The Loving Truth

If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake at 2 a.m. wondering, “Should I stay or should I go?”—this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, we unpack the quiet crisis happening in modern marriages, especially for women in midlife who feel stuck between staying and leaving. Despite endless relationship advice, books, and podcasts, many are still feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, and unsure of...

What happens when your life choices make other people uncomfortable? In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we explore the emotional weight of judgment, especially in the context of divorce and choosing a path that others don’t understand.  When you step outside expectations, people often rush to assign roles, form opinions, and decide who’s right and wrong. But the real cos...

What happens when you and your partner are in business together and your relationship starts to break down? For founder couples, the stakes are far greater than most people realize. It’s not just about saving a marriage. It’s about protecting a business, a livelihood, a team, and the life you’ve built together. In this week’s episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we unpack the hidd...

Modern marriage isn’t just struggling—it’s being reshaped in real time. In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we unpack the “perfect storm” of three powerful cultural forces that are quietly redefining our most intimate relationships:  The erosion of attention The rise of artificial intimacy through AI Rapidly changing expectations within marriage The truth is, many couples...

Are you doing all the right things in your relationship — but still nothing changes? In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we explore two often-overlooked forces that determine whether a relationship grows or quietly falls apart: endurance and self-honesty. Building on the foundational idea that strong relationships require emotional, relational, and growth capacity, we div...

Most couples blame relationship struggles on communication issues. But what if that’s not the real problem? In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we’re unpacking a powerful (and often overlooked) truth: It’s not just about how you communicate. It’s about your capacity to stay open, connected, and willing to grow. Because here’s the reality: You can love someone deeply, and...

When your relationship feels hard, staying grounded matters more than ever. We’re not entitled to a good relationship. If it’s good, it’s because we created it. In this episode, I share two simple habits that change how you show up. First: protect the first hour of your day. Start with yourself, not your phone, email, or the news. Build calm reserves through something that grounds you, like medita...

Wonder what really destroys marriages? It isn’t an affair or money… it’s disconnection.  It builds slowly through a million little hurts, like laying bricks until there’s a wall we can’t see over.  When things are good, you notice the rumble strip and course-correct with time together, honest talk, and touch.  If you missed the rumble strip and you’re in the ditch, expect it to take patience and m...

Stress doesn’t stay at work. It follows you home and seeps into your marriage. In this episode, I share a real example of a couple whose stressful roles were quietly creating impatience and distance between them. We explore a powerful exercise: identify the three things you truly need to feel fulfilled — no more than three — and protect what makes you come alive. When you recognize that you’re mak...

"Our triggers are our responsibility." Sharon Pope In this episode, I talk about that feeling of taking two steps forward and one step back in your relationship.  I explain why triggers are personal, often rooted in childhood, and why we have to own them. We can't control everyone around us, but we can change the meaning we give to their behavior.  Real listening and presence are rare right now. W...

Change is something we all resist. It's uncomfortable, unknown, and goes against our basic human nature. In this episode, I explore why we tend to wait until our relationships are in total crisis before we’re willing to do the hard work of being vulnerable.  Drawing on back-of-the-mind wisdom from Esther Perel, I explain why we have less incentive to change when things are good, but far less creat...

I’m sharing the two best, and least used, relationship tools I know. We didn’t get a class on this, so most of us are winging it. And no, I’m not teaching voodoo Jedi mind tricks to change your partner. This is about making it easier to be in relationship with you. The first tool is validating your partner’s experience, even when it’s different from yours. That builds trust and safety. Validation...

I’m talking about when relationships end, not just marriages, but family ties and friendships. More people are going no contact as we learn what’s healthy and set boundaries, but I remind you that “health resides in the middle.” Sometimes we need distance. Sometimes our seasons of life just don’t match. I share the three core skills that keep long-term relationships alive and how communication tie...

In this episode, I get honest about knowing divorce would be hard and then discovering what’s actually hard once you’re in it. I talk about co‑parenting as the biggest pain point. Why you can’t control an ex but you can influence, and how two different parenting styles can actually help your kids. I share a simple mindset shift and a practical fix for communication: add structure, like a monthly c...

A morning meditation with Wayne Dyer stopped me in my tracks: "...Freedom does not come from avoiding the pain. It comes from walking through it with your heart wide open." In this episode, I share a simple three-part path for moving through marriage challenges with courage. First, I separate facts from my thoughts and choose the story that serves me. Then I ask better, braver questions that revea...

In this episode, I unpack “monkey barring,” which is reaching for the next relationship before you’ve let go of the last. It often looks like cheating, but it’s really about fear, codependency, and avoiding hard conversations. We use an affair like an emotional safety net because being alone feels scary. I name how affairs distract us from the real problems at home and how easy it is to get hooked...

I’m breaking down how to know when your marriage is in real trouble, using a TV moment that felt all too real: a late‑night “We need to talk,” an “I’m not happy,” and a packed bag by the door. By the time someone says I’m not happy, things are already serious. That phrase is vague, blaming, and usually too late. Many partners brush it off, not because they don’t care, but because they don’t know w...

I’m unpacking emotional adulthood through a client’s story. I challenge the idea of “make it work.” We can aim higher than a marriage that doesn’t suck.  I walk you through naming your unspoken rules, keeping only the few that matter, and actually saying them out loud. Your thoughts create your feelings, not your partner. The thing that once made you laugh only became annoying when your thought ab...

Your coach isn’t your bestie. And that’s a good thing. When you admit your marriage is in trouble, you need love that sees your blind spots, challenges your excuses, and won’t let you settle. I share a Q&A moment where a woman wanted a pep talk about reconciling while still in an affair. I paused and chose the truth: “I could make you feel better, but I kind of don’t want to.” I called her higher,...

In this episode, I share a client story where her husband secretly put a tracker on her car, and how tempting it was to tell him off or file a restraining order. We walked through what those reactions would actually accomplish. Not much. They don’t change the past and they can harm co-parenting and her peace. She chose a different path. She chose to protect her peace and stay steady toward a peace...

In this final episode of the Us Unfiltered: Behind the Beautiful Life series, I explore what “having it all” really means — and why a beautiful life on the outside can still feel empty when your marriage isn’t getting the care it deserves. We talk about the difference between success, happiness, and true fulfillment, and how easy it is to give our best to work and our kids while offering only crum...

In this episode, I talk about why desire fades — and why it’s not gone, just buried. Buried under busyness, emotional distance, resentment, and the weight of responsibilities. A lack of sex isn’t the problem; it’s the symptom. I break down what desire really needs (safety and aliveness), how routine and predictability smother intimacy, and why familiarity dampens passion over time. You’ll learn th...

In part three of Us Unfiltered, I explore how power dynamics quietly shape a marriage: who leads, who decides, who sets the tone. These patterns usually come from what we saw growing up, and without realizing it, they create a one-up/one-down dynamic that erodes trust and connection. Too much independence can turn partners into high-functioning roommates instead of a true team. I talk about why ev...

In part two of Us, Unfiltered, I talk about what silence really costs inside a marriage. Avoiding hard conversations feels easier in the moment, but over time it erodes your voice, your connection, and the safety between you. The space between you fills with assumptions, resentments, and quiet loneliness. Avoidance hides in busyness, sarcasm, over-functioning, or shutting down—and underneath all o...

In this first episode of Us, Unfiltered: Behind the Beautiful Life, I speak to high-achieving couples who appear successful on the outside yet feel disconnected at home. Life is full, you’re doing everything “right,” but the closeness you want has faded behind the busyness. Achievement builds strong skills, but connection requires different ones. And the habits that help you excel — control, effic...