The Long Bearded Guy with Gordon D Melville

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  I think all of us at one time or another have searched out or googled information for a "life hack" to get us through some kind of situation at home or work. We sometimes want an easier, quicker way out, or through to our goals, at times pushing out the full experience that the journey through would provide us with. We want a short-cut, or a quicker way o...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  Over the history of time the roles of men & women have been modified in many ways, especially in the last 60 or 70 years. But even with all that positive change, increased awareness & role models, better than 40% of men feel they are considered weak & are embarrassed if they talk about their mental awareness struggles. That's tragic when coupled with the...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  How long are we as a society going to allow men's mental awareness challenges to be just swept under the rug? How long are we going to continue to choose to abdicate our own responsibilities around addressing men's mental awareness? How many men are we willing to sacrifice, who choose to give their souls back to Papa; while we bury our heads in the sand a...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville It's been said that hindsight is 20/20, and it only takes seconds to glance back. But it also requires courage! There is a reason that the rear view mirror in our vehicles is small, but the windshield is big! While where we are going is much more important than where we have been, it is still important to know where we have been for many reasons. But, whil...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville Malcolm X wisely stated "If not now then when, if not me, then who?" before his untimely death February 21st, 1965. We have established the "who" I believe, it's each of us! The question of when do we pay attention to our emotional intelligence is the burning part of today's episode! Obviously, the very best time to pay attention to our emotional intellige...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  On our adventure to intentionally grow, there will be many times when we will falter, and even question ourselves on what the heck we are doing. It's in these moments when we will need the support from the tribe we have built around us who love & care about us! We are not islands who can function completely on our own, we were not built that way. We need...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  Mastery of anything requires dedicated focus & concerted effort for a long period of time, and emotional intelligence is no different! It has been said that mastery of any subject needs 10,000 hours of practice. We spend our whole lives in the pursuit of mastery of our emotional intelligence! Some to a greater effectiveness & proficiency than others to be...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  Let's be honest, control of any sort is a complete illusion! If you have children or pets you know what I speak of! Controlling ANYTHING outside or what WE think or do is just not a real thing. This is especially true when it comes to emotional intelligence. If we can't control 'self' in an emotional intelligence space, how can we possibly expect to be ab...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  Boots on the ground! We need to be aware, educate ourselves, measure what we want to grow, and motivate ourselves with memes, music, GREAT podcasts (like this one!) & the like, but at some point we need to have the "Audacity of Doing"! We must execute our plans to increase our emotional intelligence! If we do not execute our plans, then what is the point...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  It's often said that if we don't measure it, it's just not a priority at the levels we believe it to be! If we desire improvement in anything we need to measure it, and our emotional intelligence is no different! What we measure, gets better! Why? Because energy flows where attention goes! So then the million dollar question is, how do we apply that conce...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  This topic of Emotional Intelligence is such a huge one, that attempting to educate oneself about it all in a few short episodes of a radio show, podcast or TV show would be folly! To truly educate ourselves at a mastery level takes a lifetime of intentional effort & focus! That being said, the path to educate on emotional intelligence at a mastery level...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  When it comes to intentionally growing ourselves & our emotions, it begins with Awareness! Awareness of ourselves, our experiences, the situations we find ourselves in at the moment & where our emotional state is. How do we become aware of or analyze our false or limiting beliefs around our emotional selves? Is our awareness being restricted by the way we...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  When it comes to our emotional intelligence are we truly giving it the attention it deserves & requires of us? With much respect, I submit to you that most don't even come close! Being able to have & recognize levels of, or lack thereof emotional intelligence can be a HUGE game changing advantage in life, relationships of all kinds, business, as well as l...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  We hear the buzz words Emotional Intelligence all over the place these days, but what do they really mean? Is it all that really? What IS Emotional Intelligence? Why has it become such a critical concept & life skill for each of us to master? How do we evaluate or measure our own Emotional Intelligence? Can we even? What steps are involved to improve our...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  So often we believe those around us who tell us we can't, we aren't smart enough, will never be capable enough, not talented or beautiful enough, don't know the right people or will never have enough resources. We also believe that when WE tell ourselves those lies too! We use those thoughts as excuses to never try. Our excuses will be protection our shad...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  How do you define mistakes? Do you believe wisdom is a by product of our mistakes or that you simply failed? If we are convinced that wisdom comes from mistakes, than why are you so afraid of them? True wisdom is derived from experiences; good, not so good & otherwise. Learn to embrace mistakes & pull the wisdom from them & move forward! Learning nothing...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  Do you have a lifetime covenant with yourself for intentional personal development? If so, why? If not, why? Why would you? To what benefit? A lifetime can be a long time! A covenant is serious business! What is preventing you from having a lifetime covenant with yourself to intentionally grow? Choose to challenge yourself & join Gordon D Melville, The Lo...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  A giant, life changing transmutation of a long standing paradigm of mine, that has caused a lot of suffering, angst, pain & monumental slow down in my own success can be attributed to playing safe! Playing small & playing safe go together, same as same & playing safe IS playing small! Why do we do this to ourselves? It is illogical & self sabotaging & we...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  So, you might be asking yourself what is 'The Long Bearded Guy' talking about when he says "F.A.P. - First After Papa'? Well, he is happy you asked! If you were reared the same way he was, than you were taught an "ALL others come first' type of philosophy, meaning yourself after the rest of the world! Even to your own detriment! After 54 years of doing ju...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  Seeds need the rich soil or dirt around them to be as good as it can be for them to have optimal growth fuel so they can become what they were meant to be. We are exactly the same! Garbage in, garbage out so to speak! What growth fuel soil are we surrounding ourselves with? Our growth fuel choices are a very good predictor of where we are headed, short &...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  I truly can be, have & execute anything I want & so can you! So often we attach our jobs or what we do to our identity & who we believe we are, and that is highly detrimental to achieving our success. Separate them, unhinge those two concepts because they do not belong together! That then poses the natural question, "Who do I want to be?" That answer sign...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  Just under one week into a new year & I am charting & tracking on a new path, reinventing myself again, as I am intentionally manifesting this year's success! The rest of my life's experiences based on my choices & decisions have all been the ongoing upfront payments that I have paid and will continue to pay for the success of my year! To set me in the ri...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  As another years comes to a close, and we look ahead to another incredible year perfect in every way, blemish free, for now, I want to put some perspective & weight on the words & language we use. Do we pay any attention to the words we use & how we use them as a part of the language we use daily in our communications with others & especially with ourselv...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville  This time of year many folks are hustling & bustling with all of the last minute types of activities we are all doing! You know, shopping, gift buying, meal planning & grocery store shopping, extra house cleaning so our relatives don't give us a hard time, decorating and so much more! How often though do we stop & just have an attitude of gratitude for wh...

The Long Bearded Guy ~ Gordon D. Melville Do you often feel there is more for you in your life? Reinventing your life & creating a big breakthrough is possible! My guest today, Austin J Haines is the author of the upcoming book called 'Flashpoint - Manifesting the Moment of Your Big Breakthrough'. While we all have defining moments in our lives, there is a big breakthrough or something Austin call...