The Problem With Perfect

Creating a new "Coronavirus normal" isn't without its challenges. With the comfort of our routines and human interactions gone, we find ourselves searching for ways to fill the gap and keep our cups full. In this episode, we share our best tips for self-care to help us all find greater joy and peace in these days at home. SHOW NOTES: 3:15 Learn about the online game pack that has Ra...

Need a little R&R heading into the weekend? Here's your bonus episode of The Problem with Perfect designed to give you just that. This week it's one-on-one with Robin as she explains the tension created by her son's recent birthday. One one hand, after his battle with cancer three years ago, she is incredibly grateful for another birthday. And on the other hand, she mourns yet a...

The anxiety and fear that the coronavirus pandemic is producing seems to be intensifying the longer we have to sit with our new reality.  It’s clear that many of us are worrying about life and death issues for ourselves or those we love, as well as the long list of unknowns to face after this is "over." But what might be less obvious are the emotions that come with the long list of thing...

There is no denying that the Coronavirus pandemic has produced a collective fear like the modern world has never seen. In this unprecedented time, the unknowns seem limitless and even our most basic needs are at risk of not being met. The psychological and emotional stress of it all leaves us looking for answers and a path forward. To help with this situation, we looked to the one place we believe...

Imagine being 24-years-old and realizing that your debt is sucking the joy right out of your life. In fact, it's suffocating you. This is Rachel Pedersen's story, and it might be yours. A new college grad, Rachel was enjoying having the income of "a real job" and was trying to build her credit. But before she knew it, she added up her student loans and credit card debt and was...

Let's face it - we are not good at being still. We are so busy trying to control every aspect of our lives (and our children's lives) that our minds are racing even when our bodies aren't. This never-ending stress takes a toll on our emotional, physical and spiritual health. What if there is one thing we could all do to minimize these impacts? To help decrease anxieties, improve con...

Spring is right around the corner. - thank goodness! But let's be honest, for many of us, the thought of spring break trips, summer vacations or even just putting on shorts and a t-shirt causes some anxiety. After all, we've spent all winter hiding behind our jeans and sweaters and we might not even know what is under them! The increased skin exposure of Spring is also sure to expose som...

Martin Luther King Jr. had a dream that shaped history. What about you?  While most of us won't have the impact on the world that King did, are we aspiring to shape the world around us? Are we dreaming about doing big things for our lives or are we content with what the world throws at us?  In this episode, self-proclaimed dreamer (Rachel) and self-proclaimed realist (Robin) discuss how dream...

Like all technological advances, smart phones promised to make our lives better.  They were supposed to make us more organized, connected and efficient - FREEING up our lives to enjoy doing the things we love with the people we love. For many of us, freedom might be the last thing our smart phones have given us. In this episode, we take a quick quiz and quickly determine that we too have what psyc...

Whether you're a hopeless romantic and LOVE everything about Valentine's Day or you're more of a realist: Valentine's Day is coming, like it or not! In this episode, we confess the reasons why we (and maybe you) struggle to enjoy the day and offer strategies/tips for overcoming our bias so that Valentine's Day can be a blessing instead of a curse. SHOW NOTES 2:30 Finding l...

Ever wonder why we have a tendency to remember traumatic experiences better than joyful ones? Why we can recite insults word for word and forget compliments? Why we think more frequently about how things are likely to go wrong than right? The scientific explanation, according to psychologists, is a phenomenon called the negativity bias. In this episode, we acknowledge the havoc the negativity bias...

Super Bowl Sunday is rapidly approaching and since it's the first time in 50 years that our beloved Chiefs have played in it, we decided to do something a little different this week. Almost three years ago, Matt May, an 18-year-old, life-long Chiefs fan was told that he had leukemia. Determined not to let cancer steal their joy, Matt and his family decided to focus on things they love - inclu...

A quick Google search will tell you what you already know: You need a mentor. But how do you find and keep one? On today's episode, we discuss how to right set your expectations for a mentoring relationship and then offer suggestions to help you find and keep one. We also share what has worked and what hasn't both from a mentor and mentee perspective. Whether you are looking to find a me...

Choosing a word for the year is all the buzz on social media these days, but is it worth the hype? In this episode we talk about how choosing a word for the year has helped shaped our year's past and give you three reasons why you should choose one NOW in 2020. Ready to get your FREE step-by-step guide for Choosing and Using Your Word for the Year? Click here: https://mailchi.mp/88cd02892508/...

Sarah Gregg's life looked perfect from the outside, but on the inside she found herself exhausted and disappointed. All this led her to bravely hit the "emergency re-start button" and eventually led her down a path where she discovered the psychological practice of flow. In this second of a two-part series with Sarah, she walks us through her innovative method of using flow which is...

Sarah Gregg isn't unlike you or us. She believed that if she did everything right and followed all the rules, success and happiness would follow. But when this self-proclaimed over-achiever from Northern Ireland achieved all her goals, happiness eluded her. Sarah's life looked perfect from the outside, but on the inside she found herself exhausted and disappointed. All this led her to br...

We have all been in situations where we feel like we don't belong. Whether it's Christmas dinner with the family or in-laws, a New Year's celebration, or even feeling like you don't fit in at church - the opportunities to feel like we are alone are seemingly endless. So what is it about these occasions that make us feel uncomfortable? More importantly, is it possible to overcom...

There will be "Top 10 Lists of the Decade" popping up everywhere during the next week. Instead of reading what some stranger says defined the last decade, why not do it for yourself? What did you learn about your personal development, romantic relationships, career, friendships and spirituality during the last ten years? In this episode, we discuss how time has changed us and offer you a...

It's cold and dark outside. Soon Christmas will be over, leaving nothing but time between us and the saving grace that we affectionately call Spring. During these winter months, do you find yourself struggling to be productive? Is doing anything other than snuggling up on the couch a real feat? Or maybe you notice you're easily agitated with those around you? If so, then this episode abo...

We've all heard "fake it to you make it." In fact, we've all done it - maybe we still are! So how do we know when this old adage serves us well (both professionally and personally) and when it's time to be transparent and share our authentic self? In this episode, we get real about the tension of being the new kid on the block on the job, who's trying to make a positi...

If ever there is a time when we can get overwhelmed and completely drained, the holiday season is it! These are the six weeks of the year where we take our already hectic and chaotic lives and add the additional stresses of shopping, decorating, entertaining and making sure everyone around us is happy. In this episode, we empower ourselves and you to set healthy boundaries, allowing us all to find...

Let's face it - relationships can be challenging. You see the world one way; your partner sees it another. As a result, conflict can abound. In this episode, Certified Enneagram Facilitator Dr. Kelly Wright joins us to discuss how our Enneagram number or type can help us better understand ourselves and how we interact with those around us. At 4:00, Kelly explains what the Enneagram is, the ni...

Maybe Disney and Rom-Com movies are to blame? Or perhaps it's social media? Or maybe it’s just that we are hard-wired for relationship? Whatever the reason, the desire for the perfect relationship often results in us trying to be the perfect partner, which is the perfect recipe for disaster. In this episode, Dr. Kelly Wright, LPC, discusses how to overcome these unrealistic expectations so th...

With the holiday season rapidly approaching, the opportunities to eat, overeat, and beat ourselves up about it will be endless. So, how do we have a healthy physical and emotional relationship with food? How do we recognize if we or someone we love (including our kiddos) is at risk for disordered eating, or even worse, an eating disorder? In this episode, Registered Dietitian and Owner of Bamboo N...

Let’s face it, life is scary! This week’s Halloween episode of the podcast tackles the very real and frightening subject of anxiety. Whether you are one of the 40 million Americans suffering from anxiety or not, we all experience the fears that come with living in this uncertain world.  In this episode, Patrick Miller, Podcaster and the Director of Twenties Ministries from The Crossing is our gues...