The Problem With Perfect

We all recognize when our closets and drawers are so full of clothes that we can't fit any new ones in them.  But do we recognize that same phenomenon when it comes to our minds and the thoughts that fill them? Some of our old clothes don't fit us any longer. Others are out of style while many are just worn out.  All of them need to be thrown out.  The same can be true with our thoughts....

The book of Ecclesiastes says there is a time for everything under the sun; a time to be born and a time to die. Instinctively, we all know this to be true - yet we are much more comfortable with birth than we are with death.  But what if we lived every day with the end in mind? What if we thoughtfully considered what we wanted to experience in life and then made a plan to accomplish it? Meet Darr...

Most of us know drama when we see it, but do we see it when we are in the middle of it? Robert Palmer got rich singing that we might as well face it that we're addicted to love, but who is checking ourselves when it comes to drama. The least recognized addiction in our society, the addiction to drama is worth exploring - evaluating our own tendencies and how they impact our relationships.  Jo...

Erin Brown's life changed in an instant. One minute she was basking in the joy of bringing her newborn home from the hospital. The next minute she felt like she might be dying. What happened next was a months long search for answers that left her feeling lonely and hopeless. The journey eventually led her to question her mental health, as well as her faith. But it also led her to a physician...

Last week the Wall Street Journal printed an editorial about how millennials are rethinking their lives - and it got us to thinking. How are we thinking about what we really want rather than what the world tells us will make us happy? And if we know what would make us happy, what keeps us from doing it? In this episode, we discuss how fear and faith can be present together and lead us into finding...

Imagine being 26 years old and having the entire world scrutinize your every move. Imagine every where you go, every one you meet has an opinion on your life- what kind of wife you’ll be, what kind of mother you are and what values you hold.  This is Brittany Matthews’ reality. Once she and her boyfriend, Patrick Mahomes, lived a simple life in Texas. Now he’s her fiancé, father of her child and o...

Eat organic.  Watch your calories.  Count your steps.  Exercise and exercise some more. Then drink the benefits away at the bar. With the ever-increasing focus on wellness in our culture, the fascination with alcohol consumption is becoming more and more counter-intuitive.  This "sober curious" movement is growing in popularity, largely due to improved sleep, weight loss and increased pr...

Ever wonder if you're overly sensitive to unwanted feedback or if you're just surrounded by more than your share of insensitive people? If so, then this episode is for you.  Join us for this conversation as we discuss why we are easily offended, how it derails our relationships and mental health and how to get a grasp on it and move forward more constructively.

Change is difficult for most of us. Whether it's how we think, how we act, or what we believe - these things don't come easy.  What if there is a way to help others (and ourselves) think through change in a way that was able to truly help them make changes that will better serve them and those around them? Join us for this episode and learn more about a technique called Motivational Inte...

Most girls grow up wanting to find their Prince Charming and live  happily ever after. But to be clear, this isn’t God’s narrative  The Bible is clear about the benefits of being single, yet our culture persists with the narrative that our lives aren’t complete until we’ve  found “the one.” So how does one overcome the cultural ideal and embrace singleness? And how do we who are married or coupled...

There’s only one problem with the perfect wedding-  it doesn’t exist. Instead, the event joining two people, two families and all their friends brings tough decisions and difficult conversations.  Join us for this special episode as bride-to-be Maddie May joins us to share her perspective on wedding planning, managing expectations and keeping the first thing first. 

Do you believe in miracles? The Kansas City Chiefs sure do. Down by three points with only 13 seconds remaining, they not only marched down the field to kick a field goal to take the game to overtime but ended up winning it and advancing to this week's AFC Championship game.  So what is it about people like Patrick Mahomes that cause them to believe that the unexpected should be expected? Is...

Imagine going your entire life without seeing a doctor; without getting your blood pressure checked, without routine lab work, or even a pelvic exam. Sounds ludicrous, doesn't it? Yet, that is exactly how the majority of Americans care for their mental health. Depending on the statistic or study, only around 40 percent of American adults have seen a mental health expert at some point in their...

Being a Christ-follower doesn't automatically mean life will be easy and it certainly doesn't mean we won't struggle with temptations. Just look at the life of Jesus. After 40 days of fasting, the enemy found Jesus weak and hungry and used the same dirty little lies with Jesus as he does with us. Unfortunately, we often buy into these lies that Jesus rejected, resulting in disappoin...

Vaginas are important to us all.  Whether you have one of your own or interact with someone else's, a basic knowledge of all things vagina is good for everyone.  So then, why is it so difficult to talk about vaginal and reproductive health? Why do women fear gynecologists? And how can we be more empowered by appreciating the female body and all it offers? To answer these questions and a whole...

It’s the last podcast of the year- time to reflect on 2021 and look forward to the year ahead.  In this episode, we review our words for last year and evaluate our progress with them. And looking ahead,  we discuss how to choose a word to guide our goals and give our life deeper meaning.  What will your word be for 2022? Give this episode a listen and we’ll tell you ours!

No matter what study you read on body image, the results are disturbing. One says that more than 90 percent of women are unhappy with their bodies. Another says that 46 percent of 9-11 year-old girls are “sometimes” or “very often” on diets, and 82 percent of their families are ‘”sometimes” or “very often” on diets. And it's not just an issue for women. It's reported that more than a thi...

Food. It’s everywhere! From Thanksgiving to Christmas and even into the New Year, food is at the center of all our celebrations. But for many of us, it’s also the source of fear and guilt. We worry about over indulging and dread the emotions that come with it. So what if this year could be different? What if we could enjoy food and listen to our bodies when they tell us they are hungry and when th...

In this episode, we are celebrating Robin's 50th birthday! We reflect on life's major milestones and how we can learn from them at any age. 

“People overestimate what they can accomplish in a month but underestimate what they can accomplish in a year.” Lexi Johnson of Lexi J Wellness Wellness is a complex state of being that combines our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.  Getting well is a challenge. Staying well is a lifestyle- one that includes a healthy amount of exercise and good nutrition. But how much exercise is...

Psychologists tell us that unrealistic expectations form the core of perfectionism. As perfectionists, we expect ourselves to be perfect and are disappointed when we can't meet our unobtainable standards.  But our unrealistic expectations don't end there. They likely extend to most areas of our lives- including those around us. Whether it's our ideas about the perfect partner, the p...

Many of us who struggle with perfectionism often find ourselves thinking about how we're not enough. Not smart enough. Not successful enough. Not attractive enough. Not good enough to be loved and fully known.  Where do these thoughts come from? Why do they have so much power over us? And perhaps most importantly, is it possible to overcome them? As we tackle this tough topic in this episode,...

With the turn of the calendar to November, so comes the holiday season and all the hustle and bustle- and added stress- that comes with it.  So what is it about the holidays that make them so stressful? Whose expectations are we trying to meet? And how do simplify the holidays without disappointing someone? In this episode, we tackle these questions and offer some practical and timely insight to h...