The Reality Check Podcast

Dissociation is a feeling of unreality; a fog over consciousness that makes everything, even the self, feel ethereal. A barrier to connection that blocks most everything, leaving your goals, dreams and hopes to merely bleed through the window of mind offering little more than an opaque view of life. Until of course, that window cracks, letting in the cold winds of anxiety, depression and the harsh...

Today I share the audio from my live talk on the Insight Timer app , titled "Stop Quitting On Yourself", inspired by my 10 day course - “ Discover Your Divine Purpose ” This session will begin with a guided meditation that will prime you to be ready to sit in contemplation a question designed to evoke transformation. We will then sit in silent contemplation together for 1 minute. The session will...

It is impossible to judge people objectively - your basis for forming an opinion is a function of the unique circumstances of your life (location, time, genetics, environment etc), thus your conclusions are dependent on factors external to you. No one is privy to your inner world and you are not privy to theirs. How then can we ever know what they should or shouldn’t do? In this talk I break down...

In this episode I share a chapter on changing habits . The best advice I’ve heard to change habits is to implement new habits that superseded the old. Eg: if you struggle to go to bed at night/want to quit partying etc, establish the habit of morning exercise (with a friend to keep you accountable). The insertion of the new habit will force you to curb the undesirable habits. Just make sure to tak...

Today I share the audio from my talk on the Remotely Possible Community , titled "From Blog to Bookshelf: How Entrepreneurs Can Publish Their Content," here we unveil the secrets to transforming your online presence into a tangible book. Designed specifically for aspiring authors and entrepreneurial minds, this informative session will guide you through the entire publishing journey, from turning...

In this episode I introduce my YouTube channel ‘ Ask A Poet ’ and share a poem. If this episode has resonated with you, I would love your support . Click here to find out more about my 1:1 coaching & counselling sessions.

The concept of inner child work is vital to recovery. The body holds trauma and it often ‘feels’ like it is held at the age that that trauma happened. In this episode I share my discovery of issues with my inner child as well as my plans to reconnect and heal. I also share a chapter ‘ Give Yourself A Break ’ from the book ‘ How To Get Your Sh!t Together ’ If this episode has resonated with you, I...

When you are at your lowest point, perhaps it is time to celebrate. You are in a state of healing, of shadow work leading to growth, of transformation - towards beauty, towards abundance, towards every possibility that life can offer you. In this short talk I share how my life fell apart and how I am celebrating the process of putting it back together, better than it ever has been. Who is willing...

When you are at your lowest point, perhaps it is time to celebrate. You are in a state of healing, of shadow work leading to growth, of transformation - towards beauty, towards abundance, towards every possibility that life can offer you. In this short talk I share how my life fell apart and how I am celebrating the process of putting it back together, better than it ever has been. Who is willing...

The medication is making it worse and I am sick of it. In this episode I share my how anger and anxiety feels preferable to apathy and why I am choosing to stop the medication I was on. I also read out the poem ‘ elated ’ - from my new YouTube channel , as well as the chapter ‘ give yourself a break ’, - from the book How To Get Your Sh!t Together If this episode has resonated with you, I would lo...

Today I talk about the how it can take longer than you think to even begin to process emotions, particularly when you have a history of dissociation/trauma. I begin the episode with the poem: “by the time i feel safe enough to process my emotions so much time has passed between the event and my response to it that i fear being judged as pathetic or hypersensitive thus i tend to close off and inste...

In this episode I share my latest blog post, I Don't Know How To Be A Dad , where I talk about the impact of having a neglectful, addicted father and how not being shown what to do/the ways to be a good father impact me with my children If you resonated with this piece, I encourage you to read my story in the book ‘ Under The Influence, Reclaiming My Childhood ’, there I share the raw, honest, and...

In this episode I share my latest blog post, The Problem With Pride - On The Connection Between My Trauma & Gender Dysphoria . Thank you to the many people who have read it, resonated and chose to reach out in support. You are amazing. If this episode has resonated with you, I would love your support . Click here to find out more about my 1:1 coaching & counselling sessions.

Just a couple of lessons learnt in the process of losing my job and picking up some bit work. They say it is darkest before the dawn and I sure hope they are right! I start and end this episode with readings from the book, A Requiem For What Could Have Been: Poetry For The Broken , out now as a paperback, eBook, hardcover, and audio If this episode has resonated with you, I would love your support...

I have just released a poetry collection called A Requiem For What Could Have Been: Poetry For The Broken . In this episode I talk about the book, sharing some of the poems within, the thoughts behind the collection, and the greater impact of writing for healing. If you resonate with my work, you will get a lot from this collection. It is out now as a paperback, eBook, & hardcover (audio comin...

More medication more failure. Once again I was apathetic, depressed and not feeling at all like myself, to such an extent that it felt dangerous. I am taking a break from medication whilst I wait for an appointment with a psychiatrist, as well as some test results back. Hopefully something comes from it because whilst anxiety is bad, it feels like the lesser of two evils. If this episode has reson...

My first attempt at finding the right medication hasn’t gone so well… In this episode I share it’s impact, my thoughts, and what I am doing moving foward. Thank you to everyone offering their support. Sertraline If this episode has resonated with you, I would love your support . Click here to find out more about my 1:1 coaching & counselling sessions.

Medication saved my life. It ‘worked’ but the implementation, support, and planning was laughably incompetent. The side effects were crippling and I didn’t have an exit plan, nor a holistic approach to wellness. This was only the start of the my terrible indoctrination into the world of therapy. 15 years later, and I have the self care down pat, I meditate, exercise, write, and do the therapy. Non...

It’s okay to not be okay… but is it okay to be okay? Are we romanticising mental illness? What can we do to best safeguard our ongoing mental health? In this episode I muse on these questions, as well as break down the come down from Christmas season. Venus Fly Trap - Short Story Subscribe to me on YouTube Get $30 off Calmigo with coupon code ‘zacpphillips’ Read ‘ How To Get Your Sh!t Together ’ -...

It’s that time of year again, when people like me find themselves conflicted by the festive season. On the one hand I want to enjoy myself, but on the other hand I feel overwhelmed by it all. In this episode I discuss how I am managing to survive (and hopefully thrive) this Christmas. I also talk about generational trauma - focusing on what it is, and why it is almost impossible to completely brea...

Today’s episode is the audio from a talk I did on building an authentic Instagram following for the Remotely Possible community. I touch on the importance of engagement, connection, values, and being ‘real’. I also go into specific strategies like hashtags, stories, DM’ing, music and other techniques specific to the platform. If you have a personal brand or business, this talk is a must for you! i...

It is possible to heal from trauma, neglect and abuse. The process is slow and painful but ultimately rewarding. I open this episode with the poem Forever Cursed To Sing , using it to highlight to journey I have taken thus far, as well as sharing the lessons learnt. Keep Turning Up instagram.com/kink_sex_positive The Kinky Conversations Podcast Get $30 off Calmigo with coupon code ‘zacpphillips’ R...

Today I muse on the impact of the modern world on my inner mental state, how anxiety seems to download 5 minutes after I wake, and why despite success online I still feel lonely. I also discuss our lack of silence, wondering if our ability to constantly distract ourselves could be detrimental. Overcome Philosophical Traps - blog Get $30 off Calmigo with coupon code ‘zacpphillips’ Read ‘ How To Get...

I struggle with anxiety attacks and moments of overwhelm. Calm breathing helps - unfortunately, I don’t always remember to do it. In this episode I share some approaches to calm breathing, as well as introduce the ‘ CalmiGo ’ - a device that helps you to slow down your breathing and ground you. I use it daily. Get $30 off Calmigo with coupon code ‘zacpphillips’ How To Get Your Sh!t Together- book...

In this episode I talk about my approach to my online work, as well as the mental processors that have been holding me back. I release everything I do, for free, because I don’t want money to be a barrier for life saving advice. I moved out of home at 16. Back then I couldn’t afford food, let alone a book or therapy. So now I want to ensure that people who are in a similar situation to me have acc...