The Not On My Watch Podcast

The body always catches up! Despite our best efforts to grind it out or to suppress traumatic events, our physical bodies eventually reveal the hidden impact of stress. In a deeply personal episode, Jeff and Rochelle discuss in practical terms what it means for the body to keep the score. Prompted by a previous article written by Rochelle on the topic, this episode dives into more detail about an...

Alarmingly, there is a growing trend among people, groups, and even organizations to silence others who may disagree with them.  In some cases, this behavior is used in an attempt to cover up abuse or misconduct. Oftentimes, these tactics are employed in such subtle ways that those who experience their effects are rendered powerless in the moment. In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle discuss some of...

With the arrival of each new year there is an almost unhesitating acceptance of the reality that our world will continue to grow more complicated. New technologies, discoveries, and much more content than you and I could ever consume leave us feeling overwhelmed with the growing complexity of our world.  In too many cases, the Church has surrendered to this unfortunate tendency. But what if Jesus...

We’ve all heard it!  Especially during this time of year.  “People need to stop being so political!”  What if we as parents need to start being MORE political?  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle make the biblical case for why every parent needs to talk to their kids about politics.  As pleasant as it sounds, you will not find the case for an apolitical stance in Scripture.  If we want to equip ou...

It’s time for parents to start talking!  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle discuss the implications of the staggering statistic that 43% of parents NEVER talk to their kids about their faith.  But all is not lost, because parents can reverse this trend by taking some things seriously.  Jeff and Rochelle identify key components that must be present between parent and child if the faith of one gene...

Some lessons become strikingly clear when you are placed in a position for which you have no other option other than to experience them in tangible ways.  These lessons certainly fall into that category!  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle discuss what they have learned from experiencing homelessness.  While they still have a roof over their head, Jeff and Rochelle discuss their experience without...

The harm that cell phones inflict on this next generation is well documented, causing many parents to wish they had waited.  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle give a glimpse of what life is like with another cell phone user in the house.  Listen in, as they discuss their “no regrets” decision to delay cell phone usage and the results that this one choice can have on the home and the health of you...

The world we live in is harshest to those most vulnerable among us, our kids.  So how do we shepherd the hearts of our children when they are increasingly surrounded by wolves?  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle continue their “No Regrets” series as they discuss the monumental task of shepherding our children as they navigate an increasingly dangerous situation.  Tune in, as they discuss courageo...

Standing for the truth is never easy and often comes with a price.  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle continue their discussion of what will often happen to a person who decides to stand for godly convictions.  Since one episode is not sufficient to cover this topic and since many people are experiencing this reality in greater measure, Jeff and Rochelle discuss three surprising responses someone...

In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle share some very exciting news as they give an update about the ministry and their family.  Listen in as they share details that have been in the works and how you can be involved.  As doors open into a new season of increased effectiveness, the Not On My Watch message will continue to impact families, homes, churches, schools, politics, and everywhere God continu...

Being a person of conviction requires the willingness to continue to stand even when others don’t.  In part two of their “No Regrets” series, Jeff and Rochelle discuss how standing for their convictions even when they’ve paid the price is NEVER a decision they will regret.  Standing for what right is never popular nor easy but it is ALWAYS the path that followers of Christ must take.  In our world...

In our quick-fix culture we are constantly on the lookout for the silver bullet that will give us the immediate results we’re looking for.  Whether it’s our health, parenting, marriage, or finances, we are in a desperate search for instant outcomes.  The reality is that our lives reflect COUNTLESS decisions that have had a cumulative impact.  In this new series called, “No Regrets” Jeff and Rochel...

For the past 15 years, researchers and ministry leaders have been warning of the reality of a 4% Biblical worldview facing the next generation if nothing is done to reverse course.  Well, that time has come, and this is the current reality facing American Christianity.  What is the cause?  Is this emerging generation simply less interested in spiritual matters?  The answer may surprise you!  In th...

The war on parents is real!  From strategic efforts to remove traditional family language from common use, the outsourcing of parental responsibility to the “professionals”, to the crumbling of parental consent in a variety of arenas, moms and dads find themselves in the crosshairs of a significant spiritual battle.  However, we are not helpless.  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle discuss the spe...

During a recent ministry trip, Jeff was surprised to be able to connect with his high school football coach from twenty-five years ago!  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle discuss the impact of that encounter and what every next generation influencer can learn from this legendary coach.  Great leaders and mentors understand that influence has no expiration date!  The same can be true with you.   S...

The words we speak are never neutral, benign, or harmless rendering the rhyme we learned in kindergarten false.  “Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me!”  Not only can words hurt us, but what comes from our mouth has the potential to kill or to give life.  Scripture goes so far as to identify our words as either poison or fruit.  The good news is that we get to choose...

Taylor Swift has once again captured the headlines with her extremely popular new album called, “The Tortured Poets Department.”  More than just an entertainer or musician, Swift has become a cultural icon, gaining a cult following.  How are parents, grandparents, and next generation influencers supposed to respond to her recent release?  Is there merit to these concerns or do they just reflect ju...

We often discuss the research of cell phone usage among our kids.  However, for this episode, we wanted to hear what a teenager had to say about this important topic.  Join us, as we interview our 14-year-old daughter to talk about the positives, the negatives, and even what age SHE thinks kids should get a cell phone.  Oh, and she may or may not be excited about actually getting a cell phone.  Tu...

When it comes to the prayer life of our children, there is nobody more qualified to teach them than you.  But how do we teach them?  Where do we start?  When can we find the time to do this?  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle answer these very questions as they discuss how we have the incredible privilege and an urgent mandate to teach our kids how to pray.  This is truly one of the greatest life...

Everybody needs this one thing because the world we walk into every day is often not safe or friendly.  When a person lacks a safe haven, they’ll be nomads looking everywhere to fill that void.  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle discuss the need for a safe place and what this type of environment even looks like.  If this is a place that we NEED to return to each day, then how do we go about creat...

Is there really a secret to a happy marriage?  Yes! And in this episode Jeff and Rochelle discuss just what that secret is.  If every married couple were to genuinely pursue THIS one thing, their marriage would never be the same.  No, it is not matching bracelets or tattoos…although both are discussed in this episode.  Tune in to find out what this secret is because it doesn’t have to remain out o...

You have undoubtedly heard the sentiment that marriage is hard.  In fact, this thought is one of the reasons why many people are less inclined to get married.  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle take some time to debunk this myth and offer an encouraging perspective that breathes fresh hope into the marriage relationship.  No!  Marriage does not mean that you will be caught in a never-ending cycle...

As a parent, how do you respond when others ask awkward questions about the gender of your children?  Is there such a thing as gender disappointment?  If so, what do we do about it?  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle address what has been considered a touchy subject.  However, using humor and Scripture they shed light on a topic that brings honor and value to both genders while equipping parents...

As parents who desire to pass down a vibrant faith to our children, we are not content for them to simply be good moral citizens.  How can we raise children who possess a resilient and passionate faith?  In this episode, Jeff and Rochelle discuss what every parent must do and be if they are to raise worshippers who refuse to settle for the status quo of religion.   Show Notes: Visit our website: n...

Unfortunately, our kids are not exempt from the possibility of experiencing church hurt in some way.  As much as we would like to shelter them from this harsh reality, we cannot always protect our kids from the very real pain that can occur inside the Church.  How can we as parents navigate these troubling and disturbing waters so that our kids love for the Church and Jesus remains strong even in...