The Parent Inspiration Podcast

Come learn the second two ways to be a best friend to yourself: 1. Stand up for you and have your own back 2. Embrace all of you

Come learn the first two ways to be a best friend to yourself: Listen to you  and Be kindly compassionate and comforting to yourself  We can access wisdom rather than just criticism.

Are we using our inner critical voice or are we using our compassionate inner voice as if we were talking to a close friend?  We are always with ourselves in our head giving ourselves running commentary on everything.  We can learn to have a more positive relationship with ourselves and be there to support and comfort when we need it.  

After a challenging moment with our kids, we can rewind and replay in our own minds what we think may have been going on for them leading up to the problem.  We can share our "rewind and replay" with our kids to better understand and know how to move forward.   

Get inspired with a doable easy idea for remembering our child's most important moments and sending messages to their future self!

Come learn the #1 thing we crave from our loved ones and what our loved ones crave from us.  

When our kids spew out lava like responses, we can look deeper inside their figuartive volcano to see the magma brewing underneath.  These hidden layers help us understand better and these moments are golden opportunities for connection.      

We can be stretched so thin with all the work we need to get done and all of our kids' bids for attention to play.  So this episode is throwing out all the parent guilt and celebrating ways we can connect and hang out as well as what the best parenting books say about giving our undivided attention to play.    

Come learn from Dr. Mona Delahooke who is a clinical psychologist with 30 years of experience in her book Brain-Body Parenitng.  She will help us know how to co-regulate with our emotional tone of voice and compassionate presence. The acronym LOVE can remind us what to do in the heat of the moment.

Continue to learn from clinical psychologist Dr. Mona Delahooke in her book Brain-Body Parenting about the 3 steps to go through when a child is in the red or blue pathway and how "checking in" can be more helpful than doing a "time out." 

This is the first of three episodes on Dr. Mona Delahooke's (child psychologist) amazing book Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids.  Today we discuss three pathways we and our children fluxuate between all throughout the day. 

Here are concrete ways we can help our kids exercise their pre-frontal cortex (area of the brain directly behind the forehead) which is the center for things like sound decision making, control over emotions and body, empathy, and morality.  

Any time we can ask our kids to convince us or problem solve or come up with a solution it helps them turn their frustration into exericsing their pre-frontal cortex.  Here's an example of a real Star Wars battle we had in our family and what helped us to conquer through it.

Come learn from The Whole Brain Child book about the downstairs brain and the upstairs brain to better understand your child, their development, and their reactive responses! The upstairs brain of pre-frontal cortex is the center for sound decision making and planning, controlling emotions and body, self-understanding, thinking before acting, empathy, and morality.  No wonder it's difficult for ou...

Here's an idea for a bedtime ritual that is so bonding and fun! One of my favorite traditions.

Come learn more about communication mistakes during the phase 1 of a child's three brain phases during upsetting moments and how you can respond to help them.  "Connect and redirect" can be a great strategy in the heat of the moment.  Connection instead of correction. 

The In Love While Parenting App describes the communication mistakes we parents can do when our child is in phase 1 (of the three brain phases during an upsetting moment).  Today we will learn the good things to do during phases 1 as well!

When our children or ourselves are really upset we go through three phases... the primitive brain phase which is really reactive, the cool down phase, and the logical brain phase. Sometimes both parent and child are in the phase 1 together at the same time but we can calm ourselves down and think more clearly and calmly to better guide our kids with empathy.  

Having our kids share their stories and put experiences in a seqence helps them move from a highly emotional brain state to a more logical brain state.  

Research says finding words to label and articulate our feelings actually calms down our mind and body.  Labeling up to three can get past the surface emotions and get to the underlying emotions.  

Today we learn about the long term unhappiness chemical in our body - cortisol, also known as the stress hormone.  Feel empowered to ask your kids, your partner, those closest to you what their small and big worries are so you can better understand and support them.  

Come learn about the long term happiness hormon Oxytocin which is best produced by building deep bonds with our loved ones.  On this podcast you will learn what researchers from the app In Love While Parenting share is the number one way to build these deep bonds.  The answer may surprise you!