The Loving Truth

I’m breaking down how to know when your marriage is in real trouble, using a TV moment that felt all too real: a late‑night “We need to talk,” an “I’m not happy,” and a packed bag by the door. By the time someone says I’m not happy, things are already serious. That phrase is vague, blaming, and usually too late. Many partners brush it off, not because they don’t care, but because they don’t know w...

I’m unpacking emotional adulthood through a client’s story. I challenge the idea of “make it work.” We can aim higher than a marriage that doesn’t suck.  I walk you through naming your unspoken rules, keeping only the few that matter, and actually saying them out loud. Your thoughts create your feelings, not your partner. The thing that once made you laugh only became annoying when your thought ab...

Your coach isn’t your bestie. And that’s a good thing. When you admit your marriage is in trouble, you need love that sees your blind spots, challenges your excuses, and won’t let you settle. I share a Q&A moment where a woman wanted a pep talk about reconciling while still in an affair. I paused and chose the truth: “I could make you feel better, but I kind of don’t want to.” I called her higher,...

In this episode, I share a client story where her husband secretly put a tracker on her car, and how tempting it was to tell him off or file a restraining order. We walked through what those reactions would actually accomplish. Not much. They don’t change the past and they can harm co-parenting and her peace. She chose a different path. She chose to protect her peace and stay steady toward a peace...

In this final episode of the Us Unfiltered: Behind the Beautiful Life series, I explore what “having it all” really means — and why a beautiful life on the outside can still feel empty when your marriage isn’t getting the care it deserves. We talk about the difference between success, happiness, and true fulfillment, and how easy it is to give our best to work and our kids while offering only crum...

In this episode, I talk about why desire fades — and why it’s not gone, just buried. Buried under busyness, emotional distance, resentment, and the weight of responsibilities. A lack of sex isn’t the problem; it’s the symptom. I break down what desire really needs (safety and aliveness), how routine and predictability smother intimacy, and why familiarity dampens passion over time. You’ll learn th...

In part three of Us Unfiltered, I explore how power dynamics quietly shape a marriage: who leads, who decides, who sets the tone. These patterns usually come from what we saw growing up, and without realizing it, they create a one-up/one-down dynamic that erodes trust and connection. Too much independence can turn partners into high-functioning roommates instead of a true team. I talk about why ev...

In part two of Us, Unfiltered, I talk about what silence really costs inside a marriage. Avoiding hard conversations feels easier in the moment, but over time it erodes your voice, your connection, and the safety between you. The space between you fills with assumptions, resentments, and quiet loneliness. Avoidance hides in busyness, sarcasm, over-functioning, or shutting down—and underneath all o...

In this first episode of Us, Unfiltered: Behind the Beautiful Life, I speak to high-achieving couples who appear successful on the outside yet feel disconnected at home. Life is full, you’re doing everything “right,” but the closeness you want has faded behind the busyness. Achievement builds strong skills, but connection requires different ones. And the habits that help you excel — control, effic...

I’m challenging the question, Am I a terrible person?  I explain why that question keeps you stuck in shame and judgment. I offer better questions: How is this serving me, and how is it not? I walk through real examples, like not wanting to stop an affair and withholding love from a good man. We look at the short-term hits and the real costs, including risk, stress, kids, family, and how avoiding...

I share the story of a woman who followed my work for 10 years before she reached out, hoping the next blog or podcast might fix her 20-year marriage. Once we finally worked together, she and her husband became more connected than ever. I talk about why we wait: saying it out loud makes it real. The unknown feels scary. We hope things change on their own. We want a guarantee. We worry. We don’t kn...

I’m breaking down what no-fault divorce is, why it’s more recent than most people realize, and why it isn’t the villain. Laws don’t destroy marriages. People do. What really ends marriages: Neglect Shutting down Avoiding hard conversations Blaming instead of owning our part Getting defensive Invalidating each other Turning love into a transaction Not listening And finally, indifference. A no-fault...

In this episode, I break down the difference between therapy and coaching without making one better than the other. Therapy helps you understand how you got here. Coaching helps you decide where you want to go and how to get there. We talk about timing, momentum, and why most couples wait too long to ask for help. I share when to choose individual or couples work, and why one person showing up dif...

I know it’s easy to get caught up in life and forget to prioritize your marriage. But the truth is, nothing thrives when you turn your back on it. We’ll invest in Botox, hair appointments, and our businesses—but expect our marriages to somehow take care of themselves. A healthy, connected relationship takes time, attention, and consistent effort. It’s not about perfection; it’s about showing up an...

Sometimes you have to be the one to step forward in your marriage—even if it doesn’t feel fair.  Many women ask, “Why should I be the one to do the work when he’s the one with the problem?” But someone has to nudge the relationship into motion. If you’re the one uncomfortable or ready for change, it may have to be you. I also talk about the role of the victim and how staying passive keeps you stuc...

This week, I want to share an experience from a couples’ weekend immersion I led. Watching a marriage transform over just a few days reminded me why I do this work. One person can absolutely create change in a relationship. When you show up differently, your partner responds differently, and a new dynamic emerges.  This couple came in scared, angry, and on the brink of divorce. By the end of day o...

All progress begins from telling yourself the truth. It’s easy to fall into confusion when faced with tough decisions, especially in relationships. But sometimes, the confusion we feel isn’t real. We pretend not to know the answers because we fear the work it will take to face them. It’s much easier to stay in the comfortable discomfort of not knowing, even when deep down, we do. The truth is, our...

I was recently a guest on Suzi Dafnis’ HerBusiness podcast, and we had an amazing conversation about the challenges women entrepreneurs face. I share why it’s so important to prioritize yourself. As business owners, we’re often pouring from an empty cup. The solution? Start with a daily practice that tells yourself, “Me first, then everyone else.” I explain how doing so not only boosts your well-b...

Divorce isn’t just the end of a marriage, it’s the loss of a dream, a role, and often a piece of who we thought we were. Healing means allowing yourself to grieve fully without rushing, then noticing when grief has shifted from fuel to a crutch. It’s about asking yourself honest questions, moving your body, and resisting the urge to fill loneliness with another relationship too soon. Getting your...

Guilt is something so many of us wrestle with, especially in our relationships. For a long time, I thought guilt was useless because it’s tied to the past. But now I see it differently. There’s healthy guilt—the kind that nudges us to make amends, apologize, or do better next time—and that can help us grow. Then there’s unhealthy guilt, the kind that has us taking responsibility for things we can’...

Relationships are rarely simple and binary thinking—believing things are either right or wrong—can harm your marriage. Human beings are complex, and so are our needs, desires, and perspectives. You can love your partner deeply and still recognize that the relationship isn’t meeting your needs. You can set boundaries and still be a kind, loving person. You can enjoy your sexuality, assert yourself,...

Deciding what to do in a marriage is never simple, especially when you’re questioning whether your partner’s “all in” effort is real or just words. I walk a member through how to recognize that personal growth starts inside, and real change isn’t just mental—it shows up in consistent action. We also tackle the challenge of delivering a separation or divorce decision when your partner reacts with t...

Heartbreak is hard, even when the relationship you leave behind wasn’t healthy. We hold onto stories about the person and the relationship, but those stories keep us stuck. To heal, you have to see what is real. Look at the facts and be honest with yourself about why the relationship ended. Write it down, reflect, and ask yourself what worked, what didn’t, and what this is teaching you.  Heartbrea...

When your partner gives you advice on how to love or live, it can sometimes feel like an invitation to grow. But it can also mask manipulation. One listener shares how her spiritually focused husband tells her she doesn’t know how to love and is not living in her true self. I explain how these comments often reflect his own projections, not her reality. I talk about how we can learn to trust our i...

“ Healing after an affair is possible. It’s just really hard work. But so are most things that are really important to us. ” I’m sharing my two-step process for healing after an affair. I want you to know that while healing can be incredibly difficult, it’s absolutely possible. The first step is what I call “stopping the bleeding.” This is when we focus on addressing the immediate trauma and the d...