The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

Society teaches us that certain traits should go with certain genders, and we have traditionally been programmed to accept those—but in reality, they aren’t always accurate. Not to mention one person’s idea of a trait that’s traditionally masculine or feminine won’t be the same as another’s. So how do we reframe the way we think about masculine/feminine traits and roles in relationships, regardles...

You gotta admire those older couples who have been married for a billion years and still seem blissfully happy. It seems pretty amazing and inspiring. But if you ask them, they’ll surely tell you they’ve had their issues—maybe even some significant ones. In this week’s episode, I talk to Harville and Helen, who have been married for quite a while, but they almost got divorced. They’ve been teachin...

It can be easy to talk about commitment in a partnership and going “all in.” But what does that look like in the day-to-day? It’s important to know when you’re in a relationship that you and your partner are both 100% committed, and in order to know that, you have to take a look at what that means. In this week’s podcast, Ellen and I give our perspectives on the subject and our answers to this gre...

Can you be your authentic self in a relationship and allow your partner to do the same—while accepting the differences? This concept is called differentiation, and it’s very important in relationships because it affects a lot of relational elements. For this week’s podcast, I welcome back Ellyn Bader, Ph. D. to discuss these concepts and share her wisdom gathered over years of working with couples...

Conflict is almost always a growth opportunity, and you’re going to experience it in every relationship. But is it possible to have too much conflict in your relationship? If so, how do you know you’ve reached that point—and what can you do about it? Check out this week’s episode, where Ellen and I give our perspectives on the subject. Useful Links:  https://www.relationshipschool.com/trainin...

How does your career tie into your core values, happiness, and life path? Is it “just a job,” or should it be something you find truly fulfilling—and how can you determine exactly what you’ll find fulfilling? In this week’s episode, I talk with career coach, speaker, and author Ashley Stahl—whose experience working in national security led her on a journey toward discovering her own career purpose...

How can you know whether to continue or end a relationship? It’s a big and difficult decision, one that many couples experience. For Anya and Bodhi, their love keeps them together, but they also aren’t moving forward. Check out this week’s episode for my coaching session with this couple and learn my advice for them. Useful Links: http://rs.com/training https://www.gettingtozerobook.com/ https://r...

Last week we covered how to get back to a good place. This week we continue with part 2. As humans, we can’t avoid conflict. We all say and do things we regret later on...and it’s super easy to start blaming the other person when you’re upset. But there’s one thing you can do—and it’s detailed in my book, Getting to Zero—to start the repair process. I talk about it in this week’s episode, and even...

Do you find it tough getting back to a good place after conflict in a relationship—the place where you feel connected and content? It’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of conflict, but the good news is that you can master resolution skills in your important relationship(s). You can learn to get back to that healthy place. It’s something we all have to work on—in fact, when I wrote my book, Getting to...

Since it’s a huge part of relationships, I talk quite a bit about conflict and how to work through it. In fact, my new book, Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships, will be releasing in a few short days! So in this week’s podcast episode, Ellen and I talk more about the book and how it came about, plus some of our own conflict challenges and how we’ve dealt...

What do you think of when you hear someone mention self-soothing? Maybe some coping behaviors you learned as a child or have seen children exhibit? Sometimes those behaviors can carry over into our adult lives (glass of wine after a rough day...or zoning out in front of the TV/game system, perhaps). But how do those self-soothing behaviors fit into adult relationships—or should they at all? This w...

What’s your mindset when it comes to taking care of your body? If you get injured, do you just let a professional (physical therapist, chiropractor, surgeon, etc.) try to fix the problem? Or do you take a proactive approach where you apply effort to your body in order to avoid repeating the injury or getting a new one? Your mindset can mean the difference between growth and keeping yourself in con...

Fathers in today’s culture are often expected to do more and be more than in the past—and it can be a challenge. At the same time, fatherhood can be an integral part of your spiritual growth and vice versa. It might feel like each segment of your life is in its own little box, but the reality is that they all affect each other even if we don’t realize it. Join me for this week’s episode as fatherh...

What’s the difference between coaching and therapy—and how can you tell which one you might need? Actually, both serve a specific purpose and can work together depending on your needs. Check out this week’s podcast episode, where I break down the differences and the reasons you would seek out coaching versus therapy.   Useful Links: http://relationshipschool.com/mrc https://www.gettingtozerob...

Maybe you feel like you might be codependent (or at least have the tendencies)...which might mean you’re codependent-ish. Did you know that’s a thing? If you’d like to learn more about what it looks like, check out this week’s podcast episode. I talk about just what it means to be codependent-ish and help you discover whether you might be. Tune in to the full episode below for more.   Useful...

When you’re in a relationship, it’s important to choose your partner— daily. As men, we often have been programmed to deal with things a certain way (or not deal with them at all), and we most likely expect our partners to do the same. But in order to have a successful relationship, it’s crucial to choose your partner over what you may want in the moment—whether that would be running away or shutt...

Parenting is an important subject, as we all know—whether you are a parent or have only been parented. Regardless, parenting and family dynamics affect us all in some way. In this week’s episode, Ellen and I share the six best parenting tips we’ve gathered in our experiences and our studies that will help you navigate relationships with your children, your parents, or even other adults. Listen to...

Marriage and relationships require give and take on both sides. But what if you feel like you’re giving a lot more than your partner is—or vice versa? How do you get past the conflict and competition aspects of a relationship and reach a place where you can experience a balanced, more fulfilled relationship? Check out this week’s episode where I talk to Nate Klemp, author and marriage anthropologi...

Navigating money fears in relationships can be a big source of conflict, but finance guru Garrett Gunderson has tons of knowledge to help. As with anything in life, balance is key. In this week’s episode, Garrett and I talk about finding that balance and following a path of growth by learning from your past. Mindset is a great place to start, and Garrett shows how balancing your mindset can affect...

As men, we sometimes aren’t sure how to show love for our partners in a way that makes them feel loved. We stick with what’s comfortable for us. Check out today’s podcast episode for one mindset shift to help men show love and care to that special person. Useful Links: http://relationshipschool.com/mrc  

If you’re a parent, you know that bringing a new human into your life is a drastic change. It can be difficult to maintain a balance with your own needs, the needs of your partner, and the needs of your baby, especially for the first few years. If you and your partner aren’t prepared, it can also be problematic for the parent-child relationship. Listen as I talk with Dr. Stan Tatkin and Kara Hoppe...

Spiritual growth and relational growth are both important to experience. But where do the two intersect? It can be difficult to bring your experience and discomfort into a relationship as it is; how do two people learn to do this as a unit? In this episode, my wife, Ellen, and I discuss the reason individual spiritual work can’t always fix relational problems and how to keep from getting stuck as...

Where do power and pleasure overlap in a relationship—or do they? Both power and pleasure can have negative connotations, but as coach Shana James and I discuss, feeling empowered in a relationship can lead to pleasure for you and your partner. Learn how knowing yourself and being in touch with your body can actually provide more pleasure for your partner, both in and out of the bedroom.  &nb...

Spiritual well-being can be an amazing thing… But is it stunting your personal growth? This week, Psychotherapist Robert Masters and I talk about the dangers of spiritual bypassing, and why it’s so prevalent in today’s wellness culture. To learn more about spiritual bypassing, and how you can avoid it, tune into my recent podcast.   Useful Links: http://relationshipschool.com/training http://...

Have you ever watched parents and wondered “WTF is going on there?”  Lol. Me too.  My wife and I do our best to try to help parents be a team. It can be very hard, especially when it’s often a “divide and conquer” approach due to our busy lives. I get it. there’s a place for that.  But many parents fall into “roles” and traps inside their marriage.  In this episode we cover one...