The Parent Pivot Podcast

The pivot from Parent to Partner goes more smoothly when we "keep our mouths shut and the welcome mat out" - the main theme of Jim Burns' book and The Parent Pivot Podcast. Okay - but what is the balance between keeping our mouths shut - and dealing with our own emotions and resentment that pops up with our adult kids?   On today's podcast, Steve and Julia help you navigate what this looks like to...

Enjoy this replay of The Parent Pivot Podcast where Steve and Julia sit down with Dr. Jim Burns, President of HomeWord and author of the book, "Doing Life with Your Adult Children."  Be listening for how you can get a free copy of Jim's book from Steve and Julia.

There comes a time when you have to take a step back from life for a bit and take a deep breath.  Life gets crazy fast, doesn't it?  It's all about balance. Summer 2024 is here and it's time to relax, reflect and enjoy this short season.  Steve and Julia will be doing that themselves and have some suggestions for you while they are away. Be sure to circle AUGUST 6th on your calendar when they will...

Pivoting from parent to partner can seem like there's more negative than positive going on.  It takes a shift in thinking and relating to your adult child in an entirely different way. But in this new season as you pivot, there is joy to be found.  You just have to look for it. On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share two different views of how you can find joy on this se...

The pivot from parent to partner is not easy.  It's not a "one and done."  It's not even about "checking the box."  Pivoting can be hard for some parents and the question that comes up often is:  "How can I tell if I'm stuck in parent mode?" On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia get real and vulnerable about being aware of some things that may keep you from the pivot to beco...

Do you struggle with anxiety about how your adult child(ren) are living their lives?  It could be the job they've chosen, or maybe they're struggling to make it on their own.  You're left feeling weary and asking yourself the question: "My adult child isn't living the life I'd like them to.  What's a parent, I mean . . . what's a PARTNER to do?" On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, you'll...

If you've ever wanted to be a "fly on the wall" of a real-life, real-time, intimate conversation with pivoting partners and their adult child - this is the podcast you will be glad you heard. The tables get turned on Steve and Julia on this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast when their daughter Jamilyn interviews them about a variety of issues she is facing as their adult child living under their...

What do junior high ministry, bluegrass music and long-distance grandparenting have to do with pivoting from a parent to a partner? You'll find out when you listen to this week's Parent Pivot Podcast as Steve and Julia interview Wayne Rice.  Don't miss hearing how you can have an impact on your children's children - even when your adult kids set hard boundaries. Throwback link to the 60-70's: Watc...

We spend so much of our lives constantly trying to avoid the inevitable challenges that come along from the difficult circumstances that our very own choices have led us to be in.  What buffaloes do is very unique for the animal kingdom. What does this have to do with being the parent of adult children?  Steve and Julia have a unique way to get their point across about the tough struggles and trau...

We all do it.  We can't help it.  We choose hills to die on that we regret later and we ask ourselves, "Was it worth it?" Choosing to bite our tongue and have relationship with our adult child(ren) over being right is key to pivoting well from "parent" to "partner."  Join Steve and Julia on The Parent Pivot Podcast as they help us navigate the minefields that come up when our adult children like o...

Pivoting from a parent to a partner comes with a mixture of emotions. You might feel down, lonely, or a bit unsure about what to do with all the new free time you suddenly have. It's a big change, after all. Your job as the parent has shifted, and now it's time to watch your adult children make their way in the world. On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia shed some light on...

Life used to be so simple.  You grew up.  Went to college.  Got married.  Bought a house.  Raised your family. Worked for 30-40 years in the same place.  Retired.  Got a gold watch.  Played golf until you died.  We called it "The American Dream." Today - life looks VERY different and fitting into this mold is no longer possible for 90% of the population. Pivoting to being a partner who speaks life...

Anxiety and control go hand in hand to destroy relationships and often times we are unaware of how our anxiety impacts our relationships with our adult child(ren). On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia reflect on what we can do to decrease our anxiety so that we can maintain healthy relationships and pivot well from parent to partner.  

If you google, "How to deal with an antagonistic adult children," quora.com will tell you:      Avoid them. They're grown. You have no control over them or               their behavior. Focus on things you can control. Take good care of.       yourself. Good thing you have The Parent Pivot Podcast to listen to! On this episode, Steve and Julia will help you pivot with your antagonistic adult child...

Your son or daughter has just gotten married, or is about to.  What does it look like to pivot from parent to partner with your new in-law kids? On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sit down with their daughter-in-law, Ashleigh Cummings, for a transparent and insightful interview from her perspective on marrying into a different family than the one she was raised in.  You'l...

Pivoting well from parent to partner often times means taking a deeper look at things.  On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia tell us first-hand about the highly sensitive person and what that looks like to help us pivot well to being a partner.  If your adult child is an HSP, and 20% of the population is, you won't want to miss this podcast. Get a copy of "The Highly Sensit...

It was bound to happen sooner or later.  We simply can't avoid it.  Our kids grow up and become adults and soon we find ourselves in an "empty nest."  Now what? For some couples, one can make the transition quickly and the other one struggles greatly.   How can we approach this new season of life and really, the rest of our lives, and make it as enjoyable as possible? On this edition of The Parent...

Pivoting is never easy to do no matter what you're pivoting from and to.  It takes intentionality, courage, stepping outside your normal mode of thinking, and seeing life from a different perspective. Pivoting from parent to partner with your adult children is no different. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says,                        "There is a time for everything, and a season                          for ever...

It happens to all of us at some time.  Our kids become adults.  Leave home.  Get married.  And all their stuff from childhood remains in our basements and garages. What does that have to do with pivoting from parent to partner? On this episode of The Parent Pivot podcast, we get an insight look at how Julia faced this recently and what this "emotional torture" taught her in her pivot to partner.

Are you considered a "Type A" personality?  Maybe you have some of these common characteristics.  You are: outgoing ambitious rigidly organized highly status-conscious impatient anxious proactive concerned with time management.  On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve opens up to share his story of being a "Type A Parent" and how he has become aware of the impact it had on raising his k...

It's very subtle and it can go undetected for years and wreak havoc on your relationship(s) with your adult child(ren).  Becoming aware of it and the "why beneath the what" can propel you to a joy-filled life of being a healthy Partner. On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share their own story about how our identity and the worth we receive as "Mom and Dad" plays a foundat...

Like anything we do in life, there can be an "art and a science" to it.  Pivoting from Parent to Partner is no different.   On today's episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia take the in-depth time to personally respond to a loyal listener who invited them into her pivot about her college grad daughter and some things that aren't quite turning out the way she thought they would.  Stev...

"Put the Spotlight on Me?"  Wait.  What??!!  How does that help me pivot from a Parent to a Partner? Easy. Parenting was all about teaching our kids and instructing them on how to live a responsible life.  PARTNERING is all about what is "caught, not taught." On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how shifting the spotlight to us and the changes we are personally goin...

The pivot from Parent to Partner goes more smoothly when we "keep our mouths shut and the welcome mat out" - the main theme of Jim Burns' book and The Parent Pivot Podcast. Okay - but what is the balance between keeping our mouths shut - and dealing with our own emotions and resentment that pops up with our adult kids?   On today's podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings help you navigate what this look...

One dynamic that comes into play as we pivot from being a parent to a partner is: What is the balance between financially helping our adult child(ren) - and enabling them?   Whether it's paying for college, a car, a down payment on a new home, or childcare for the grand babies, how much is too much?  Especially when you aren't seeing any grateful hearts and expectations begin to take over because,...