The Parent Pivot Podcast

If you've ever wanted to be a "fly on the wall" of a real-life, real-time, intimate conversation with pivoting partners and their adult child - this is the podcast you will be glad you heard. The tables get turned on Steve and Julia on this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast when their daughter Jamilyn interviews them about a variety of issues she is facing as their adult child living under their...

A new year has begun—and so has a new season of The Parent Pivot Podcast. After a season of loss, reflection, and hard conversations, we are back with a powerful reminder for parents of adult children. Today we talk about grief, legacy, forgiveness, and what really matters when the noise fades. How do you stop majoring on the minors? How do you keep short accounts with your adult kids? And what ki...

Pivoting from "Mamma parent" to "Mamma partner" can be one of the toughest things you'll ever have to do - especially if you have an adult son. On this Best of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia discuss the unique dynamics of the Mother/Son relationship and what you want that to look like as they start their own life without you as the #1 woman in their life. It's not a sad story and doesn'...

It happens to all of us at some time.  Our kids become adults.  Leave home.  Get married.  And all their stuff from childhood remains in our basements and garages. What does that have to do with pivoting from parent to partner? On this Best of The Parent Pivot podcast, we get an insightful look at how Julia faced this recently and what this "emotional torture" taught her in her pivot to partner. N...

One dynamic that comes into play as we pivot from being a parent to a partner is: What is the balance between financially helping our adult child(ren) - and enabling them?   Whether it's paying for college, a car, a down payment on a new home, or childcare for the grand babies, how much is too much?  Especially when you aren't seeing any grateful hearts and expectations begin to take over because,...

In the Cummings' kitchen is a wooden plaque that says, "Simplify."  We often get overwhelmed in life trying to balance, juggle, and learn new things.  Don't you wish you could just simplify life more? On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia help us simplify how we can focus on a few things on the road to becoming a champion partner to our adult children. Resources mentioned on this "Best...

“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you     and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you     and give you peace.” Numbers 6:24-26 These verses from the Old Testament are known as "The Blessing" and are the focal point of this "Best of" edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast. Steve and Julia share how it's not to late to change generational "stuff" and see wh...

This Thanksgiving, families gather, memories surface, and… so do the opinions. On this week’s episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, we’re leaning into the heart of the holiday—gratitude, connection, and the power of choosing peace. Join us as we share fun family memories, talk about how to stay unoffended around the dinner table, and give you practical ways to steer conversations away from hostilit...

Pivoting from parent to partner isn't easy.  It's a road of what seems like constant change.  But! . . . the intentional effort you put in, will reap a stronger, deeper and more healthy relationship with your adult children. On this "Best of" episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how we can have a lasting legacy that will strengthen your relationships with your adult childre...

On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, we're talking about the legacy you’ll one day leave—and how to be intentional about it now. As parents, we don’t just pass on our DNA; we pass on values, wisdom, traditions, and faith. Today, we walk through how to create a simple "Legacy List"—a thoughtful inventory of the lessons, stories, and blessings we want to pass down to our kids and grandkids....

Whether it’s hours of Fox News, CNN, or scrolling through heated headlines, constant news consumption can shape our attitudes, heighten emotions, and unintentionally create relational distance with our adult kids. On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia tackle a challenge many pivoting partners may be facing today—navigating the tension that can arise when our over indulgence...

It’s easy to brag about one of your adult kids — especially when you’re proud of who they’ve become. But what happens when your other kids feel overlooked or compared? On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia  unpack why bragging (even the innocent kind) can damage family relationships and how humility, gratitude, and biblical wisdom can keep everyone feeling valued. Learn how...

The holidays are here and can be a LOT of stress as we try to negotiate the plans to be made when our adult kids are married.  What do you do when you have traditions that have been going on for decades and now you have a new member of the family? How do we navigate this season when there are so many emotions pulling us in different directions? On this "Best of" episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast...

Are you sighing instead of speaking? Dropping “harmless” hints instead of having the hard conversations? This week on The Parent Pivot Podcast we're unpacking the oh-so-common (but rarely productive) dance of passive-aggressive behavior with our adult children. Why do we do it? What’s it costing us? And how can we pivot to healthier, more honest communication? Tune in if you’ve ever said “I’m fine...

Raising kids was one adventure — but parenting adult children brings a whole new set of challenges… and blessings. In this week’s episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings dive into “Finding Joy in Your Adult Kids.” Discover how to celebrate who your grown children are becoming, find contentment even when life doesn’t go as planned, and rekindle joy in your relationship with th...

We impact our kids in so many ways as we raise them, and often without without knowing it, we can end up favoring one child over another. Quite frankly, it can be a an unaddressed blindspot. On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia help us sort through what how we can navigate this tricky path we may have inadvertently created to healthier relationships with all our adult kids....

If your adult child has cut you out of his or her life—whether for a long or short time—it is a gut-wrenching experience. It often provokes deep feelings of shame, guilt, bewilderment, and hurt, all of which can easily turn to anger. On top of that, it can also arouse people’s worst suspicions ("Surely, the Smiths must be terrible parents for their daughter to cut them off like that!") and leave y...

With the national news event of the past week that occurred in Utah, how can we as "pivoting partners" to our adult kids navigate this issue and still maintain a healthy relationship? That is today's subject on The Parent Pivot Podcast with Steve and Julia Cummings. Like - Share - and Subscribe and help other parents pivot to choosing relationship over being right.

Your adult child has done or said something that you feel needs to be addressed. But . . . how do you go about having that conversation? On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia help us navigate how to prepare ourselves as pivoting partners to have difficult conversations with our adult children. Resources mentioned on this podcast: 1. Wild at Heart podcast "Having Difficult Co...

Life transitions are never easy whether you move to a new city, lose a loved one or are going through a divorce. Essentially . . . life happens. The same can be said when our adult kids head off to college, move away from us to start a career in another city, or becomes engaged. If pivoting parents aren't careful - these transitions can cause tension in the parent/adult child relationship that whe...

When communication and conversations with your adult child keep ending up in arguments and you feel like you're just spinning your wheels, how do we pivot from parent to partner?   On this "Best of the Parent Pivot Podcast", Steve and Julia discuss Parent Pivot Principle #1: Let them vent, as they provide 4 practical ways to do that to grow a healthier relationship. Contact Steve & Julia at: p...

As parents of 4 married children, Steve and Julia Cummings bring their educational and counseling backgrounds along with their own life experiences as parents, to help others navigate The Parent Pivot: From Parenting to Partnering.  On this replay of their inaugural podcast, it's time to hit the pause button and pivot as you shift how you relate to your adult children. Contact Steve & Julia at...

The kids are gone and a new season has arrived.  You and your spouse suddenly have all this time on your hands.  Now what?  On this "Best of" episode of "The Parent Pivot Podcast," Steve and Julia open up about ways they have been able to pivot and share them with you as you enter this next season of life with your adult children.  Contact Steve & Julia at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com www.mea...

The Cambridge Dictionary defines the word "disrupter" as: "A person or thing that prevents something, especially a system, process, or event, from continuing as usual or as expected." Buckle up, Parent Pivoters! On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings show us how we can be that "disrupter" with our adult kids - in a non-aggressive way, of course! Resources mentioned o...

We all do it.  We mask up to protect our hearts from shame, judgment and criticism and it's all based on fear.  The Enemy wins because we don't want anyone to know the real me. Guess what?  That one dynamic prevents us from having a deeper relationship with our adult children. On this "Best of The Parent Pivot Podcast," Steve and Julia openly share how being authentic about our lives with our adul...