The Refined Collective Podcast

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Welcome back to The Refined Collective Podcast! You may have noticed that we’ve got a new look and sound. I’m so excited to share my new vision for the podcast with you as we continue on this journey together. If there’s an elephant in the room, I’...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Welcome to the TRC Remix Series #10. If you’re not sure what this series is click here for more info!   I thought it’d be cool to end this series with a conversation that meant SO much to me personally. Like if no one else ever heard this call betw...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Welcome to the TRC Remix Series #9. If you’re not sure what this series is click here for more info!   For today’s second to last TRC Remix episode we have love coach Shaun Galanos . I freakin’ LOVE this guy. He’s a straight shooter and to the poin...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Welcome to the TRC Remix Series #8. If you’re not sure what this series is click here for more info!   Today’s TRC Remix Episode is all about Dating 101: everything from dealbreakers to online dating profile no-nos to finding someone who’s our “typ...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Welcome to the TRC Remix Series #7. If you’re not sure what this series is click here for more info!   Today’s TRC Remix episode is a solo show. I’m talking about sex in dating— specifically when and how to bring up your physical boundaries in dati...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Welcome to the TRC Remix Series #6. If you’re not sure what this series is click here for more info!   Are you single? In need of a dating breakthrough? Does it feel like there are no good single ones left? Does it feel easy to see lack all around...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Welcome to the TRC Remix Series #5. If you’re not sure what this series is click here for more info!   Today’s TRC Remix episode is with Theologian and powerhouse Phylicia Masonheimer. In this conversation she candidly shares how her husband wasn’t...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Welcome to the TRC Remix Series #4. If you’re not sure what this series is click here for more info!   Today’s TRC Remix episode is with Christian Sexologist Dr. Celeste Holbrook. In this conversation we unpack her experience growing up in purity c...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Welcome to the TRC Remix Series #3. If you’re not sure what this series is click here for more info!   I am so excited to be chatting with my soul sister Kate Eskuri today! This episode we're talking all about PERIODS. Ladies (and gentleman), you'r...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Welcome to the TRC Remix Series Part II. If you’re not sure what this series is click here for more info!   Today is part TWO of a conversation on masturbation on the podcast. If you missed part one, check it out here before you listen to this epis...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   You may have heard on Instagram that The Refined Collective reached 1 million downloads! This is a huge milestone and I want to CELEBRATE that with you! We have over 150 episodes from the last 3.5 years and I spent some time digging through the arc...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Today’s guest is a pretty big deal... I’m talking with the author of a book that has changed my life. Christopher West is a Doctor of Theology, devoted husband, father of five, and president of the Theology of the Body Institute . He is also the au...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   I grew up in the Bible Belt South. I was taught good Christians save sex for marriage. I loved God + wanted to do it ‘His way’, so I nodded + smiled. Only in my late 20s did I realize I had no idea what the Bible actually said about sex. I only kne...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Warning: This episode covers a sensitive topic. I want to give you the opportunity to pause and listen when you are alone or use some headphones if you’re around delicate ears.   What does the Bible really say about sex? Is there a difference betwe...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Prayer is talking to God. Meditation is learning to listen to the voice of God. One of my yoga instructors told me that years ago, and it freaked me out!   Meditation felt scary, woo-woo, and un-Christian. But what my yoga instructor said all those...

Unsure how to practically prioritize your mental health? What are tangible ways you can check-in + gauge your current mental health? Do you spiritually bypass your mental health struggles? Sometimes we gaslight ourselves when it comes to spirituality + mental health. Here’s how...   Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor who specializes in dating, marriage, and relationship issues, as w...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Are you experiencing a lot of anxiety recently? Does it feel unsolvable? Like your anxiety attack will like it will never end? What if you had tools to help ease your anxiety in the moment?   As you know, May is Mental Health Awareness Month and we...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   What triggers our anxiety? How can we identify our triggers outside of the moment? How can we change our relationship with anxiety?   As you know, May is Mental Health Awareness Month and we’re getting serious about mental health over here on The R...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Trigger Warning: We’re talking about mental health in this episode and the conversations can get pretty heavy. If you have little ears around, grab some headphones. Feel free to pause and save this episode for another time if you don’t feel like yo...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Feminism: the fight for equality between men and women.   Did you grow up thinking feminism was bad?  That the word “feminism” was a dirty word? That your faith had no space for feminism? That women called to serve men?   This week, I’m talking wit...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Trigger warning: Multiple discussions of sexual assault in this episode.    Can you have conversations with people you don’t agree with theologically? What does the Bible say about sex? How can we reframe a dialogue around sex? Is your sexual ethic...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Drumroll please…   My book Sexless in the City launches next week! And so for the first time ever, I’m reading my book on the podcast this week. Here is chapter 1 of my book: My Breaking Point. As you leave this episode, I want you to reflect on th...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   We are back with part two of the conversation I had with the hosts of the Nights at the Round Table Podcast (actress/comedian, Anjelah Johnson; singer/songwriter/producer, Manwell Reyes; and story-teller/preacher Brandon Smith). If you missed part...

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Today marks a first on The Refined Collective Podcast… I have three guests on at the same time. Why? Because I just needed to talk to all of the hosts of the Nights at the Round Table Podcast . My guests are actress/comedian, Anjelah Johnson; singe...

This week, you’re in for a real treat. I’m doing a 3-part podcast series with fellow podcasters + single gals: Carrie Lloyd + Kait Warman. Carrie is a pastor, author, and podcast host . Kait is a relationship coach, podcast host , and author.    The three of us are doing a series where we’re talking about dating in today’s culture on an episode of each of our podcasts + all three episodes are live...