it ok if I don’t know ‘who’ I am…we all want to be somebody.  But what is a somebody? —Jedidiah Jenkins   Thank you  Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   This week, I’m chatting with travel writer, public speaker, and my good friend  Jedidiah Jenkins . A few years ago, Jed made the decision...

On this special bonus episode, I’m sharing part two of my conversation with  Addison Bevere . If you missed part one,  listen here  for our chat about first dates, vulnerability, and 3 practical ways to know if he’s ‘the one.’ This episode, we’re diving into a conversation about his book he just released called  Saints: Becoming More Than "Christians."  We explore the current climate of the Wester...

Addison Bevere  is the COO of the non-profit  Messenger International  and co-founder of  Sons and Daughters TV . He also recently became a published author— he just wrote  Saints: Becoming More Than “Christians.”  We talked for SO long and about so many things that I decided to share this episode in two parts, so you’ll be getting a special bonus episode this week! In  this  episode, we talk all...

“In the midst of chaos, there’s always a place where peace resides.  We just have to find our way to it”.  — Toni Collier   Thank you  Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   I have the pleasure of talking to Toni Collier this week. She is a speaker, host, consultant, and the founder of a women’s...

Today is a big day, friends, because I’m chatting with  Jamie Ivey ! A few years ago Jamie had me on her podcast  The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey . AND it was the first time I ever opened up about my faith and singleness. It was astonishing to hear the response to that conversation and it is part of the reason I am writing a book. Today, we chat about her book,  You Be You , understanding our calli...

Dr. Sasha Shillcutt is a nationally renowned cardiac anesthesiologist and has witnessed gender-bias in her field. She’s also seen women withdraw and conceal their leadership. We ended up having a completely different conversation than we had planned because we started chatting about the idea of ‘bossiness.’ Do you ever stop and think of how many times you say “I’m sorry” throughout the day to make...

I am so grateful to The Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   I never thought I’d be talking about things like sexual desire and masturbation, but the masturbation series broke records for downloads. So many of you reached out saying it was what you had been needing to hear. So here I am, back t...

This week, I two guests…double the fun y’all! I have the pleasure of talking to Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick, the podcast hosts of  The Dateable Podcast . When they began, it was a whole lot of ‘dating sucks,’ but they’ve transitioned out of that to focusing on getting to the bottom of why people do the things they do. We’re chatting all things dating during COVID, dating in the midst of the BLM Mov...

I have the absolute pleasure of chatting with pastor, author, and host of the A Greater Story podcast , Sam Collier. He just released a book called  A Greater Story  all about turning messes into miracles and how God redeemed stories in his life. We chat all about finding our own miracles during COVID-19, his personal journey finding his family, and what it’s like to be a man in the church.   Find...

“You can never say, do, or be the wrong thing to the right person.”—Hugette Montesinos Rodriguez   Hugette Montesinos Rodriguez  is the CEO of  Disfunkshion Magazine  and has worked with thousands of women worldwide spreading her message of living a delicious life as she moves from fear to freedom. She is the most colorful person I know and I’m so excited to be talking with her about sex, specific...

This episode is really special, friends. I didn’t come into this episode with a real plan for a direction our conversation would take and I’m glad I didn’t because it naturally went to some amazing places. This week, I’m chatting with Todd McCullough , founder of TMAC Fitness . We spoke about conflict resolution, fitness, our backgrounds as athletes, but we kept coming back to the value of relatio...

Today is part TWO of a conversation on masturbation on the podcast. If you missed part one, check it out  here before you listen to this episode. This week, I’ll be walking through what the Bible says about masturbation and if it is really a sin.    Is Masturbation A Sin? Brokenness is the beginning of the gospel —David Kim.    My honest answer is: yes, no, maybe. o   Is it possible to touch mysel...

Today is Part 1 of a conversation I have been avoiding having with you guys in a solo show.  I’ve been afraid of getting it wrong, and afraid of someone taking a sound bite out of context. But I don’t want fear to keep me from this dialogue. There’s also a reason I talk about masturbation in a workshop setting, in my online courses and with one on one coaching clients. It’s a nuanced conversation...

Victim of sexual exploitation turned UCLA honor student,  Harmony Grillo  founded the non-profit  Treasures  in 2003 to help women and girls entrenched in sexual exploitation find freedom. She has provided training for the Department of Justice and the FBI and has helped launch outreaches in 120 cities worldwide. She shares her story in her memoir,  Scars and Stilettos . This week on the podcast,...

Relationship coach and expert Amanda Blair Hopkins is on the podcast this week for the second time ever! She is a previous guest on episode 36: How to Pursue Wholeness Before Pursuing a Relationship . She is a relationship coach for Lacy Phillips’s  To Be Magnetic  (who is a TRC Podcast guest as well: episode 46: How to be 100% in Your Worth .   It’s in the first few years of our lives that we lea...

Jillian Turecki is a NYC based certified relationship coach, yoga teacher and writer. For 20 years, she has been studying the body and the mind. Fueled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive. Through her work, Jillian has helped thousands revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they can transform their love lives. Jillian is sought out for her compassion...

Today, I am chatting with the wonderful  Ty Alexander ! She is the author of  Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died ,  where she talks about how women of color need a space to discuss their mental wellness without judgement or shame. She has created a wellness community for women to do just that. In this episode, we chat about finding joy in life, how to approach grief and healing, how to care f...

“For me, I believe that Black lives matter. That’s what I said. Anyone with a functioning brain understands that all lives matter. Anybody. But right now there is a portion of our community that is frustrated, and they are suffering, and they are hurting. So, as an empathetic Christian I’m gonna go and say I agree with the statement Black lives do matter. But I was glad some people disagreed with...

I have the privilege of chatting with  Debra Fileta  of  TrueLoveDates.com  this week! She is a licensed professional counselor who specializes in dating, marriage, and relationship issues, as well as mental health disorders. She’s also the author of  True Love Dates ,  Choosing Marriage , and  Love in Every Season ! We chat about everything from the dating mistakes that are holding you back to wh...

Today on the podcast, I am chatting about wellness and self-love with Erin from Raw Beauty Talks. She shares what the heck self-love actually means, how to listen to your body, master your mindset, and understand what nourishes and energizes you. We also chat about body positivity, Beyoncé, and Erin’s own wellness journey and finding her voice in the body confidence conversation as a ‘skinny girl....

  I am so thrilled to be talking with  Phylicia Masonheimer  this week! She is an author, speaker, and theologian who just released her book  Stop Calling Me Beautiful . We talk about dating, if marrying a Christian really non-negotiable, what things we should be looking for in a partner, and a whole lot more.   The Way They Met ·      Phylicia shares how she didn’t see her husband as her type whe...

Jen Batchelor  is the co-founder and CEO of  Kin Euphorics , which she created as a response to shifts in her own lifestyle, as well as the lifestyle of her co-founder. Kin is an alternative beverage company that will change the way you approach social drinking. Jen helps unpack the social drinking movement, how adaptogens and nootropics can give your body what it really needs, and how you can app...

This week, I’m chatting with Jeremy and Adrienne Camp.  Jeremy  and  Adrienne are singers and songwriters who met while on tour. Jeremy is GRAMMY-nominated and Adrienne was the lead singer of the Christian rock band the Benjamin Gate and later recorded two solo albums. The two have been married for 17 years have 2 daughters and a son. Their movie I Still Believe  was released in March— it’s about...