The Mindful Rancher

What wants your attention? How do you know that it needs attention? How does it respond when you give the attention needed? We can't give attention to everything but our lives can be so much better when we give attention to the things that are needed. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

Are you open to others' comments? So often we will say that we are open to comments and we will request feedback but then our behavior makes it so emotionally expensive to others that they are unwilling to share. Taking the time to consider the emotional cost of our reactions can help us create communication climates where communication is open. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

What are limiting beliefs? When we take the time to become aware of the way we view the world and how it feels to view the world in that way we will uncover our limiting beliefs. The thoughts that cause us to feel constriction will often be the beliefs that are limiting our lives. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

The S-curve of learning is one thing that we can use to help us understand disruption. When we decide to disrupt a typical pattern, we jump on to a new S-curve, and if we stick with it, we will go through each stage of inexperience, engagement, and mastery. What S-curve do you want to be on? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

How often do you look at the things that are not working in your life? How often do you attempt to transform them into something that is working? How often do you evaluate that transformation attempt? This is the work of a friction audit, finding the things that are not working and figuring out ways to change them into something that is working. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

Have you ever accomplished a big goal and then felt so let down afterward? How did you feel about setting goals in the future? It's easy to focus all of our energy on one goal; we often need to do that to accomplish big things. But what can we do so we still feel motivated afterward? One option is to write our goals as master narratives or lifestyle visions and see what we can accomplish from...

Consistency really matters - it creates really good or really bad results but either way, it creates results. What do you want to be more consistent with this week? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

Empathy. Understanding how someone else feels. Believing that they feel that way. Respecting their experience might be different from ours. Learning empathy is an incredible skill. It expands our understanding of experience and helps build trust. Where can you be more empathetic this week? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

How do you build trust? What are the things that contribute to more trusting relationships? One of the main elements of trust is transparency. When things are clear, easy to see, and unambiguous it is easier to have trust in them. How can we be more transparent to build more trusting relationships? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

Where do you have empty space in your life? Is there empty time in your calendar? Is there any empty drawer in your kitchen? Is there an empty shelf in your garage? We often have the tendency to fill space but could we find a way to value empty space? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

We all see others react differently to situations. These reactions on often fueled by what each person is thinking or saying to themselves about each situation. Think about how you react to situations. What are the things that you need to hear to be able to respond to that situation? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

What can we do when we find ourselves drawn toward suboptimal choices? Following some research on pigeons, we might consider choosing to do harder things, spend time outside, be more active, and eat natural food to help us be less drawn to ward these behaviors. Let's give it a try! Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

Feedback. Do you get it? Do you want it? Do you give it? How is it received? We can all improve how we give and receive feedback. Doing a little work on ourselves before and after we receive tough feedback can help us bounce back and adjust as needed to make the most of that feedback. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

It's so easy to look back at who we were in the past and be critical or unkind but we have the option to write a story where we are kind to our past selves and they are kind to us. The same is true when we think of who we will be in the future. Think about having a conversation with your future self. What do you think they would say to you? Would it be words of criticism or encouragement? Webs...

We will often have experiences when we dream up big things and others tell us we cannot accomplish them. It's a big reason many of us never try to accomplish them. We sometimes even tell others that they cannot accomplish their dreams. Maybe it's fear, maybe it is a lack of capacity, and maybe it is true knowledge but what ever the reason I think we need to consider the things we have been...

Have you ever made a positive change in your life and it felt like your whole world fell apart? This is what positive disintegration feels like. We make changes that are positive but it takes a while for our brains and lives to catch up. And in that lag time, it feels horrible. Our brains need time to adjust to knew knowledge that we receive. Time to let those old mental patters break down and tim...

What is play? What is work? What is play work? There are so many things that we do at work, for a break, for down time, for distraction, or to just feel busy. But when we do those things we are not always accomplishing the things that need to be completed. These play work tasks still exhaust us and they still take time but they don't accomplish the things that we need to get done. When we can...

Feeling like we belong at work is so important. It allows us to get more done and to be happier. Finding ways to feel like we belong can be a struggle in some workplaces. If we can take the time to consider the stories we tell ourselves about our work, coworkers, and the company we work for, we can choose stories that create actions that allow us to build belonging. Another important aspect is to...

It's fun to watch people work who feel their job is a calling. They seem to be able to go the extra mile effortlessly. If we want to be happier at work maybe we can learn a thing or two from them. What are the things you love doing at work? Is there a way for you to be able to do more of those things? The experiments that we run based on the answer to these questions are how we can all craft o...

Self-compassion is characterized by 3 parts - mindfulness, common humanity, and kindness. Can we notice our experiences and our feelings and then be willing to be in that experience or feeling? Can we see that mistakes, failure, and imperfection are part of the human experience? Can we be kind to ourselves? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

What is your definition of productivity? Is it filled with tasks, minimum inputs and maximum outputs, busyness, and often rushed? Or do you feel like productivity is defined by calmness, completion, planning, and support? How we define productivity can affect how we feel at work. Rethinking productivity allows us to create the workplace we want. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

We all want to be happy at work but sometimes work can be a struggle. We know that we will experience some negative emotion at work and we should. How will use that negative emotion? In this episode we explore the practice of RAIN for helping ourselves use negative emotions better. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com

Have you ever tried to run new software on a really old computer? Can you imagine running software that you use today on the computer that you used in junior high? For new software to run well, we have to upgrade our hardware. The same works for our life. If we think about hardware as the systems in our lives - our time management system, our planning system, or our mindset. If we take on new task...

So often the way we think has built an invisible fence around the life that we have - keeping the things in that support that same way of being and keeping things out that would change it. Sometimes we have the right invisible fences in place and sometimes we need to change out our invisible fences. Take some time to discover the way your invisible fences are keeping you stuck and training new inv...

Sand - it's simple and yet doesn't grow plants well. Dirt - it's complex and supports so much growth. Situations in our lives can be like sand or they can be like dirt. We often wish for simple straight forward situations but they don't support growth the way a complicated situation can. How can you find a little more acceptance for the growth promoting situations in your life? Web...